ERayR Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 I'm appalled. Missionaries who married someone they met on their mission were clearly not focused properly on the work. I would never have done something like that. Oh, wait, I did. I must confess I didn't go on a mission. I married a very young girl I met at a Grange dance. Graduated high school in May, married in October.
ERayR Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 (edited) I see 13 yr olds in "relationships" and I stutter if there is a female clerk while I am ordering at Burger King! 55 years ago my 14 year old girl friend did not stutter when she told me how many kids we were going to have. I argued and she said you will see. 45 years later she looked me in the eyes and said "I told you so". Edited July 31, 2015 by ERayR 3
jkwilliams Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 I must confess I didn't go on a mission. I married a very young girl I met at a Grange dance. Graduated high school in May, married in October. Wow, and I thought I was young (22) when I got married. Just had our 28th anniversary.
Guest Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 I'm appalled. Missionaries who married someone they met on their mission were clearly not focused properly on the work. I would never have done something like that. Oh, wait, I did.The missionary who confirmed me, met his wife in my apartment in Germany, they started dating at BYU, and now both have P.H. D's and five children. The Elder later became my son's professor at Weber State and assisted with the blessing of his first child. Go figure...
JAHS Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 My wife's mission president actually asked the sister missionaries if there was any elder they had taken a liking to and he woud set things up so they would be in the same district. Fortunately my future wife didn't find anyone there (Spain). She and I came home at the same time (me from Austria) and met at a Stake conference where we both gave short reports on our missions along with some other RMs. We dated for a few months after that and got married a year after returning home from our missions.
ERayR Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 I knew a missionary that sent his future bride home to his parents 3 months before the end of his mission.
Avatar4321 Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 Not seeing a problem here.it's not as if they started dating on the mission. President monson shared how he invited former missionaries from the mission he presided over specifically to encourage them to get to know each other.Not seeing a problem.
thatjimguy Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 Turning 30 next month, I feel my chances of finding a girl in her 20s to be dwindling, but finding a sweet RM girl would be nice. At this point though it doesn't matter if a girl is an RM or not, I'm just trying to find a Mormon single girl. I'm 45 and been stuck at BYU-Idaho for the last five years. I feel your pain.
Mola Ram Suda Ram Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 I-80 exists to convince people to stay away from Wyoming. It's our secret weapon.Little America is part of that program. That is a counterfeit little America. Ha. I know some one that works there from time to time. I happen to be related to him. He was just telling me that he hates going there.
Jeanne Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 On all that I read here so far..I will just say "okay"..but wonder how happy these couples really are.
strappinglad Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 Why?Ya, like the chances of hitting it off with someone you have NOTHING in common with are SO much better. 1
nosmelone Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 Left on the Mish late at 22 and returned at 24 and married my previous girlfriend three months later. While I was on my mish she served one as well. I was in Kentucky while she was in Arkansas. She already had purchased a California king sized bed for us before I had returned home (I'm 6'3 so I prefer longer beds). So I basically walked off the plane straight into wedding planning. Its been the best non-decision I've ever made. We are going on our 15th year married and have a 4 crazy kids. although I haven't reached the ripe age of 40 I am already looking forward to the empty nester days! 1
Jeanne Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 Why?Because there wasn't time to get to even know themselves or learn to have a life of their own before they get married. How much do they know about each other if the don't know themselves? There is a person inside there that is adjoined to church..yet separate. In other words, without the church, would some people even like each other?
Avatar4321 Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 I learned much more about myself while learning to serve my wife than I did all the years before we married. 3
Duncan Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 I'll be honest I find it gross when people under 20 get married
Popular Post Calm Posted July 31, 2015 Popular Post Posted July 31, 2015 (edited) Because there wasn't time to get to even know themselves or learn to have a life of their own before they get married. How much do they know about each other if the don't know themselves? There is a person inside there that is adjoined to church..yet separate. In other words, without the church, would some people even like each other? How is this different from meeting a person at work or any other group they participate in? How old does one have to be to "know themselves"? I am finding that I have to get to know myself over again quite a few times in my life when there have been significant changes. For example, I am having to get to know myself as a caregiver of seniors this past year even though I can draw on my experience with my grandparents 30 years ago. I know 70 year olds that I think don't really know themselves as they aren't realistic about their relationships with others, otoh I know some teens who have set realistic life goals for themselves and who stick to it and are quite successful (now in their 30s) and who always communicated very well with others. Not all the couples reported on married instantly after mission. Are those who waited but still married someone they met on their mission still problematic in your view just because it was a church environment they first met in? My mother in law came to Canada and got engaged to my father in law after they met when he served his mission in Australia, they dated long distance, he drove up a few times from Utah for actual face to face encounters, met those of the family that had moved to Utah (she was older than 18 so was on her own, had been a WAC or whatever they had called them there during the war) and they got married as soon as he got his BS. They were married till they died, though they had issues from time to time, they were as happily married as anyone I've seen. Edited July 31, 2015 by calmoriah 6
Garden Girl Posted July 31, 2015 Posted July 31, 2015 Left on the Mish late at 22 and returned at 24 and married my previous girlfriend three months later. While I was on my mish she served one as well. I was in Kentucky while she was in Arkansas. She already had purchased a California king sized bed for us before I had returned home (I'm 6'3 so I prefer longer beds). So I basically walked off the plane straight into wedding planning. Its been the best non-decision I've ever made. We are going on our 15th year married and have a 4 crazy kids. although I haven't reached the ripe age of 40 I am already looking forward to the empty nester days! I've got news for you... it never ends... and, in this day and age more and more young people are staying in the home (parents can carry them on health insurance under Obama-care until they're 26 for goodness sakes). And, because of the employment situation, many young couples/families have moved back home with parents and are living in the basement...My nephew is 22 and he still lives at home and has no desire to leave. Why should he? He's a hard worker and I think he contributes to the household, but he still has it very comfy... GG
Jeanne Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 I learned much more about myself while learning to serve my wife than I did all the years before we married.Good one...and I am sure you would love and serve her with great care even if she had questions she left the church or just had questions.
halconero Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 Wow. That's below the belt.Is my ability to love my brother, be his best friend, enjoy his boxing matches, and talk with him across the country every other day limited by the fact that he left the church?Seriously, who the hell are you to 1) question people on their own personal development at whatever age they do or do not get married, or 2) their ability to love and cherish family whatever their spiritual circumstances? 2
Jeanne Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 How is this different from meeting a person at work or any other group they participate in? How old does one have to be to "know themselves"? I am finding that I have to get to know myself over again quite a few times in my life when there have been significant changes. For example, I am having to get to know myself as a caregiver of seniors this past year even though I can draw on my experience with my grandparents 30 years ago. I know 70 year olds that I think don't really know themselves as they aren't realistic about their relationships with others, otoh I know some teens who have set realistic life goals for themselves and who stick to it and are quite successful (now in their 30s) and who always communicated very well with others. Not all the couples reported on married instantly after mission. Are those who waited but still married someone they met on their mission still problematic in your view just because it was a church environment they first met in? My mother in law came to Canada and got engaged to my father in law after they met when he served his mission in Australia, they dated long distance, he drove up a few times from Utah for actual face to face encounters, met those of the family that had moved to Utah (she was older than 18 so was on her own, had been a WAC or whatever they had called them there during the war) and they got married as soon as he got his BS. I appreciate and understand your point. This is true. But I wonder if sometimes a "hurry up" influence from the church to marry soon has any enfluence.
Duncan Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Wow. That's below the belt.Is my ability to love my brother, be his best friend, enjoy his boxing matches, and talk with him across the country every other day limited by the fact that he left the church?Seriously, who the hell are you to 1) question people on their own personal development at whatever age they do or do not get married, or 2) their ability to love and cherish family whatever their spiritual circumstances? who were you responding to?
rodheadlee Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Wow, and I thought I was young (22) when I got married. Just had our 28th anniversary. Wow, and I thought I was young (22) when I got married. Just had our 28th anniversary.My wife was 17, I was 19 , had never heard of the church yet. We celebrate 42 years this November. 4
BCSpace Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 (edited) I totally called it! http://www.missiongeek.net/2015/07/we-met-on-the-mission/ I do believe the Church had this in mind as well. Marriages and young families are an underlying cornerstone of hastening the work. The numbers of RM's not marrying or not marrying in the temple was catastrophic. What better way to get young people together than to serve together while at the same age? Edited August 9, 2015 by BCSpace 1
mbh26 Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 I wonder if the tone during the mission has changed from the incessant, "Lock your heart," talks. Perhaps the Brethren have stumbled onto a way to encourage a happier and healthier way to live Mormonism. Trying to be like the rest of the world and wait until you're 30 to marry hasn't been working out to well.
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