The Pursuit of Happiness

[pogi]

22 minutes ago, Dario_M said:

Funny the neighborhood here have also changed a lot. (I know this because i have been in Miratejo Portugal really aften for vacation when i lived in the Netherlands) And now i life in Miratejo Portugal. If i think back all those years ago i know that back then it whas completely differend here. 

But oooh boy... what have people changed here. And not in a positive way. It used to be a nice neighborhood here where people where friendly and be aware with each other. Nowadays people are sooo rude here. Especially the younger generation. Loud. My neighbors above me are extremaly loud the whole day. Every day.

In the night time people are making a lot of noise. I just can't sleep. It has became such a problem that i have developed a sleeping disorder by now. Constantly loud talking, screaming, laughing on the street in the middle of the night. If i open my window and ask those people or they please wanna leave or go inside the buildiding to continuing their (loud) conversation they laugh at me. And after that they stay longer outside. And talk louder.

I try to sleep.

And then you have also those people who go out of their apartment on 3 a clock in the nightime. Loud talking. Mostely going straight up walking to the car. Doors go open. And with 3 or 4 loud bangs the doors closse. Then the noise of a starting car. With offcourse a few honks. And if that would not allready wake me up then it will be most definitly that horible sound of loud music from the radio and somebody that is having their food too deep on the gaspedal and after that the sound of a car that speeds away from the street. (Btw while i am typing this post i allready hear somebody talking really loud on the street. It is now 22:07. That will promisse something good for the rest of the night.🎭). Where whas i?... oh yeah... as if that wouldn't wake me up yet it would be the sound of a speeding car. After that i am awake and try to fall asleep again. Wich isn't easy because a few minutes later i hear the next group of people walking to their car with the same kind of noises. Lovely when you have that commotion in the middle of the night while you are trying to get some sleep isn't?? And this is now going on nearly every night. 

That is how people have changed here. Or it really is because of the corona or something else i don't know. But things have changed here for sure. And it isn't positive. Any of it.  

Funny right????🎭🎭🎭 How differend that can be on other parts of the world. But i am really happy for you @california boy that at least in your neighborhood everything is going well and people have became really nice, that you know everyone and it is all positive lovely. 💗

Btw, right now on this moment my neigbors above me are having a tv party (tv set on really loud). Like always. Maybe they think that they are the only ones that life in this building.?🤷‍♂️

 

Sounds like a lot of social connecting being out-doors, laughing, and having fun together.  Bah humbug! 

It does sound like they are being pretty rude and belligerent about it though. 

Sounds like you need to invest in a good set of ear-plugs. 

According to this survey, you moved from the 5th happiest nation in the world (Netherlands) to the 57th on the list (Portugal).  Argh!

https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/happiest-countries-in-the-world

 

[Dario_M]

4 hours ago, california boy said:

 

Maybe you are looking in the wrong places.  

Yeah maybe i am. Portugal have became ****. And the Netherlands even 10 times worse. 

Thank you for opening my eyes. So thoughtfull of you. Thanks. ❤🤍💙

Edited January 18, 2023 by Dario_M

[The Nehor]

7 hours ago, MustardSeed said:

Sorry, ignore above.  I never know how to delete a quote box. 

No worries. Glad you quoted that. One of the wisest things I have ever said.

[Dario_M]

23 minutes ago, pogi said:

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Sounds like you need to invest in a good set of ear-plugs. 

 

Yeah.. as if i am the problem.

I don't mind that people are having fun. But making so much noise on 3 a clock in the night. Come on. 

Would you like it if i scream and laugh really loud close to your house every night so that it would effect your sleep?

Edited January 18, 2023 by Dario_M

[pogi]

16 minutes ago, Dario_M said:

Yeah.. as if i am the problem.

No, the noise is the problem and ear-plugs are a potential practical solution that doesn't require killing your neighbors 

I use the wax ear-plugs when I am in a noisy environment and it really helps.  The foam ones hurt my ears with the pressure and are just uncomfortable. 

16 minutes ago, Dario_M said:

I don't mind that people are having fun. But making so much noise on 3 a clock in the night. Come on. 

Would you like it if i scream and laugh really loud close to your house every night so that it would effect you sleep?

Like I said, "It does sound like they are being pretty rude and belligerent about it".  

I was mostly kidding with the "Bah humbug comment".

 

Edited January 18, 2023 by pogi

[Calm]

27 minutes ago, pogi said:

The foam ones hurt my ears with the pressure and are just uncomfortable

Same here. Can you use airbuds?  The only thing I can use for noise blocking are the wax ones and head phones.  I use a headband to keep the wax ones in my ear…for a time at least.  I need to get a good noise canceling head set that also helps with tinnitus. Should put that on my list for recommendations for next time I hit the ear doc’s. 
 

We were once in an apartment where you could hear the bed upstairs squeaking, the husband was a big guy.  He was probably a good sleeper because the only time it got noisy was when they were trying to make babies (they really wanted one).  We got them back (not intentionally, they were sweethearts) by having my toddler son’s jumping harness hooked into the ceiling because there were no door ledges around (plus the way he moved in that thing I was worried it would pop off, he treated it like a trampoline and swing in one).  They would probably hear him going chunk, chunk, chunk for an hour at a time a couple of times a day, but they never complained, even when I gave them quite a few opportunities to do so and promised we would only use it when they were gone if it bothered them.

I don’t have a clue how he managed to get the jumper stretched out so far because he was a lightweight. Thank goodness too as he would never sit in my lap but only want to jump from practically the day he popped out. 

Back to sleeping….

I have had a fan going all night since my twenties when I found I slept much better when I wasn’t hearing the creaking of the house or the barking dog, the kids moving around in their beds.  Once my tinnitus got bad I added a thunderstorm white noise program to my mix and that works almost all the time. 
 

Between that and blackout curtains, my bedroom is ready for me to sleep anytime of the day or night.

Edited January 18, 2023 by Calm

[california boy]

3 hours ago, Dario_M said:

Funny the neighborhood here have also changed a lot. (I know this because i have been in Miratejo Portugal really aften for vacation when i lived in the Netherlands) And now i life in Miratejo Portugal. If i think back all those years ago i know that back then it whas completely differend here. 

But oooh boy... what have people changed here. And not in a positive way. It used to be a nice neighborhood here where people where friendly and be aware with each other. Nowadays people are sooo rude here. Especially the younger generation. Loud. My neighbors above me are extremaly loud the whole day. Every day.

In the night time people are making a lot of noise. I just can't sleep. It has became such a problem that i have developed a sleeping disorder by now. Constantly loud talking, screaming, laughing on the street in the middle of the night. If i open my window and ask those people or they please wanna leave or go inside the buildiding to continuing their (loud) conversation they laugh at me. And after that they stay longer outside. And talk louder.

I try to sleep.

And then you have also those people who go out of their apartment on 3 a clock in the nightime. Loud talking. Mostely going straight up walking to the car. Doors go open. And with 3 or 4 loud bangs the doors closse. Then the noise of a starting car. With offcourse a few honks. And if that would not allready wake me up then it will be most definitly that horible sound of loud music from the radio and somebody that is having their food too deep on the gaspedal and after that the sound of a car that speeds away from the street. (Btw while i am typing this post i allready hear somebody talking really loud on the street. It is now 22:07. That will promisse something good for the rest of the night.🎭). Where whas i?... oh yeah... as if that wouldn't wake me up yet it would be the sound of a speeding car. After that i am awake and try to fall asleep again. Wich isn't easy because a few minutes later i hear the next group of people walking to their car with the same kind of noises. Lovely when you have that commotion in the middle of the night while you are trying to get some sleep isn't?? And this is now going on nearly every night. With highlights in the weekends.

That is how people have changed here. Or it really is because of the corona or something else i don't know. But things have changed here for sure. And it isn't positive. Any of it.  

Funny right????🎭🎭🎭 How differend that can be on other parts of the world. But i am really happy for you @california boy that at least in your neighborhood everything is going well and people have became really nice, that you know everyone and it is all positive lovely. 💗

Btw, right now on this moment my neighbors above me are having a tv party (tv set on really loud). Like always. Maybe they think that they are the only ones that life in this building.?🤷‍♂️

 

Sorry to hear it is so rough for you.  All that late night noise can not only be aggravating, but, like you are experiencing, depriving you of sleep.  Believe it or not, San Francisco goes to bed early.  Most of the city shuts down at 10.  You can't find a restaurant open after the theater.  That is so radically different from Europe where restaurants don't even open before 8pm.

Edited January 19, 2023 by california boy

[Bernard Gui]

On 1/17/2023 at 5:11 PM, The Nehor said:

Oh, and how to be happy. Live in this world:

 

Ahhhhh. Perry Gripp. The indisputable maestro of minimalistic merriment. My favorite!

https://www.youtube.com/@ParryGripp/videos

 

 

Edited January 19, 2023 by Bernard Gui

[Dario_M]

6 hours ago, california boy said:

Sorry to hear it is so rough for you.  All that late night noise can not only be aggravating, but, like you are experiencing, depriving you of sleep.  Believe it or not, San Francisco goes to bed early.  Most of the city shuts down at 10.  You can't find a restaurant open after the theater.  That is so radically different from Europe where restaurants don't even open before 8pm.

Really?🌈 That sounds like a dream for me.

Why can't they do that also here in stupid Portugal. And in the Netherlands i also had this issue a lot. If i can't sleep i don't feel like a human the next day. I just feel... death. 💀

Thumbs up for California big time. 👍

Edited January 19, 2023 by Dario_M

[Dario_M]

9 hours ago, pogi said:

 

Like I said, "It does sound like they are being pretty rude and belligerent about it".  

 

 

They are. They are. Believe me i am not exaggerating. Some times people can even be quite aggresive here as well. That is also something i have experienced. 😩

The only thing i can do about it is pray intensly that this nightmare will stop one day. ✝️

 

Edited January 19, 2023 by Dario_M

[pogi]

16 hours ago, Calm said:

Can you use airbuds?  

I haven't tried them.  Do you sleep with them?

[Calm]

20 minutes ago, pogi said:

I haven't tried them.  Do you sleep with them?

No, I was hoping you had an alternative, lol.  I did get a headband that had very thin speakers inserted into them, but that was before I had my temperature controlled system and the headband made me too hot. Plus wasn’t great for sleeping on the side even if very think. 

Edited January 19, 2023 by Calm

[MustardSeed]

15 minutes ago, Calm said:

No, I was hoping you had an alternative, lol.  I did get a headband that had very thin speakers inserted into them, but that was before I had my temperature controlled system and the headband made me too hot. Plus wasn’t great for sleeping on the side even if very think. 

Off topic but the best headphones ever are Bose noise canceling wireless buds.  For sleep you have to sleep on your back like most earbuds but that’s better for your face anyway! 🙉

[Calm]

30 minutes ago, MustardSeed said:

Off topic but the best headphones ever are Bose noise canceling wireless buds.  For sleep you have to sleep on your back like most earbuds but that’s better for your face anyway! 🙉

Unfortunately with my rls and now my Meniere’s which limits me to only the right side, back is not an option for me 

[manol]

On 1/17/2023 at 4:08 PM, The Nehor said:

Have some tidbits from the quotes I use to motivate myself:

“Every dead body on Mt. Everest was once a highly motivated person, so… maybe calm down.”

“Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the reason is you're stupid and make bad decisions.”

“If life doesn’t break you today, don’t worry. It will try again tomorrow.”

“A thousand-mile journey starts with one step. Then again, so does falling in a ditch and breaking your neck.”

“If at first, you don't succeed, try, try again. Then quit. No use being a damn fool about it.”

“Just because you are unique doesn't mean you are useful.”

“Today is the first day of the rest of your life. But so was yesterday, and look how that turned out.”

“Nothing says ‘you’re a loser’ more than owning a motivational poster about being a winner.”

“Eagles may soar, but weasels don't get sucked into jet engines.”

“The meaning of life is to find your gift. So good luck with that.”

And my favorite:

“Your life can’t fall apart if you never had it together.”

^^I copied and saved this post^^

Must admit I really appreciate your sense of humor (and your timing for its deployment).   Along with your polyamory, I think it's a feature instead of a bug.

 

Edited January 21, 2023 by manol