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[ERMD]

Clinical depression is a consideration.  Most of the time one cannot pray his or her diabetes/heart disease/hypertension/high cholesterol away.  The same goes for depression.

 

My two cents'.

[Garden Girl]

The good thing, W2K, is that whatever you need to cut back on can be done on a temporary basis if you want.  Give yourself a good long rest and then you can consider slowly adding back in some activities and see how things go.  But slowly... is the key to not getting right back in the same situation.

You may even want to rotate certain activities so that you don't go above a certain level but still get to do the things you want...

 

The coastal gray and rainy weather here used to bother my husband when it would go on for days/weeks... to the point that he'd have to leave and visit family in So Cal. The eastern states have had more than their share of cold, rain, snow this winter... none of which helps the Spirit...

 

Spring is on the way... the crocus bloomed, the iris, the wild berry brambles along the highway are starting to leaf out and will soon be full green.... amazing how it makes me feel a renewal... as I shrug off the winter and prepare to bloom again as I embrace the spring.

 

from the other side of the continent... GG

Edited March 28, 2014 by Garden Girl

[Calm]

Cal, you crack me up.  Color coded calendars?  Honey - if it GETS ON THE CALENDAR  -  No, IF I REMEMBER TO BUY A CALENDAR!  Most things get penciled into the kids lunch schedules on the frig   And important things get put into my work calendar.  I am frontal lobe deficient.   That sort of executive functioning is not my strength!  Good for you if you can do it!!!!!  My kids get to do one activity per trimester.  It's just impossible with more than that.  They all chose sports.  My goal for next year is to get to every sports event because it is my joy.  I don't care if I have to cut back hours I work.  And funny you mention Pippi Longstocking... my nickname in middle school was Pippi because of my long braids

Took us six months to get our 'new' calendar one year.  Just because I come up with 'brilliant' ideas…especially when stoned…doesn't mean I can actually put them into action.  But if you haven't one already, may I suggest getting one of those refrigerator mounted calendars.  They are a bit pricey the first time around, but then you can just replace the calendar the next month.  I think mine is a dayplanner and it has a whiteboard area, a little bulletin board at the bottom and a holder for pens and whiteboard markers.  Staples has them. I've tried bulletin boards all over the house for each person…no go, no one does anything but we all do the refrigerator calendar.  Even the dog…well, we mark on that when we feed her.

[Calm]

Clinical depression is a consideration.  Most of the time one cannot pray his or her diabetes/heart disease/hypertension/high cholesterol away.  The same goes for depression.

 

My two cents'.

Listen to the doctor.

 

And don't forget the vit d if you tend not to go outside or use sunscreen a lot.  You might want to get tested because if you are low taking normal doses isn't enough.  They give you massive amounts you take once a week for six weeks.  It is one of the easier fixes, just have to remember to schedule an appt. with the doctor.

 

http://www.webmd.com/food-recipes/vitamin-d-deficiency

[Wants2know]

Thanks for all the help folks.  I am not currently clinically depressed.  But if I get anywhere near there I have no problem calling my doctor and making a therapy appointment.  I have worked out a plan to deal with enrichment, Pres has created a calling for an enrichment coordinator to help with details and planning.  So that's a relief.  I can delegate.  Hubby will be released as soon as Pres feels inspired to call someone else.  Once the new businesses get off the ground and I feel more secure about that it will be fine.  I just needed to vent I guess, and hear pearls of wisdom from all of you.  Some days are just harder than others, and pressures, real or imagined are overwhelming. Good news is that I have a week off next month!  I need to get the house on the market, but at least we all have the time off together!  And yes,  we are a small branch.  About 80 active members, including children.  Life is good and I know this. It's just, well, life.  Some days you forget to put your big girl panties on and need some reminding.  I'm sorry if I worried anyone.  

[Wants2know]

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Edited March 28, 2014 by Wants2know

[ERayR]

I do think A few steps might help you.

 

 

1) Pray to God

 

2) Small steps in all things

 

3) Understanding your strengths and weaknesses

 

4) Strive for greater unity with your family, yourself, God and the church

 

5) Balance in all things

 

6) Awareness

 

Add two more:

 

Postpone everything for two days and get two good nights of sleep.

Then get to the temple and get sealed and things will ease up.

[Wants2know]

Add two more:

 

Postpone everything for two days and get two good nights of sleep.

Then get to the temple and get sealed and things will ease up.

We will as soon as hubby gets clearance from the first presidency!

[readstoomuch]

You could meet with the bishop. Sometimes he will actually tell you that you are doing too much and help make things happen. Try to actually think about what you can do for the Church and keep it to that. Learn how to say no. It doesn`t kill anyone for you to say no sometimes.

[Raingirl]

I am going to offer a slightly different perspective. One that May or may not be appreciated.

First of all, I understand tired. I have MS and I no longer remember what it feels like not to be exhausted. It stinks and doesn't help your point-of-view.

But think about the reasons you are exhausted from a different perspective. Overwhelmed with kid activities? Fantastic! You've been blessed with the ability to have children! Your husband has two callings? You're married to a worthy priesthood holder! Your businesses keep you busy? You have employment!

Your housekeeper only comes once a week? Ehhh....sorry, I can't put a happy face on that one. I would be delerious with joy to have that!

Get some rest. Figure out where to cut back. Go to the temple in whatever capacity (in the year between my baptism and endowment, I would go weekly to sit on the grounds) you can. You DO have time. It is important and it will help.

I'm a convert. I am alone in the church. I have no husband. What (dysfunctional) family I have is thousands of miles away. I've been in my new ward for almost a year and have yet to receive a visit from my VTs. My HTs have been by twice. I was given a calling but haven't actually been asked to do anything. The sisters I have been assigned to VT only want visits during the weekdays and my day goes from 7:00-6:30 five days a week. I'm tired because of a stupid disease. You're tired because you're needed.

The point I am trying to make is - yes, you are exhausted and burned out - but there are wonderful blessings behind all that exhaustion. Your life is blessed and has real meaning.

Figure out where you can cut back. Go to the temple. Get some rest and enjoy your blessings.

[Calm]

You DO have time. It is important and it will help.

 

If they are in a small branch, chances are they don't live close to a temple, so likely don't have time just to stop by and mediate…not that it was a bad idea.

Edited March 29, 2014 by calmoriah

[Raingirl]

If they are in a small branch, chances are they don't live close to a temple, so likely don't have time just to stop by and mediate…not that it was a bad idea.

Unless one lives days away from a temple, there is time to go. However often that may be.

[Garden Girl]

Unless one lives days away from a temple, there is time to go. However often that may be.

 

Raingirl...

I tried to send you a Personal Message but I don't think you have enough posts yet to use the PMs.  I was just going to encourage you and tell you that you need to talk to your Rel Soc pres about being assigned two VTs who will actually visit.  This is important for someone as new as you... and then you need to set a meeting with the bishop and ask him to assign Home Teachers who will actually visit.  I love the ward brothers who are my faithful home teachers.  I'm 73, widowed, alone, no children, nearest family is 2000+ miles away... you don't know the sense of peace I have knowing these brothers and my VTs are there for me if needed.  And our monthly visits are really fun... we laugh and talk, then they leave me with a brief spiritual lesson, and always a lovely prayer.

I appreciated your post here... you gave some good insights from a different perspective.

 

GG 

[Wants2know]

RAINGIRL your words are appreciated.  I'm so fortunate.  GG gives great advice.  HT AND VT are so important and the last thing I would ever give up.  We are about five hours from a temple (Boston). 

[BookofMormonLuvr]

It is OK to say "No." to some things... you are not obligated to do everything everybody requests of you.

[Kenngo1969]

Clinical depression is a consideration.  Most of the time one cannot pray his or her diabetes/heart disease/hypertension/high cholesterol away.  The same goes for depression.

 

My two cents'.

Yeah.  Only worth about a million bucks!  Thanks, Doc!

[ERayR]

I am going to offer a slightly different perspective. One that May or may not be appreciated.

First of all, I understand tired. I have MS and I no longer remember what it feels like not to be exhausted. It stinks and doesn't help your point-of-view.

But think about the reasons you are exhausted from a different perspective. Overwhelmed with kid activities? Fantastic! You've been blessed with the ability to have children! Your husband has two callings? You're married to a worthy priesthood holder! Your businesses keep you busy? You have employment!

Your housekeeper only comes once a week? Ehhh....sorry, I can't put a happy face on that one. I would be delerious with joy to have that!

Get some rest. Figure out where to cut back. Go to the temple in whatever capacity (in the year between my baptism and endowment, I would go weekly to sit on the grounds) you can. You DO have time. It is important and it will help.

I'm a convert. I am alone in the church. I have no husband. What (dysfunctional) family I have is thousands of miles away. I've been in my new ward for almost a year and have yet to receive a visit from my VTs. My HTs have been by twice. I was given a calling but haven't actually been asked to do anything. The sisters I have been assigned to VT only want visits during the weekdays and my day goes from 7:00-6:30 five days a week. I'm tired because of a stupid disease. You're tired because you're needed.

The point I am trying to make is - yes, you are exhausted and burned out - but there are wonderful blessings behind all that exhaustion. Your life is blessed and has real meaning.

Figure out where you can cut back. Go to the temple. Get some rest and enjoy your blessings.

 

What a wise and beautiful perspective.

[Kenngo1969]

RAINGIRL your words are appreciated.  I'm so fortunate.  GG gives great advice.  HT AND VT are so important and the last thing I would ever give up.  We are about five hours from a temple (Boston). 

I don't know where you are, but I have a feeling that, wherever you are, that'll change, eventually.

[JLHPROF]

Get some rest. Figure out where to cut back. Go to the temple in whatever capacity (in the year between my baptism and endowment, I would go weekly to sit on the grounds) you can. You DO have time. It is important and it will help.

 

I really can't recommend this enough.  I am fortunate to live near several temples.  I love to go sit on the grounds and talk to God.  Sometimes I'd actually pray, but mostly I'd just wander around and talk to God.

It really makes a difference, more than many people can understand.  The veil there seems thinner, and the spirit stronger.  It helps to put this life into perspective.

[Wants2know]

I don't know where you are, but I have a feeling that, wherever you are, that'll change, eventually.

Interesting you say that.  There is a rumor that someday we will have a temple in our town.  I'm told this belief comes from the fact bought an extra ten acres when they bought the land for our meetinghouse.

Edited April 2, 2014 by Wants2know

[Avatar4321]

Talk to your Bishop and figure out ways do what you can without burning yourself out.

[Kenngo1969]

Talk to your Bishop and figure out ways do what you can without burning yourself out.

I would recommend going to the leaders of any organizations in which you have callings first, for two reasons: (1) to honor their stewardship, and (2) if they start thinking about the problem first, perhaps they can suggest solutions to the Bishop that he would not have thought of.  We tend to forget that other people in the Church have stewardship and keys.  Moses was a very capable leader, but that didn't mean that Jethro's advice was worthless.  We tend to skip that middle step: "I have a problem," we say.  "I need to go to the Bishop."  No.  Depending, of course, on the nature of the problem, go to your Home Teachers, who, if they can't help you solve it, will go to the Elders Quorum President or High Priest Group Leader, who, if he can't solve it, will then bring it to the Bishop's attention.  In your case, go to the leader(s) of the organization(s) in which you have callings first.

Edited April 2, 2014 by Kenngo1969

[The Nehor]

One think I would also recommend is trying to make time for exercise. The endorphin release helps cancel out feelings of frustration, sporadic (and sometimes even clinical) depression.

[Kenngo1969]

One think I would also recommend is trying to make time for exercise. The endorphin release helps cancel out feelings of frustration, sporadic (and sometimes even clinical) depression.

Good "think" ...  

[Tacenda]

Good "think" ...

He's sick.