I know how you feel. Our family has a big rip right down the middle. I could surely use the help of the other half right now. My wife got sick from hanging out in the hospitals for 12 days with my 91-year-old father. She's having a really rough recovery. I would be totally lost if this sickness takes her.
My life is poop right now. Dad got out of Post Acute Care Wednesday afternoon and he has pooped 16 times since then. He's barely ambulatory. It's always a rush to get him to a portable commode or to his bathroom, then to get it all cleaned up. I hope he levels out soon. He has a catheter too. so it makes the wheel chair/walker runs interesting. I didn't get any sleep last night and I got about two and a half hours this morning.
Good luck with your family, there is no chance of reconciliation with my family.