Sis. Patricia Holland (wife of Elder Holland) has passed away.

[smac97]

https://www.abc4.com/news/local-news/religious-leader-elder-hollands-wife-passes-away-at-81/

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The wife of Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, an apostle for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, passed away on Thursday, July 20 at age 81, according to the Church.

Patricia Terry Holland died “peacefully” after a “brief hospitalization,” the Church reported. The funeral arrangements are still pending. Information on the cause of her death has not been released.

Patricia (Pat) Holland was raised in southern Utah milking cows and working on the annual potato harvest. She was raised in the Church and later served as a counselor in the Young Women General Presidency, according to the press release.

Pat Holland met Jefferey Holland at Dixie High School, describing him as “the handsomest boy in the school.” They were married in 1963 in the St. George Utah Temple after five years of dating.

She is survived by her husband, three children, Matthew, Mary Alice, and David, and her thirteen grandchildren.

“Pat will be remembered for her commitment to faith and service and for her love of family,” the release said.

My condolences to her family.  What a wonderful legacy she has left behind.

Thanks,

-Smac

[Raingirl]

I just saw this elsewhere online and immediately came here. My immediate, reflexive thought was”Oh no!”.

My thoughts and prayers go out to Elder Holland and the rest of the family. 

[pogi]

I am concerned about how this will affect his own health issues.  It is my experience from working in hospice that when someone in poor health has their spouse pass away, their own health often declines rapidly afterward.  I hope that is not the case with Elder Holland.  His calling as apostle hopefully gives him further cause and purpose to continue on the fight, and I'm sure he has plenty of good social support.   Prayers for Elder Holland! 

[Calm]

8 minutes ago, pogi said:

I am concerned about how this will affect his own health issues.  It is my experience from working in hospice that when someone in poor health has their spouse pass away, their own health often declines rapidly afterward.  I hope that is not the case with Elder Holland.  His calling as apostle hopefully gives him further cause and purpose to continue on the fight, and I'm sure he has plenty of good social support.   Prayers for Elder Holland! 

My second thought after reading of her death.  Happened with my mother-in-law.  Mom lasted almost 5 years though, but her health took a massive hit.  She had dementia though, which had a big impact on her self care.

Edited July 20, 2023 by Calm

[Thinking]

I was at BYU when Jeffrey Holland was the president. It was common for them to roam the campus and interact with students. Every time I saw her she was smiling.

[jkwilliams]

The “Pat and Jeff Show” at the beginning of the academic year was always a highlight when I was at BYU. They both seemed to really care about the students. You could feel it. Such a good woman. 

[Tacenda]

I loved Pat Holland, and feel she was the good woman behind the good man, hope that's okay. I recently saw a special with both of them and it didn't feel like she had any issues, in fact I felt she was young for her age, so this is quite a shock and saddening at the same time. 

[sunstoned]

RIP sister Holland.

[Tacenda]

This is what Elder Holland posted on FB for their anniversary recently. 

Jeffrey R. Holland 

 

 

In the final steps of creation, our Heavenly Father said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Then, with the imagery of a rib taken out of Adam’s side—“bone of [his] bone, and flesh of [his] flesh” would describe their unity—He created a woman whom Adam named Eve, “because she was the mother of all living.” (See Genesis chapters 1–3.)

I wouldn’t presume to know all that was happening that day in the formation of a woman and the unfolding of the plan of salvation. What I do know is that same Heavenly Father looked down on Jeff Holland and knew profoundly that I needed a “help” (or “helper”) that was “meet” (or “right”) for me. So He created Patricia Terry and gave her to me, more than a “helper” and more than “right.” She would, in fact, be the “mother of all living” in our little world of the Holland home, but she would also become life itself to me—my life, my help, my hope, my everything. As with Eve, my Patricia would be the final creation, the ultimate statement, the pinnacle of my life’s purpose. Surely God looked upon her and saw not that “it” but rather “she” was “very good.”

Pat and I are celebrating our 58th wedding anniversary today. Nothing in this world (or out of this world) means more to me than to know that I can have 58 more with her, then 5,800 more, then 58,000 after that. I couldn’t imagine life in time or eternity without her. For more than half a century, she has been “the mother of all living” in my world, my reason to keep living, to keep trying, to keep growing. She has given life and growth to all whom she has met and served in her Church and community, to say nothing of the teaching and shaping she has given to our children, Matthew, Mary Alice, and David. They are also “very good,” and she is the author of their faith.

To say that June 7 is a celebration at our house is an understatement. If you promise not to misunderstand, I will say it’s more like a worship service and a special Thanksgiving combined. I am eternally grateful for the “helper” that God knew was “right” for me. Pat, happy anniversary!

 

 

 

 

 

[Raingirl]

7 hours ago, Tacenda said:

This is what Elder Holland posted on FB for their anniversary recently. 

Jeffrey R. Holland 

 

 

In the final steps of creation, our Heavenly Father said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Then, with the imagery of a rib taken out of Adam’s side—“bone of [his] bone, and flesh of [his] flesh” would describe their unity—He created a woman whom Adam named Eve, “because she was the mother of all living.” (See Genesis chapters 1–3.)

I wouldn’t presume to know all that was happening that day in the formation of a woman and the unfolding of the plan of salvation. What I do know is that same Heavenly Father looked down on Jeff Holland and knew profoundly that I needed a “help” (or “helper”) that was “meet” (or “right”) for me. So He created Patricia Terry and gave her to me, more than a “helper” and more than “right.” She would, in fact, be the “mother of all living” in our little world of the Holland home, but she would also become life itself to me—my life, my help, my hope, my everything. As with Eve, my Patricia would be the final creation, the ultimate statement, the pinnacle of my life’s purpose. Surely God looked upon her and saw not that “it” but rather “she” was “very good.”

Pat and I are celebrating our 58th wedding anniversary today. Nothing in this world (or out of this world) means more to me than to know that I can have 58 more with her, then 5,800 more, then 58,000 after that. I couldn’t imagine life in time or eternity without her. For more than half a century, she has been “the mother of all living” in my world, my reason to keep living, to keep trying, to keep growing. She has given life and growth to all whom she has met and served in her Church and community, to say nothing of the teaching and shaping she has given to our children, Matthew, Mary Alice, and David. They are also “very good,” and she is the author of their faith.

To say that June 7 is a celebration at our house is an understatement. If you promise not to misunderstand, I will say it’s more like a worship service and a special Thanksgiving combined. I am eternally grateful for the “helper” that God knew was “right” for me. Pat, happy anniversary!

 

 

 

 

 

Thank you for sharing that, Tacenda.

I know that even here, Elder Holland spoke of eternity with his beloved, but it’s got to be painful to separated now. 

[Kenngo1969]

8 hours ago, Raingirl said:

Thank you for sharing that, Tacenda.

I know that even here, Elder Holland spoke of eternity with his beloved, but it’s got to be painful to separated now. 

And never would I dare to minimize the pain of that separation.  (I suppose I'm in the "one-cannot-miss-what-one-never-had" category there.  Was Tennyson right when he wrote that "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"? )

For what it's worth, though, I do draw comfort from this, from Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin.  After cataloguing some of his own losses that he feels keenly, and speaking of the Friday of the Crucifixion, he said:

 

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Each of us will have our own Fridays—those days when the universe itself seems shattered and the shards of our world lie littered about us in pieces. We all will experience those broken times when it seems we can never be put together again. We will all have our Fridays.

But I testify to you in the name of the One who conquered death—Sunday will come. In the darkness of our sorrow, Sunday will come.

No matter our desperation, no matter our grief, Sunday will come. In this life or the next, Sunday will come.

 

 

Edited July 23, 2023 by Kenngo1969

[Tacenda]

Here's the video I mentioned earlier and thinking Pat was doing extremely well. Nice video to watch and seeing them discuss their meeting each other, if I'm remembering right and so on. 

 

[Dario_M]

On 7/20/2023 at 11:20 PM, pogi said:

I am concerned about how this will affect his own health issues.  It is my experience from working in hospice that when someone in poor health has their spouse pass away, their own health often declines rapidly afterward.  I hope that is not the case with Elder Holland.  His calling as apostle hopefully gives him further cause and purpose to continue on the fight, and I'm sure he has plenty of good social support.   Prayers for Elder Holland! 

He's quite old allready though. And now he is all alone. He will get a tough time dealing with his loss i guess. 

Edited July 27, 2023 by Dario_M

[pogi]

As was worried, it looks like Elder Holland's health has taken a turn for the worse as he was admitted to the hospital again for treatment and observation. 

https://www.ksl.com/article/50701782/elder-holland-hospitalized-for-treatment-of-ongoing-health-complications-church-says

I like this from his tribute to Sister Holland:

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In the tribute to his wife, Elder Holland said, "There is no end to the love that Pat and I have shared, a love that has made our home feel like heaven and will someday make heaven feel like home.

Some version of this will undoubtedly be found on a wooden plaque in almost every Latter-day Saint home here shortly.  

[bluebell]

28 minutes ago, pogi said:

As was worried, it looks like Elder Holland's health has taken a turn for the worse as he was admitted to the hospital again for treatment and observation. 

https://www.ksl.com/article/50701782/elder-holland-hospitalized-for-treatment-of-ongoing-health-complications-church-says

I like this from his tribute to Sister Holland:

Some version of this will undoubtedly be found on a wooden plaque in almost every Latter-day Saint home here shortly.  

Hubby and I were worried about this as well.   

[Raingirl]

5 minutes ago, bluebell said:

Hubby and I were worried about this as well.   

I was shocked when I saw him at the funeral.  He was brought out in a wheelchair, and needed help getting in and out of a regular chair. He did not look well.  He also left the graveside service early the following day. This makes me very sad. 

[Tacenda]

44 minutes ago, Raingirl said:

I was shocked when I saw him at the funeral.  He was brought out in a wheelchair, and needed help getting in and out of a regular chair. He did not look well.  He also left the graveside service early the following day. This makes me very sad. 

Probably a broken heart. 💔