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Elder Uchtdorf's Council to Avoid using Fear to Motivate


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Posted
1 hour ago, rchorse said:

Critics of the church use fear at times, as well, to try to manipulate believers. 

Fear of being labeled a bigot or closed-minded. Fear of missing out on things. Fear of being repressed or controlled. Fear of all this being wasted effort, because it's not true anyway. Fear of societal shame and ridicule. Fear of being deceived or lied to. And in some extreme cases, fear of loss of employment or invasion of privacy. 

I'll admit that the church has sometimes used fear, but the critics also need to get off their high horses and recognize that they, as a group, have done the same. 

We can all learn lessons from President Uchtdorf's words...I think it was wonderful council...

Posted
14 minutes ago, Rain said:

This morning during family scriptures I kept coming back to this thread. I finally figured I better read the talk again in it's entirety. I'm glad because once again I think you miss a lot sometimes if you only use certain quotes.  I've highlighted in orange what Johnny quoted. I have highlighted in green what I will talk about below.

 

Note he said, "dwelling upon" and "exaggerating" the evil. He did not say there is no evil.  He did not say there is no Satan.  He also didn't say the only way that Satan manipulates is is by doing this. He said "One" of the ways is by overdoing it. 

I think that one of the ways that Satan manipulates us is also understating the evil in the world. 

I also think the word "manipulate" is important.  it takes into account intent.  Your intent to force someone.   

I think this is very important. If you read through the scriptures you can see this - doing things through fear IS temporary.

 

 

 

Reading through the old testament a couple of years ago I was impressed how many times they say the Lord's "hand is stretched out still." These are a people that kept doing wrong over and over again.  They so often were not listening to the Lord.  He was long suffering towards them.

But like Elder Uchtdorf said the Lord does not overlook or condone bad behaviors.  He loves us too much for that!  He lets people know the consequences.  Letting someone know the consequences is not manipulating them by fear. It is giving them the power to make good choices.

When he finally had to let the consequences take affect it was almost always temporary. The only way it could go long term was when people took the gospel into their hearts.  

One of the reason the Lord allows people to have chances over and over again is because he doesn't want to manipulate through fear.  If the mountain comes down upon you as soon as you do one wrong thing then that is a tool of manipulation.  No, the Lord, lets us know consequences again and again, giving us chances to change our hearts, until he sees that our hearts are not going to change.  Then he lets the consequences happen. 

 

 

 

Here is a powerful thing about letting us know about consequences.  When we see those things happening and we do our best to hold on to the Lord He stands with us.  He makes it so we don't have to fear.  In fact, because we know of the evil of the world and we know God's power then we can feel and actually be enabled by his power.  

 

I'll quote myself again...

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We can all learn lessons from President Uchtdorf's words...I think it was wonderful council...

 

Posted
21 minutes ago, Johnnie Cake said:

I'll quote myself again...

 

I'm confused.  Does this mean you don't want more discussion?

    

Posted
15 minutes ago, Rain said:

I'm confused.  Does this mean you don't want more discussion?

    

not at all...I'm merely pointing out that I enjoyed his entire address and not just the parts I specifically quoted from...

Posted
12 minutes ago, pogi said:

I think you are right that people will differ in perceptions of what qualifies as an example of "exaggeration" and "dwelling on" fear. 

This meme is a perfect example that.  If you were to read President Monson's talk, this quote is not an exaggeration, and his talk does not dwell on fear.  His entire talk was about focusing on kindness, charity, love, and a testimony in Jesus Christ  in an effort to combat the fear and evils that exist in the world today. 

President Monson's talk is in perfect harmony with President Uchtdorf's talk, which basically made the same observation of wickedness and corruption in the world today with the same suggested solution of focusing on love etc.  Uchtdorf said in his talk, "the corruption and wickedness in our day are unique and alarming."  Clearly he does NOT view President Monson's statement as an exaggeration, nor would he view his talk as fear based, rather it pointed to love. 

There are those who will always twist and manipulate messages to find fault with the church.  They will use Uchtdorf's beautiful message to accuse any prophetic warning as a fear based manipulation.

 

Yes... both quotes in the meme are out of context.  While I think the creator is guilty of creating a false criticism, I also think it illustrates how the "problem" that Uchtdorf warns of happens in the lives of church members:  We (Mormons but maybe all of the religious world) are really good at proof-texting.  Just as the critic did in this meme, the active member will do the same when they stand at the pulpit or in front of a classroom and speak of how scary the evil world is and how we must protect ourselves from it.

I think it was a very timely message from President Uchtdorf and applies to many of us at all levels of belief and all levels of leadership in the church.

Posted

This topic is probably a good one for extreme preppers to mull over.   There are lots of topics where focusing on fear can cause us to dwell on some issues too much and lose perspective.

I personally could benefit from toning down my worry gene some, which is basically all about fear.

Posted (edited)
2 hours ago, pogi said:

I think you are right that people will differ in perceptions of what qualifies as an example of "exaggeration" and "dwelling on" fear. 

This meme is a perfect example that.  If you were to read President Monson's talk, this quote is not an exaggeration, and his talk does not dwell on fear.  His entire talk was about focusing on kindness, charity, love, and a testimony in Jesus Christ  in an effort to combat the fear and evils that exist in the world today. 

President Monson's talk is in perfect harmony with President Uchtdorf's talk, which basically made the same observation of wickedness and corruption in the world today with the same suggested solution of focusing on love etc.  Uchtdorf said in his talk, "the corruption and wickedness in our day are unique and alarming."  Clearly he does NOT view President Monson's statement as an exaggeration, nor would he view his talk as fear based, rather it pointed to love. 

There are those who will always twist and manipulate messages to find fault with the church.  They will use Uchtdorf's beautiful message to accuse any prophetic warning as a fear based manipulation.

 

Just for the record...I too see this meme as a sad example of an out of context false criticism.  There are plenty of points that can legitimately be discussed without resorting to this kind of out of context exaggeration.

 

PS: Pogi, When is fear based motivation appropriate coming from a church?

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Posted
1 hour ago, bluebell said:

This topic is probably a good one for extreme preppers to mull over.   There are lots of topics where focusing on fear can cause us to dwell on some issues too much and lose perspective.

I personally could benefit from toning down my worry gene some, which is basically all about fear.

Funny but that was my exact thought when I first listened to this talk...Julie Rowe and her ilk of fundie preppers have been appropriately warned to back down...but were they listening...I rather doubt it

Posted (edited)
On 4/24/2017 at 11:00 AM, HappyJackWagon said:

The good ship Zion is a fear based metaphor

I actually like the metaphor and don't think it is fear based when taught correctly.

Here is the thing about fear, it's not all bad.  The scriptures, and Christ himself, appropriately used fear as a tool for learning.  I think Uchtdorf correctly put fear it in its proper perspective, without removing it entirely as a useful tool of caution and warning in teaching boundaries and consequences.  The main point he made is that we should not dwell on it, exaggerate it, or use it to manipulate in unrighteous dominion, but that our emphasis should be on the positive aspects of the gospel.

The good ship Zion is a hope based metaphor, not fear based.  It teaches proper boundaries for safety and respect of the ocean, while emphasizing the joy and security that comes from trusting in the Lord. 

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"We are on the old ship Zion. … [God] is at the helm and will stay there. … All is right, sing Hallelujah, for the Lord is here. He dictates, guides and directs. If the people will have implicit confidence in their God, never forsake their covenants nor their God, He will guide us right."  Brigham Young

Do you see the emphasis there?

The scriptures teach us to fear the Lord.  I think this type of fear is appropriately interpreted as "respect", and that is how fear should be used in the church.  The ocean is a lot like the Lord (to use a different metaphor), it deserves our respect.  Like the Lord, we are drawn to the ocean for its magnificence, power, beauty, and life.  It is an endless source of inspiration.  However, anyone who has ever spent time on the ocean knows to give it the respect it deserves.  While we should not be so consumed with fear and anxiety about the ocean that we are afraid to enjoy it and partake of its blessings, without a healthy sense of fear/respect and understanding of proper boundaries, the ocean can swallow us up.  This understanding helps us to enjoy the ocean safely, to partake of its blessings while avoiding the consequences of ignorance and carelessness.  The church and the prophets give warnings not to dwell on fear, but to allow us to dwell in safety and joy.  That is the emphasis of the church in general as I see it - that we might have joy.

 

 

 

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Posted
1 hour ago, Johnnie Cake said:

PS: Pogi, When is fear based motivation appropriate coming from a church?

See my last post, I think it answers your question.

 

Posted
13 hours ago, rockpond said:

I'm not sure how you conclude that the evidence is overwhelmingly against Johnnie.  I provided an example of fear being used by our prophet right in that very same conference.  

If the church wasn't guilty of using fear, why did an apostle need to counsel against it?

You just applied a logical fallacy. This is like saying, "if the church is not guilty of pornography, why did an apostle need to counsel against it". The church decidedly does not use guilt and fear. It uses gentle persuasion by teaching us how to love one another and now to be better people. 

Posted
10 hours ago, Johnnie Cake said:

You asked for an example...I provided 2.  It just so happened that one was from BY used in the 1850's and the same quote used recently in the BY lesson manual.  That this is the same quote is immaterial.

I love that. 'I used two quotes'. So if I use a quote from someone 500 times I can claim I provided 500 examples? 

Posted
9 minutes ago, Freedom said:

I love that. 'I used two quotes'. So if I use a quote from someone 500 times I can claim I provided 500 examples? 

Yes if that quote is used in different scenarios 500 times...but not if the same person says the same thing 500 times...that wouldn't qualify 😜 but again you asked for an example which I've provided. I gave an example of institutional fear from both the 1850's and a recent example of institutional fear. Plus I've given you a long list of other situations where fear is used. Thanks

Posted
22 minutes ago, Freedom said:

You just applied a logical fallacy. This is like saying, "if the church is not guilty of pornography, why did an apostle need to counsel against it". The church decidedly does not use guilt and fear. It uses gentle persuasion by teaching us how to love one another and now to be better people. 

And yet several belivers within this very thread have acknowledged the use of fear by the church...don't believe me, believe them

Posted
27 minutes ago, Freedom said:

The church decidedly does not use guilt and fear. It uses gentle persuasion by teaching us how to love one another and now to be better people. 

I think we need to acknowledge that our leaders are human and have at times innapropriately used guilt and fear.  But I agree that the overall spirit, teaching and emphasis of the church is positive and uplifting rather than fear or guilt based.

Posted
On ‎4‎/‎24‎/‎2017 at 7:46 PM, Robert F. Smith said:

You were painting modern Mormonism with the brush of hysteria and fear-mongering, which just does not take place today.  Quite the opposite.  If you have to go back to the 19th century to find actual hysteria, that shows how much of a reach it takes.

Are you challenging the premise of the OP? If so, you are making an overt criticism/accusation that this thread is nothing more than an attempt to fear-monger and hysteria. But isn't a discussion board about discussing the various topics presented, which is what is happening here? I don't think there is much need to totally dismiss an idea or OP because you don't agree with it.

And if you think that fear was only used as a motivator by the church in the 19th century, I don't think you're paying very close attention :) There are many examples, some of which have already been shared here.

Posted (edited)
9 hours ago, HappyJackWagon said:
 
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On 4/24/2017 at 6:46 PM, Robert F. Smith said:

You were painting modern Mormonism with the brush of hysteria and fear-mongering, which just does not take place today.  Quite the opposite.  If you have to go back to the 19th century to find actual hysteria, that shows how much of a reach it takes.

Are you challenging the premise of the OP? If so, you are making an overt criticism/accusation that this thread is nothing more than an attempt to fear-monger and hysteria. But isn't a discussion board about discussing the various topics presented, which is what is happening here? I don't think there is much need to totally dismiss an idea or OP because you don't agree with it.

And if you think that fear was only used as a motivator by the church in the 19th century, I don't think you're paying very close attention :) There are many examples, some of which have already been shared here.

The premise of Johnnie's OP was that modern Mormonism purveys fear as standard procedure, and that Pres Uchtdorf believes that.  Both propositions are grossly false.  I responded to that false notion in detail, and have found no evidence to the contrary.  My personal agreement or disagreement with an OP is not relevant.  Only the evidence is relevant.

 

 

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Posted
On 4/25/2017 at 6:20 PM, Johnnie Cake said:

And yet several belivers within this very thread have acknowledged the use of fear by the church...don't believe me, believe them

I don't 'believe' in opinions, I believe in evidence. In order to prove that the church uses fear as a matter of course you have to demonstrate that this is the method the church uses. It is not. Your quote references the condition of the last days. This is not fear mongering, this is prophesy. Each time such a quote is provided, it is always couched in the teaching that the righteous have no need to fear, that despite the fact that perilous times will come (which the will, and this is not to push fear but to present doctrinal fact), the future is bright. 99.99% of church teachings are about joy, you are trying to argue that the .01% that discusses the end of days is sufficient proof of fear mongering. That is, in a word, ignorant. But it is your consistent pattern. 

Posted
On 4/25/2017 at 6:35 PM, pogi said:

I think we need to acknowledge that our leaders are human and have at times innapropriately used guilt and fear.  But I agree that the overall spirit, teaching and emphasis of the church is positive and uplifting rather than fear or guilt based.

Do you have any statistics on how many times a given church leader uses such an approach, or for that matter how many church leaders over the past 30 years use fear and guilt inappropriately? I suspect you have no such evidence. You may be able to quote mine and fine one or two examples, or try to argue that any mention of the consequence of sin as fear mongering (which it is not), but the reality is, the church has consistently NOT used this approach. The Last Days are part of our doctrine and teaching it is not fear mongering, just as teaching apprentice mechanical contractors of the dangers of carbon monoxide is not fear mongering, or teaching a new driver of the dangerous risks of distracted driving is not fear mongering. It is presenting facts. 

Posted
11 minutes ago, Freedom said:

but the reality is, the church has consistently NOT used this approach.....

I believe this is what Pogi meant by saying the overall spirit is positive.

Posted
1 hour ago, Freedom said:

I don't 'believe' in opinions, I believe in evidence. In order to prove that the church uses fear as a matter of course you have to demonstrate that this is the method the church uses. It is not. Your quote references the condition of the last days. This is not fear mongering, this is prophesy. Each time such a quote is provided, it is always couched in the teaching that the righteous have no need to fear, that despite the fact that perilous times will come (which the will, and this is not to push fear but to present doctrinal fact), the future is bright. 99.99% of church teachings are about joy, you are trying to argue that the .01% that discusses the end of days is sufficient proof of fear mongering. That is, in a word, ignorant. But it is your consistent pattern. 

I've given you multiple examples where fear has been/is used in the church. I've said that the church also uses positive means to achieve its goals.  You're now making things up and exaggerating what I've said why for what purpose?  I'm done, I can't help you further....

Posted (edited)

Freedom, maybe you missed the part where I said that I basically agree with you in the general sense.   You just need to be a little less absolute in your statements.  The church and its leaders are not perfect, and presenting them as such is misguided.  Your apparent position of perfection is unsustainable. 

I don't know what you think my position is here, but I never made a statistical argument, and I don't need to know how many leaders over the past 30 years have used guilt and fear inappropriately to support my claim.  I only need a few examples (which I have).  You yourself acknowledge that I may be able to "quote mine" and find a few examples, so what's your beef?  

I could offer you some examples, but I don't like to unnecessarily air the imperfections of the brethren in order to prove a point, out of respect.   But, if you force my hand with a CFR, I will unhappily oblige you with the evidence. 

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Posted
1 hour ago, pogi said:

Freedom, maybe you missed the part where I said that I basically agree with you in the general sense.   You just need to be a little less absolute in your statements.  The church and its leaders are not perfect, and presenting them as such is misguided.  Your apparent position of perfection is unsustainable. 

I don't know what you think my position is here, but I never made a statistical argument, and I don't need to know how many leaders over the past 30 years have used guilt and fear inappropriately to support my claim.  I only need a few examples (which I have).  You yourself acknowledge that I may be able to "quote mine" and find a few examples, so what's your beef?  

I could offer you some examples, but I don't like to unnecessarily air the imperfections of the brethren in order to prove a point, out of respect.   But, if you force my hand with a CFR, I will unhappily oblige you with the evidence. 

I did not mean you specifically. Claiming a reference to the last days is using fear is silly, just as advising of any consequences is using fear. it is using facts. Fear suggests using of threats. The leap goes from finding one or two quotes form individuals that can be perceived to be using fear, to claiming the church uses fear. There are no examples I can think of where the church uses fear. Yes, from time to time an individual may do so, but looking through the manuals of the church it just is not there. It is like saying a food chain uses addictive products to bring their customers back when in reality, the food chain happens to have a pharmacy and some of the drugs sold at the pharmacy may have addicting qualities. 

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