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I was right. This site loves me best.

I hope you get a chance to relax soon…or at least engage in activity that is rejuvenating for you. Seems like it’s been one thing after another for you for awhile now. And that your and your wife’s life has more joy and less struggle for you both.

I assume you are thinking given the women’s experience with church leaders, first pretty much ignoring complaints and substantial evidence and then the higher authorities placing confidentiality for the predators over resolution (healing) for the women who were their victims, that telling these women to “stay the course” when they likely feel the leadership hasn’t is problematic. Nude pictures were published and apparently not denied as fake or stolen. Why is that not definitive? (Serious question, not a challenge) added: never mind, I found an article that said he denied it, calling the claims and photos a political hit job. Maybe I missed that in the video: https://www.thedailybeast.com/home-wrecked-wife-slams-swinger-trump-endorsed-candidate-mark-lamb/ Kind of shocked there is no mention on his wiki page.

I never log out, so it makes sense it happens on occasion just to doublecheck. I might start logging out and in if it can guarantee only when I log in.. I am pretty sure I accept cookies from here.

Hopefully you will check back in but on the Bot thread Nemesis says….

Interesting. Never occurred to me to think of it that way***, but now you say that, I can imagine a lot feel as you do on this. ***I am guessing because for me “sibling” has never equated to “closeness” as outside outside of one sister in the last 35 years, my relationships with my siblings aren’t ones I see as “close” which I see as confidants, best friends. I have had very few close relationships in my life. I have always loved my siblings, but for the most part even as kids once we were going to school, we lived our own lives. Our interests have always been very different.

In what way?

It loves me, I guess. I haven’t had to do it except for the first few days. I have to verify I am not a not a robot with a checkmark in the general vicinity of an alleged box (I often can’t see one) if I have not been posting or reading for awhile. I do still lose posts if I am too long in responding. Sometimes it’s in the buffer, sometimes I hit submit and it’s like it never existed, but it still doesn’t do the verification until a few more clicks. That is extremely frustrating. Do you stay signed in?

That may be because they want to avoid awkwardness (someone who doesn’t know them might misunderstand or it just feels too intimate outside of the context of church) rather than they don’t think of them as “brothers” or “sisters” for the same reason they call others that. It isn’t something I have discussed with other LDS, but just assumed though because of our constant referencing of everyone being a child of God. I act differently, more relaxed with my sister who I text with constantly, who stays with us whenever visiting Utah (we think of the spare room as pretty much her bedroom) than I do with a sibling who has pretty much disowned the family except for their own sweet children (none of us understand why), but both are still my family, so it’s understandable to me why there would be different comfort levels even as we see everyone as family. I suppose you could describe it as we most often use “brothers” and “sisters” for those of our greater family with which we are on friendly terms, but I speculate it’s mostly influenced by the church context. If someone comes to church, we get into the habit of calling them “brother” or “sister” and continue to think of them in that way outside of church…unless we use first names. added: somehow I missed several posts, including webbles’ which gives another POV than mine, I am now reading them. One thing I have learned over the years is while we members often assume we are doing and thinking the same things, there are often significant unseen differences. A lot of people in and out of the Church assume we are pretty much cookie cut when that is more a like a top layer of similarity, imo, because we are encouraged not to be contentious, to be loving and accepting and that gets interpreted into no questioning or debating (and given how debates occur in much of the public sector, it’s reasonable imo to want avoid them). I think based on my personal experiences of talking to other Saints here and elsewhere that a lot of us do the same things for different reasons and when it comes to nuances in our belief, quite varied even if the basic stuff sounds the same.

Perhaps Longview is thinking of the “one being” part of “one being, three persons”. That seems to be what most LDS in my experience focus on.

Would be helpful to know what then Elder Oaks meant by “a personal God”. I am assuming he means a God who is a person, meaning some sort of individual that interacts with humanity and other aspects of the universe. But apparently he is right according to Google (not familiar enough with enough faiths to not depend on “search”). Supposedly those who see God as more guiding principle, force or energy or something that does not intervene/interact with humanity include Christian Scientists, Christian Deists, some more liberal Quakers***; supposedly Process theologists do, though I want to check that as just because God changes as he interacts with the universe doesn’t need to require he be non-personal, just a redefinition of what personal has traditionally meant….seems like Google is confusing a rejection of some of the traditional beliefs about God with a rejection of all of them. (Yep, googled erred there, I am so shocked!!!…not) ***since Quakers have no creed, there is likely a huge variety of beliefs beyond the fundamental core beliefs held by various Quakers. From actual Quakers: https://quakerspeak.com/video/what-do-quakers-believe/ https://www.discoveringquakers.org.uk/blog/exploring-quaker-experiences-that-of-god-in-everyone

LDS would probably (meaning I say this and am assuming most of my fellow Saints would as well or at least agree if asked if true) say “God is bound by his own word, by his promises and his laws”. We might debate (I don’t know how many would agree or disagree with me on this) whether or not it is strictly his choice to be bound by laws though. (I lean towards it is his choice, but that is today…hit me tomorrow with the same question and I might say ‘God is God because he understands and obeys the laws of existence so well’). Are they his laws because he created them or his because he affirms and uses them so well to achieve what he desires for himself and others? https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/82?lang=eng&id=p10#p10

Everything in life ultimately does (channeling Mfb).

That would depend on what they believe “brother in Christ” means. To me, it’s another sincere Christian, whether they have the same covenants as I have or not, so there would be no need to cringe. But that is also not how I personally use “Brother” or “ Sister”. I don’t add in my head “in Christ” on to it. Would you cringe if someone spoke to you in Spanish (I am assuming you understand it even if you might be more fluent with English)? Why would you cringe if people say Brother or Sister with a different interpretation than you if you understood what they meant even if it’s not what you would mean if they said it? LDS think of all mankind as part of God’s family. I believe that is how we generally view why we call each other “Brother” or “Sister”. Any time I use Brother or Sister, it’s how I mean it…which means pretty much everyone who has ever existed fits that title. I think I might choose not to use it for sons of perdition, who knowingly have rebelled against and rejected God, basically disowning themselves from his family, but otherwise I feel comfortable using it for anyone as long as they are comfortable with me calling them that. Added: I don’t believe Joseph Smith limited his use of Brother and Sister to only church members, but I am going off a vague memory. Maybe someone else who is more familiar with his comments can confirm or correct me.