Bill “Papa” Lee Posted March 29, 2020 Posted March 29, 2020 11 hours ago, USU78 said: When my youngest was two, she had strep. It happens. At the end of the antibiotics run, I was holding her as she got hotter and hotter. And then I saw it: a small lump appeared on her throat that grew and grew as a watched. We took her into emergency in Layton, with me convinced it was some kind of fast moving, virulent cancer. The ER folks didn't know what it was or what to do. They advised us to take her down to Primary while they called ahead. No bus ordered. When we got to Primary, I handed my baby girl to a doc in green scrubs, and I watched her little face over the doc's shoulder as he took her away, and I just knew I'd lost her. A couple of hours later, the same doc came to us to tell us that she'd been about five minutes away from a very large abscess from an infected tonsil reaching her heart, whereupon she'd have died from sepsis. Such a painful experience. And I can't imagine how awful to lose an adult child. I'm so terribly sorry. Prayers. I am so sorry that anyone ever has to lose someone, but loosing a child is a violation of the natural order of things. Parents are not supposed to bury children, I pray for the day when such things are done away. 1
juliann Posted March 29, 2020 Posted March 29, 2020 No no no. This is heartbreaking, I'm so so sorry. 1
USU78 Posted March 30, 2020 Posted March 30, 2020 We exercise hope, having faith in G-d's Grace, that He will ultimately make good everything we lose as life keeps taking chunks out of us, and we do our best to be kind and loving in the meantime. It's impossibly hard, yet we can do nothing less than try. 1
mtomm Posted March 30, 2020 Posted March 30, 2020 I am so sorry that you have to experience this profound loss. I hope you find comfort. 1
Popular Post Jeanne Posted April 1, 2020 Author Popular Post Posted April 1, 2020 My love and gratitude to all of you in these heartfelt condolences. Someday I can give more detail to the situation. To read her obit. Go to Tooele Transcript Bulletin. Andee Joy Duncan. Other than a breeze, the weather is Rush Valley was just perfect. And the service with songs from both my brothers and poem by her cousin...then I let people say something. But I know Andee thought her mother was a hoot at being one of the pallbearers..and why not??? I carried her first.🙂 Thank you everyone!!!! 6
Calm Posted April 1, 2020 Posted April 1, 2020 (edited) Unfortunately it requires signing up to read it. The service sounds lovely. Edited April 1, 2020 by Calm 1
Tacenda Posted April 1, 2020 Posted April 1, 2020 40 minutes ago, Jeanne said: My love and gratitude to all of you in these heartfelt condolences. Someday I can give more detail to the situation. To read her obit. Go to Tooele Transcript Bulletin. Andee Joy Duncan. Other than a breeze, the weather is Rush Valley was just perfect. And the service with songs from both my brothers and poem by her cousin...then I let people say something. But I know Andee thought her mother was a hoot at being one of the pallbearers..and why not??? I carried her first.🙂 Thank you everyone!!!! She's beautiful, I love her name! I love that you were a pallbearer! ❤️
Storm Rider Posted April 1, 2020 Posted April 1, 2020 Our first born, Jesse Cohen, passed away from SIDS at three months. It took a long time to get over. Our pain came from the potential lost for son that was dreamed of for years. I always felt that the pain would be even more acute for those that actually got to know their child. Regardless, I offer my deepest condolences for your loss. When I read her name, I had to smile. Our son is buried next to a little boy named Andy Jack. I thought there was some symmetry there. God bless you and keep you. This parting is but for a short time, though there will be times when it seems like an eternity of deep pain while in this mortal life. 1
katherine the great Posted April 1, 2020 Posted April 1, 2020 2 hours ago, Jeanne said: My love and gratitude to all of you in these heartfelt condolences. Someday I can give more detail to the situation. To read her obit. Go to Tooele Transcript Bulletin. Andee Joy Duncan. Other than a breeze, the weather is Rush Valley was just perfect. And the service with songs from both my brothers and poem by her cousin...then I let people say something. But I know Andee thought her mother was a hoot at being one of the pallbearers..and why not??? I carried her first.🙂 Thank you everyone!!!! Andee looks and sounds like a lovely, independent, creative person. She reminds me a bit of my own Andi. I worry about her nonstop but need to let her be her own person. I pray you will be sustained through this terrible trial. Hugs Jeanne! ❤️ 2
Rain Posted April 1, 2020 Posted April 1, 2020 5 hours ago, Jeanne said: My love and gratitude to all of you in these heartfelt condolences. Someday I can give more detail to the situation. To read her obit. Go to Tooele Transcript Bulletin. Andee Joy Duncan. Other than a breeze, the weather is Rush Valley was just perfect. And the service with songs from both my brothers and poem by her cousin...then I let people say something. But I know Andee thought her mother was a hoot at being one of the pallbearers..and why not??? I carried her first. I love this. I'm so glad you got to do it. 5 hours ago, Jeanne said: 🙂 Thank you everyone!!!!
RevTestament Posted April 2, 2020 Posted April 2, 2020 On 3/27/2020 at 10:04 AM, Jeanne said: I lost her yesterday. Everyone hug your kids. She was my 41 year old baby girl and now she is with her Dad. Don't know what to do with this....it is a loss like no other. Jeanne I have only been on this forum a few short years, but I count you as a friend, and I hate to see friends hurt. You have a beautiful and compassionate heart. I thought for a few seconds that I might lose our second son - the pain at watching him struggle was acutely intense - like no pain I had ever endured, but when we got him to the ER, I said a little silent prayer, and all the sudden I had a great calm - I knew he was going to be OK. I know your daughter will be OK. She will greet you again one day soon. I have only been a pall bearer once - it was for my paternal grandfather. I recall the waves of emotion sweeping over me - he was a lot like a dad to me - and a tear finally worked its way out down my cheek. That tear was a tear of pain, but also a tear of honor. It was an honor to know him and an honor to serve him in his passing to his next estate, and I wouldn't trade it for anything. I still have a pair of his shoes - he wore my size - and I think about all the happy times we had when I wear them, and try to honor him when I do so. I am glad you got to honor your daughter by bearing her a second time as her pall bearer. 1
USU78 Posted April 5, 2020 Posted April 5, 2020 (edited) On 4/1/2020 at 11:37 AM, Storm Rider said: Our first born, Jesse Cohen, passed away from SIDS at three months. It took a long time to get over. Our pain came from the potential lost for son that was dreamed of for years. I always felt that the pain would be even more acute for those that actually got to know their child. Regardless, I offer my deepest condolences for your loss. When I read her name, I had to smile. Our son is buried next to a little boy named Andy Jack. I thought there was some symmetry there. God bless you and keep you. This parting is but for a short time, though there will be times when it seems like an eternity of deep pain while in this mortal life. Had a near experience with SIDS. My best friend's older sister, who happened to be my favorite high school teacher (English ) lost an astonishingly beautiful redheaded baby girl to SIDS. It was as though she was a gift capriciously taken back. They had named her Caprice Angelique. Her mother still mourns daily almost 40 years later. Edited April 5, 2020 by USU78
Storm Rider Posted April 6, 2020 Posted April 6, 2020 5 hours ago, USU78 said: Had a near experience with SIDS. My best friend's older sister, who happened to be my favorite high school teacher (English ) lost an astonishingly beautiful redheaded baby girl to SIDS. It was as though she was a gift capriciously taken back. They had named her Caprice Angelique. Her mother still mourns daily almost 40 years later. It takes a very long time to get over. The void is never filled, but in some ways we become accustomed to it and in others, we learn to faithfully look forward to a reunion. I found him in his crib and immediately had a reassuring feeling that this was both a choice and the will of our Father. I had dreamed of that little boy since before my mission; knew he would be our first born and had visions of all the things we would do together. We who lose a child through SIDS lose the potential of what could have been. Those parents that lose adult children painfully lose what was known and cherished. Both are extremely painful. I just keep looking forward to a reunion. Thank you for sharing your story about Carice Angelique. 1
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