How do you manage the rules?

[JVW]

7 hours ago, Dario_M said:

Okay, that can be complicated. And not being able to make topics is also a bummer. Because i like to make topics. 

But it will be nice to not receive downvotes again. 

Oh really. That's also a big bummer. 

Yes i have the same haha. I just can't handle myself and keep posting a lot. 

Love you Dario  You mentioned the magic word so just had to let you know.

[Dario_M]

9 minutes ago, JVW said:

Love you Dario  You mentioned the magic word so just had to let you know.

Funny. Another downvote. It's raining downvotes from everywhere haha. 😂 i really hate those downvotes. But the funny thing is that i use those downvotes quite a lot for other people though. 🤣

Edited November 8, 2024 by Dario_M

[Dario_M]

Thank you JVW ⬆️

[Vanguard]

16 hours ago, Dario_M said:

So.. you're basicaly saying that more people in Utah swear then people in California? I mean...how?  Especially Los Angeles...i feel like a lot of people swear in Los Angeles. Look at all those Hollywood movies and video clips let alone. 

No, I'm not saying that. I'm saying in the two UT mental health clinics I have worked, there is more profanity than I ever heard in the half dozen or more clinics I worked in in CA. The level of profanity (incl'ing from management) would not have been tolerated in the CA clinics.

16 hours ago, Dario_M said:

don't drink munch. But on special occasions i find it hard to say no. Is it hypocrite of me to drink because i'm from the LDS community? Yes sure. But i've never been a exemplary saint. It's just hard. To have that dedication.

I don't consider it hypocritical of you. Now, if you shamed other members for drinking all the while continually drinking yourself then that would be hyocritical.

16 hours ago, Dario_M said:

How did it felt in the beginning?

It was actually a bit scary. This passed pretty quickly though. The loose hanging mesh garment style/fabric has never been constraining to me.

17 hours ago, Dario_M said:

And with that garment on you can't wear shorts or anything. If a garment was more practical, not so hot in the summer, and i could wear shorts under it, i would get my melchizedek priesthood.

Not true. I wear shorts all the time. Granted, they have to be longer shorts but shorts nonetheless. You might be surprised how easy it is. : )

[Calm]

20 hours ago, Dario_M said:

If a garment was more practical, not so hot in the summer, and i could wear shorts under it, i would get my melchizedek priesthood. And later on i would get the endowment ritual. And after that i would wear a garment. But because the idea of wearing that thing suffocates me i rather pass. 

I hope you never choose to go through the temple unless you have decided to commit to try and abstain from sex and drinking alcohol and coffee and tea (I can’t remember if you have mentioned the latter two).  You would have to be lying at your interview (I think there is an interview before you get your own endowments done) in order for that to be approved unless your bishop does not care about the standards much.  I don’t think it would be good for your soul to go that direction.

The garment is a symbol that you are willing to keep the covenants of having no sex outside of a heterosexual marriage and abstaining from coffee, tea, and alcohol among other covenants.  There is no reason to wear it as far as the Church is concerned if you are not trying to live those covenants.  Perhaps you might give the garments a different meaning, but you don’t need garments to make your own covenants with God, so why wear them for that?

Edited November 9, 2024 by Calm

[Dario_M]

6 hours ago, Vanguard said:

No, I'm not saying that. I'm saying in the two UT mental health clinics I have worked, there is more profanity than I ever heard in the half dozen or more clinics I worked in in CA. The level of profanity (incl'ing from management) would not have been tolerated in the CA clinics.

Maybe those people have left the church and are now full of frustration. 🤷‍♀️ that is a possibility. Utah seems to be full of those people as well. 

6 hours ago, Vanguard said:

I don't consider it hypocritical of you. Now, if you shamed other members for drinking all the while continually drinking yourself then that would be hyocritical.

I don't know. I shouldn't drink at all. I'm now a member of the LDS community. 

6 hours ago, Vanguard said:

It was actually a bit scary. This passed pretty quickly though. The loose hanging mesh garment style/fabric has never been constraining to me.

But do you like to wear the garment? Or do you.......hate it?

6 hours ago, Vanguard said:

Not true. I wear shorts all the time. Granted, they have to be longer shorts but shorts nonetheless. You might be surprised how easy it is. : )

Oh really. Well.. that's one positive thing about those garments then. But still... i don't think i wanna wear them myself. 

[Dario_M]

3 hours ago, Calm said:

I hope you never choose to go through the temple unless you have decided to commit to try and abstain from sex and drinking alcohol and coffee and tea (I can’t remember if you have mentioned the latter two).  You would have to be lying at your interview (I think there is an interview before you get your own endowments done) in order for that to be approved unless your bishop does not care about the standards much.  I don’t think it would be good for your soul to go that direction.

Yeah that's another issue. So... an endownment is not gonna happen anyway. 

3 hours ago, Calm said:

The garment is a symbol that you are willing to keep the covenants of having no sex outside of a heterosexual marriage and abstaining from coffee, tea, and alcohol among other covenants.

That's impossible for me anyway. Because i'm gay and i don't need a heterosexual marriage. Lord forbid. 

3 hours ago, Calm said:

 There is no reason to wear it as far as the Church is concerned if you are not trying to live those covenants.  Perhaps you might give the garments a different meaning, but you don’t need garments to make your own covenants with God, so why wear them for that?

Was the garment not also intended as a protection? To protect your holiness? And protect you from evil sinfull energie? At least ...that's what i have understood from some people.  🤷‍♀️

[Calm]

11 minutes ago, Dario_M said:

Was the garment not also intended as a protection? To protect your holiness? And protect you from evil sinfull energie? At least ...that's what i have understood from some people.  🤷‍♀️

I am not sure how you mean that, so I can’t answer.

They are not like amulets that once put on don’t let evil touch you.

They are spiritual protection because you are keeping your covenants, not because you wear the garment.  The garment itself is just cloth.  They have marks on them in certain places, again as a reminder for you.

 

Edited November 9, 2024 by Calm

[Vanguard]

31 minutes ago, Dario_M said:

. I shouldn't drink at all. I'm now a member of the LDS community

I believe in the long run you would be better off without the alcohol and you would be honoring more effectively the covenant(s) you made at baptism. The drinking in and of itself, however, does not make you a hypocrite.

35 minutes ago, Dario_M said:

But do you like to wear the garment?

Yes, for at least 2 reasons - 1) I'm used to it and can't imagine stopping, and 2) Every day I put it on it reminds me of my covenants and who I seek to emulate in this life my often lackluster performance notwithstanding.

[Dario_M]

16 minutes ago, Calm said:

I am not sure how you mean that, so I can’t answer.

They are not like amulets that once put on don’t let evil touch you.

They are spiritual protection because you are keeping your covenants, not because you wear the garment.  The garment itself is just cloth.  They have marks on them in certain places, again as a reminder for you.

 

Well..  but i have heard that wearing the garment is a covenant by itself. 

[Dario_M]

7 minutes ago, Vanguard said:

I believe in the long run you would be better off without the alcohol and you would be honoring more effectively the covenant(s) you made at baptism. The drinking in and of itself, however, does not make you a hypocrite.

Drinking alcohol by itself isn't hypocrite no. But bevore i got baptized i made promises offcourse. And not drinking alcohol anymore was one of those promises i made. But now i'm drinking alcohol. While i promised i wouldn't. That's the hypocrite part you see. Well..with that interview i allready knew that i needed to lie to get baptized. Lord have mercy. 

7 minutes ago, Vanguard said:

Yes, for at least 2 reasons - 1) I'm used to it and can't imagine stopping, and 2) Every day I put it on it reminds me of my covenants and who I seek to emulate in this life my often lackluster performance notwithstanding.

I can imagine that you are used to wearing the garment after so many years. 

[Calm]

1 hour ago, Dario_M said:

Well..  but i have heard that wearing the garment is a covenant by itself. 

Wearing it is one of the covenants you make.  It doesn’t make sense to me to speak of keeping the covenants separately except to simplify explaining them.  You covenant to keep them all in the same ritual, each covenant you make builds a greater whole in my view.

[Dario_M]

16 minutes ago, Calm said:

Wearing it is one of the covenants you make.  It doesn’t make sense to me to speak of keeping the covenants separately except to simplify explaining them.

Offcourse it does. It makes it easier for me to understand all those covenants people make after their endowment you see. 😌 

I have heard from a bishop that he was always really upset when his daughter didn't wanted to wear her garment. So for me that tells me that wearing a garment is probably a covenant by itself as well.

I don't need to wear a garment offcourse, because i've never made the promise to wear one for the rest of my life. 

16 minutes ago, Calm said:

 You covenant to keep them all in the same ritual, each covenant you make builds a greater whole in my view.

Yeah for sure. I can totaly understand how much more value will expand in your life after you have manage to keep all those covenants you made. 

[Calm]

8 minutes ago, Dario_M said:

Offcourse it does. It makes it easier for me to understand all those covenants people make after their endowment you see….

Yeah for sure. I can totaly understand how much more value will expand in your life after you have manage to keep all those covenants you made. 

I am not expecting anyone to keep all the covenants perfectly all the time.  That would be heading towards perfectionism and that is dangerous. 

I don’t know, I guess the way you were phrasing it made me think more of choosing to follow some of the covenants one makes in the temple, but not others and that seems like it would mess up the overall purpose of the temple and its covenants. 

For example, if one went to the temple with only the intent to wear the garments as instructed and pay tithing, let’s say, but wasn’t interested in keeping the Word of Wisdom or being honest or perhaps was intent on being an adulterer, it would be better not to make any temple covenants imo, but work on what one was committed to outside of temple covenants before adding a set of covenants one was not even committed to trying.

Making covenants without intending to try to keep them  even if intent on keeping other covenants risks lying to the Lord in my view, if one truly understands what one is doing and its implications. 

I can see making covenants and not being able to achieve them, but desiring to…I can’t wear garments 24-7 because of health reasons, but I would if I could and I believe that is acceptable to the Lord.  It’s making them when not desiring to keep them that troubles me. 

[Dario_M]

10 minutes ago, Calm said:

I am not expecting anyone to keep all the covenants perfectly all the time.  That would be heading towards perfectionism and that is dangerous. 

Yeah, that's the mistake some Saints make indeed. I also know one here. But i won't call any names. 

10 minutes ago, Calm said:

I don’t know, I guess the way you were phrasing it made me think more of choosing to follow some of the covenants one makes in the temple, but not others and that seems like it would mess up the overall purpose of the temple and its covenants. 

Yeah. You see that right. I would mess that up. I alreally have messed up the covenants i made before my baptizing. I allready knew that i needed to be willing to lie otherwise i would never could move on to the next step. My baptizing. 

10 minutes ago, Calm said:

For example, if one went to the temple with only the intent to wear the garments as instructed and pay tithing, let’s say, but wasn’t interested in keeping the Word of Wisdom or being honest or perhaps was intent on being an adulterer, it would be better not to make any temple covenants imo, but work on what one was committed to outside of temple covenants before adding a set of covenants one was not even committed to trying.

True. I would never be an adulterer though. But covenants like "The law of chastity" "no alcohol, tea or coffee" "no relationship with the same sex"

I was allready busy with men bevore my baptizing. So.. after i made those covenants and got baptized i've allready messed that up right away after my baptizing. A few days after my baptizing i was allready busy with men again, everywhere i could get them (exept the men within the church offcourse😇). on the parks of Portugal in the nightly hours. Searching online. I was single at that time as well. And very lonely. So i was desperate to get any kind of attention from men i could get. I think..a week after my baptizing i allready had my next one night stand with a decent gentleman. We....lets say.......had a lot of fun. One positive thing about Portugal for me was all those handsome man i saw everywhere. And they where not even picky.🤷‍♀️ That messed a lot with my (allready desperate spirit). Saterday evenings became the fun evenings until the late night hours. And the next day i was in Church acting as if i had not done anything wrong and behaved like a Saint, a Saint who kept his covenants and commandments. Really strange times. If i think back at that. 

10 minutes ago, Calm said:

Making covenants without intending to try to keep them  even if intent on keeping other covenants risks lying to the Lord in my view, if one truly understands what one is doing and its implications. 

I've allready felt Gods torment. Months later. When i got kicked out from my room i had rented... i ended up on the streets because my parents didn't wanted to take me back at home. Plus i was also not welcome on my grandmas apartment anymore. So...me on the streets from that moment on.😭 And suddenly i didn't had the need anymore to hook up with any man anymore. 

10 minutes ago, Calm said:

I can see making covenants and not being able to achieve them, but desiring to…I can’t wear garments 24-7 because of health reasons, but I would if I could and I believe that is acceptable to the Lord.  It’s making them when not desiring to keep them that troubles me. 

Yeah. Like me you mean. Well... i was just weak. Happends to the betters of us. 

[Dario_M]

@Raingirl i'm going to politely ask you if you want to stop dowvoting everything i post on the board for no reason. Offcourse you're free to keep downvoting my normal posts i make offcourse. But then i will report them. And i don't wanna do that offcourse. But ... i don't have a choise. 

And maybe it would help if you explain why you're so disagree with my posting behavoir. Instead of just downvoting everything of me while i have no clue what i have said wrong. 

Edited November 9, 2024 by Dario_M

[Calm]

11 hours ago, Dario_M said:

But ... i don't have a choise. 

Of course you have a choice.  You are responsible for how you react to her downvotes, not her.  If you don’t want to report her, don’t.  There is no rule or even suggestion to report people who downvote a lot.

And she is not downvoting you for no reason, she is expressing disagreement.  I know this because she has downvoted me on occasion and I have talked to her about it.  She does not use downvoting to be malicious.  It is her way of interacting, thumbs up or thumbs down when she doesn’t feel the desire to write anything, but still wants to comment.

And that is one of the purposes of the rep point system.  She is using it as it is meant to be used.

I don’t know of anyone else who feels the need to report someone who downvotes them.  Certainly no one else has ever talked about it.

If no one else has felt the need to report downvotes, then that shows you have other options on how to respond to downvotes.  
 

My suggestion is just to ignore any downvotes,  They have no effect on you that you don’t let them have.  You are not getting graded, no one is going to respect you less just because rsingirl or anyone else disagrees with what you are saying.  Unlike other places, downvotes do nothing to affect your posts, they don’t make them less visible.  The moderators don’t pay attention to them as far as I can tell.  Reputation based on points is talked about very little.  It is rare anyone notices the total amount, so don’t worry about how many you are getting either.

Just let it go.  You are making it harder than it needs to be.  
 

At least she cares enough to pay you attention, even if it’s to show disagreement.  Isn’t that better than being thought not worth any effort or being completely ignored?   
 

If this was a face to face conversation, would you rather have someone listening to you and saying “no, I disagree on that” from time to time or would you rather they were playing solitaire on their phone, oblivious to what you are saying?

My guess is if you start reporting her for downvoting, the moderator will most likely decide to protect you from those downvotes by putting you on limited, not her as she’s not breaking any rules by downvoting/disagreeing with you.

A d if you get put on limited, that means you will only be able to post around ten or twelve posts a day and won’t be able to start threads.

Wouldn’t it be better to put the effort and energy you are using to get upset and to write about your frustration in being downvoted into learning not to be bothered by them?

If you can not (added the absolutely necessary “not”….I hate it when I leave out the “not” and someone quotes me so I can’t sneak in and change it, lol) ignore them, then turn it around into something good.  Is there something that cheers you up or calms you that you can look at if you see a downvote? A video of cats or puppies playing or better, cats and puppies playing.    Or just step away from the computer and walk around for a bit or maybe clean up your space for 5 minutes so you can feel like you accomplished something and life is a wee bit better rather than feeling something bad has happened to you.  Or only allow yourself to do something fun like have a favorite piece of candy when you get a downvote so instead of thinking ‘yech, I got a downvote, that darkens my day’, it’s ’I got a downvote, wonderful!  I can taste the yummy already!’.  

Edited November 9, 2024 by Calm

[Dario_M]

1 hour ago, Calm said:

Of course you have a choice.  You are responsible for how you react to her downvotes, not her.  If you don’t want to report her, don’t.  There is no rule or even suggestion to report people who downvote a lot.

I get that. But she is downvoting me quite often. And it get's unreasonable. She is also not willing to explain what i say wrong in my posts. My post was a storie from 2 years ago. I allready know that i was hypocrite. I've allready admitten that. But i'm changing in a better direction. Nothing wrong whith what i've said in that post. But still the umpteenth downvote from the same individual. 

Next time she downvotes me i'm going to ask a mod to put me on limited

1 hour ago, Calm said:

And she is not downvoting you for no reason, she is expressing disagreement.  I know this because she has downvoted me on occasion and I have talked to her about it.  She does not use downvoting to be malicious.  It is her way of interacting, thumbs up or thumbs down when she doesn’t feel the desire to write anything, but still wants to comment.

Yeah i understand that. 

 

1 hour ago, Calm said:

I don’t know of anyone else who feels the need to report someone who downvotes them.  Certainly no one else has ever talked about it.

I wouldn't make a fuss about it if she does it so now and then. But i find that she does it to often to me. And then it get's more of a builing nature. 

1 hour ago, Calm said:

If no one else has felt the need to report downvotes, then that shows you have other options on how to respond to downvotes.  

How? That i need to check every post of her and downvote her too. I'm to old for those silly games. Yesterday JWV also downvoted me but he did it as a joke. And then it's just funny and i don't have a problem with it. 

1 hour ago, Calm said:

My suggestion is just to ignore any downvotes,  They have no effect on you that you don’t let them have.  You are not getting graded, no one is going to respect you less just because rsingirl or anyone else disagrees with what you are saying.  Unlike other places, downvotes do nothing to affect your posts, they don’t make them less visible.  The moderators don’t pay attention to them as far as I can tell.  Reputation based on points is talked about very little.  It is rare anyone notices the total amount, so don’t worry about how many you are getting either.

Okay well. 

1 hour ago, Calm said:

Just let it go.  You are making it harder than it needs to be.  
 

At least she cares enough to pay you attention, even if it’s to show disagreement.  Isn’t that better than being thought not worth any effort or being completely ignored?   
 

Like i said... if somebody downvotes me just for the fun and it's a joke i don't have a problem with it. And i actually find it even funny.  

1 hour ago, Calm said:

If this was a face to face conversation, would you rather have someone listening to you and saying “no, I disagree on that” from time to time or would you rather they were playing solitaire on their phone, oblivious to what you are saying?

Her downvotes are always without explenation. It would be nice if i get an explenation on why she disliked my post. So that i can defent my statement. Now i can't do anything back to defend myself.

1 hour ago, Calm said:

My guess is if you start reporting her for downvoting, the moderator will most likely decide to protect you from those downvotes by putting you on limited, not her as she’s not breaking any rules by downvoting/disagreeing with you.

But maybe that's not even that bad. On this moment i get the most downvotes of the whole board and that makes me feel like mud. And not worty.

1 hour ago, Calm said:

A d if you get put on limited, that means you will only be able to post around ten or twelve posts a day and won’t be able to start threads.

Wouldn’t it be better to put the effort and energy you are using to get upset and to write about your frustration in being downvoted into learning not to be bothered by them?

I have no idea. 

1 hour ago, Calm said:

If you can ignore them, then turn it around into something good.  Is there something that cheers you up or calms you that you can look at if you see a downvote? A video of cats or puppies playing or cats and puppies playing.    Or just step away from the computer and walk around for a bit or maybe clean up your space for 5 minutes so you can feel like you accomplished something and life is a wee bit better rather than feeling something bad has happened to you.  Or only allow yourself to do something fun like have a favorite piece of candy when you get a downvote so instead of thinking ‘yech, I got a downvote, that darkens my day’, it’s ’I got a downvote, wonderful!  I can taste the yummy already!’.  

Yeah. That can be a good idea. Hahahahaha. 😆

Edited November 9, 2024 by Dario_M

[Rain]

2 hours ago, Dario_M said:

I get that. But she is downvoting me quite often. And it get's unreasonable. She is also not willing to explain what i say wrong in my posts. My post was a storie from 2 years ago. I allready know that i was hypocrite. I've allready admitten that. But i'm changing in a better direction. Nothing wrong whith what i've said in that post. But still the umpteenth downvote from the same individual. 

Next time she downvotes me i'm going to ask a mod to put me on limited

Yeah i understand that. 

 

I wouldn't make a fuss about it if she does it so now and then. But i find that she does it to often to me. And then it get's more of a builing nature. 

How? That i need to check every post of her and downvote her too. I'm to old for those silly games. Yesterday JWV also downvoted me but he did it as a joke. And then it's just funny and i don't have a problem with it. 

Okay well. 

Like i said... if somebody downvotes me just for the fun and it's a joke i don't have a problem with it. And i actually find it even funny.  

Her downvotes are always without explenation. It would be nice if i get an explenation on why she disliked my post. So that i can defent my statement. Now i can't do anything back to defend myself.

But maybe that's not even that bad. On this moment i get the most downvotes of the whole board and that makes me feel like mud. And not worty.

I have no idea. 

Yeah. That can be a good idea. Hahahahaha. 😆

If she posts and you disagree with her or don't like her post will you downvote her? You also downvote a lot. She may feel it's not worth her time to write if you are only going to downvote her instead of take what she says to heart 

[Dario_M]

14 minutes ago, Rain said:

If she posts and you disagree with her or don't like her post will you downvote her? You also downvote a lot. She may feel it's not worth her time to write if you are only going to downvote her instead of take what she says to heart 

I don't downvote others a lot at all. But...no problem. If Raingirl downvotes me again i will ask the mods to put my account on Limited. So that she can't downvote me anymore. 

[Tacenda]

6 hours ago, Dario_M said:

@Raingirl i'm going to politely ask you if you want to stop dowvoting everything i post on the board for no reason. Offcourse you're free to keep downvoting my normal posts i make offcourse. But then i will report them. And i don't wanna do that offcourse. But ... i don't have a choise. 

And maybe it would help if you explain why you're so disagree with my posting behavoir. Instead of just downvoting everything of me while i have no clue what i have said wrong. 

Not Raingirl, but she may just have had a visceral reaction to the ongoing's with so many men. Maybe she's worried for your safety? I know I worried. But I feel that for male and females. Gay and Straight.

[Dario_M]

10 minutes ago, Tacenda said:

Not Raingirl, but she may just have had a visceral reaction to the ongoing's with so many men. Maybe she's worried for your safety? I know I worried. But I feel that for male and females. Gay and Straight.

Yeah i know indeed. That is all very well possible. But as long as Raingirl doesn't wanna give some kind of reaction we will never know what her thoughts where on the moment she downvoted me. We will never find it out and it will remains a mystery. 🤷‍♀️

[bluebell]

10 hours ago, Dario_M said:

@Raingirl i'm going to politely ask you if you want to stop dowvoting everything i post on the board for no reason. Offcourse you're free to keep downvoting my normal posts i make offcourse. But then i will report them. And i don't wanna do that offcourse. But ... i don't have a choise. 

And maybe it would help if you explain why you're so disagree with my posting behavoir. Instead of just downvoting everything of me while i have no clue what i have said wrong. 

It's not against any board rules to downvote someone's post, so there is no reason to report it (and the mods won't do anything because she's not doing anything wrong).  And of course, you do have a choice to report or not.

Sometimes it's best to just ignore posters that you find difficult to interact with and let people do whatever they are going to do.

[Calm]

8 hours ago, Dario_M said:

But she is downvoting me quite often. And it get's unreasonable.

No, it isn’t. It just isn’t a reason you want to accept. 

You downvote all the time without explaining why,  I know because I have been clueless as to why and I have asked for explanations that you haven’t given…which is fine, I don’t mind at all when people don’t respond to my comments.  

At least you downvoted without explaining often to begin with, I haven’t seen you downvote as much lately to know if you explain or not, but I don’t know if that is simply because I haven’t noticed as if someone upvotes a post you have downvoted, there won’t be the red to grab attention or if you have stopped giving out downvotes as much).

People have different writing styles, which includes how we use the rep points.  Just because it isn’t the way we would do it, doesn’t mean it’s unreasonable. 

 If it did mean that, your posts would fall into the unreasonable category for me. Instead I choose to look at them as an opportunity to think about things a different way than I do or if there is not enough information provided in your posts for me to understand them, I just consider them as taking an opportunity to express yourself. I don’t see it as a Right for me to be able to understand everyone.  And if there is disagreement I don’t understand, at least they were interested enough to express that disagreement.

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And then it get's more of a builing nature. 

Only if you let it be.  I don’t see how a downvote, something that is barely there can qualify as bullying when the person has explained it is simple disagreement.  You do not have the right to demand someone not express disagreement. There is no personal commentary attached to it. 
 

I get not knowing why is frustrating, but it is you choosing to interpret it in such a way to be offended and hurt by it because that downvote does not have enough information included.  For all you know, it could mean for raingirl that she wishes you would take a second look before you criticize something.  I say this is a possibility because that has often been my reaction to your posts that she downvotes.  They are typical posts where you are criticizing someone or something and often I have thought it was an unnecessary criticism.   I have the time and inclination to express how I might like you to look at something differently like I am doing now.  Whatever raingirl’s reasoning for disagreeing with your criticism, she is not inclined to explain it to you…it’s not her style.

 

Edited November 9, 2024 by Calm

[Calm]

Part two as I am on my phone and it’s too hard to break up the different parts.

10 hours ago, Dario_M said:

How? That i need to check every post of her and downvote her too. I'm to old for those silly games.

Yes, you are way too old for that game.  10 year olds are too old for that game imo.

Respond to her in the simplest way possible…IGNORE HER.  If she bothers you, stop wasting time and energy by paying attention to it.

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On this moment i get the most downvotes of the whole board and that makes me feel like mud. And not worty.

You are also one of the most frequent posters to give out downvotes and if I remember correctly you were doing it before raingirl was downvoting your posts that much.  Maybe raingirl decided you downvoted too much and thought downvoting you when you were critical was therefore appropriate.

I believe you have the highest downvote rate of any frequent poster.  I may be wrong because I am going off of impressions.  The other frequent poster who I remember giving a lot of downvotes is Teancum and you do it more often than he does (percentage wise you downvote at a rate of about 8% of your total posts and he is around 7%).

But you don’t need to know why.  If it helps to ignore her, think of it as if she doesn’t care enough to explain it to you, then it’s not that important to her…though personally given her pattern of downvotes I think it’s pretty clear why she downvotes you, she is disagreeing with your criticism of others.

Edited November 9, 2024 by Calm