Bill “Papa” Lee Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 I have always had feet of clay, but today I had to go to Social Security Court. I was found after four years of being old and broke...I feel as if my manhood has been taken. So now comes the question, what will God mold out of this clay, and will I let him. My children are all grown, two of my eight grandchildren are now teens (Yicks!). When my advocate read the reasons that I should be approved, he said; "Mr Lee,is advanced in years" and something else, I stopped listening at that point. I sat in that chair for an hour and a half and had to be helped to my feet. It was kind of fun driven past all my old haunts as a police officer in the City of Atlanta, listening to classic rock, being by myself. But the hour and a half ride home was so hard on me that I could barley get up 5 steps. "Advanced age"...I am 59 years old.
saemo Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 A doctor I was going to once began a sentence with, "As we age....". I was about 42 years old at the time and seriously thought about kicking him in the shin. Ha. We are all a work in progress. 1
Guest Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 11 minutes ago, saemo said: A doctor I was going to once began a sentence with, "As we age....". I was about 42 years old at the time and seriously thought about kicking him in the shin. Ha. We are all a work in progress. True,,just never know what the product might be...at least in this life.
bluebell Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 That stinks Pa Pa! I had a baby when i was 36 and another when i was 37 and everything was all 'advanced maternal age' during both pregnancies (advanced maternal age is anyone over the age of 35!) It sucked! It really does make you feel decrepit.
The Nehor Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 Thank you for making a guy in his mid-30s feel young again. I can't believe I have to start planning my midlife crisis soon. 2
Tacenda Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 This happened to my father, Pa Pa. He was probably around your age or slightly younger. He had severe back pain stemmed from multiple surgeries. He broke his back when he was 17 and was in a body cast for two years. Later he had severe pain from the accident and surgeries which caused a lot of scar tissue. It got so bad his clothing would be soaked through with perspiration and his doctor told him he needed to quit his job and go on disability. He was so depressed after that. My mother wound up working full time to help with finances. This also killed my dad, it shouldn't have but he was the old fashioned type thinking he needed to be the provider. It was so hard to come home from school and see my dad in his chair playing solitaire on an old drafting board of his, nearly every day. Eventually things improved and he found things he could do to keep busy. He would make homemade soup or nightly dinners, or work on his fishing boat and go fishing. He even started gathering lawn chairs from the DI stores that had latticed backing and tearing those off and used yarn and a hook to make different patterns. He was known for his chairs. He did go on a lot of pain pills and pills to help him sleep, there were times that he got a little cranky, but that was to be expected. I know he'd have rather work, but what he did do was enough and probably too much. He also managed apartments, and that wasn't always easy, he was always helping or cheering those around him when they were down. I know you'd do the same or more, this is just a new door or an existing door that you've walked through that opens up to even more possibilities! 2
JLHPROF Posted June 16, 2016 Posted June 16, 2016 1 hour ago, The Nehor said: Thank you for making a guy in his mid-30s feel young again. I can't believe I have to start planning my midlife crisis soon. I'm smack in the middle of mine. Hating every second.
Okrahomer Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 4 hours ago, saemo said: A doctor I was going to once began a sentence with, "As we age....". I was about 42 years old at the time and seriously thought about kicking him in the shin. Ha. We are all a work in progress. You and my wife must be kindred spirits. 1
Okrahomer Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 4 hours ago, bluebell said: That stinks Pa Pa! I had a baby when i was 36 and another when i was 37 and everything was all 'advanced maternal age' during both pregnancies (advanced maternal age is anyone over the age of 35!) It sucked! It really does make you feel decrepit. Well, at least you avoided "elderly gravidarum" 1
Guest Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 4 hours ago, bluebell said: That stinks Pa Pa! I had a baby when i was 36 and another when i was 37 and everything was all 'advanced maternal age' during both pregnancies (advanced maternal age is anyone over the age of 35!) It sucked! It really does make you feel decrepit. I adopted my oldest daughter...they are 42, 38, 30, 25.
The Nehor Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 2 hours ago, JLHPROF said: I'm smack in the middle of mine. Hating every second. I am planning to have fun with mine instead of doing the chasing young women, buying a new car, and lamenting my past glories. Seems like a bit of a cliche. I focus on the fact that this is the only tiny stretch of eternity of being past my prime and that after this.......eternal youth with lots of surfing.
JLHPROF Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 3 minutes ago, The Nehor said: I am planning to have fun with mine instead of doing the chasing young women, buying a new car, and lamenting my past glories. Seems like a bit of a cliche. I focus on the fact that this is the only tiny stretch of eternity of being past my prime and that after this.......eternal youth with lots of surfing. Yeah..I just get to realize I can't afford anything and my life has basically gone nowhere. Other than a couple of wonderful blessings that I fully acknowledge (wife, 1.5 kids) I'm half done with nothing to show.
The Nehor Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 Just now, JLHPROF said: Yeah..I just get to realize I can't afford anything and my life has basically gone nowhere. Other than a couple of wonderful blessings that I fully acknowledge (wife, 1.5 kids) I'm half done with nothing to show. If you are going to be exalted you have plenty to show for it. 1
JLHPROF Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 24 minutes ago, The Nehor said: If you are going to be exalted you have plenty to show for it. Don't mind me. Just the old depression, doubts and anxiety. They are old acquaintances of mine.
Guest Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 38 minutes ago, JLHPROF said: Yeah..I just get to realize I can't afford anything and my life has basically gone nowhere. Other than a couple of wonderful blessings that I fully acknowledge (wife, 1.5 kids) I'm half done with nothing to show. Wife, kids, family...there is nothing else.
The Nehor Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 6 minutes ago, Pa Pa said: Wife, kids, family...there is nothing else. As someone who does not have the two former.......pretty much.
Guest Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 12 hours ago, The Nehor said: As someone who does not have the two former.......pretty much. I hope that what I said was not insensitive, I was speaking to his comment. We're it not for my wife, the only woman living who could see in me what I would never have seen, I am sure I would still be without family, at least my own. It was my wife who gave birth to all my dreams, turned the dreamer into a success and a poet in this life. But even before her family was all that mattered, my parents my siblings, my friends. I have two friends from my childhood, closer than any brother to this day. My life started out with a different name and a different past, as a horrible father left my mother and three children hopeless and alone. Then the "Father of the fatherless" reached down from heaven and placed in our path, a man who adopted all of us and gave us his name, a minister and man without guile. They are gone now, and I miss and think about them daily. They still speak to me through a lifetime of silent sermons. I esteem myself so fortunate and so blessed by all that I have suffered and all with which I have been blessed. You Nehor are so loved by all here, and your wit and wisdom are often a great blessing to this old man. I love you brother!
MorningStar Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 Relax and start selling some poetry books, Pa Pa! 3
The Nehor Posted June 17, 2016 Posted June 17, 2016 8 hours ago, Pa Pa said: I hope that what I said was not insensitive, I was speaking to his comment. We're it not for my wife, the only woman living who could see in me what I would never have seen, I am sure I would still be without family, at least my own. It was my wife who gave birth to all my dreams, turned the dreamer into a success and a poet in this life. But even before her family was all that mattered, my parents my siblings, my friends. I have two friends from my childhood, closer than any brother to this day. My life started out with a different name and a different past, as a horrible father left my mother and three children hopeless and alone. Then the "Father of the fatherless" reached down from heaven and placed in our path, a man who adopted all of us and gave us his name, a minister and man without guile. They are gone now, and I miss and think about them daily. They still speak to me through a lifetime of silent sermons. I esteem myself so fortunate and so blessed by all that I have suffered and all with which I have been blessed. You Nehor are so loved by all here, and your wit and wisdom are often a great blessing to this old man. I love you brother! No offense taken and thanks. 1
Stargazer Posted June 19, 2016 Posted June 19, 2016 On 6/16/2016 at 4:05 PM, JLHPROF said: I'm smack in the middle of mine. Hating every second. Well, I can't say I know exactly what Pa Pa is going through, as I am 64 (nearly 65) and still somewhat hale and hearty. But I've got sleep apnea, starting to develop neurapathy in the soles of my feet, and last year my wife died. I was definitely a candidate for mid-life crisis. Now, with a vigorous new wife 9 years my junior, I am suddenly rejuvenated! My incipient MLC is now terminated. And I plan to live to 100. 1
Guest Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 On June 19, 2016 at 4:43 AM, Stargazer said: Well, I can't say I know exactly what Pa Pa is going through, as I am 64 (nearly 65) and still somewhat hale and hearty. But I've got sleep apnea, starting to develop neurapathy in the soles of my feet, and last year my wife died. I was definitely a candidate for mid-life crisis. Now, with a vigorous new wife 9 years my junior, I am suddenly rejuvenated! My incipient MLC is now terminated. And I plan to live to 100. When I thing of the idea that some do live to 100... I am reminded of the line from the song; "Oh yeah, life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone". John Cougar Mellencamp
Jeanne Posted June 20, 2016 Posted June 20, 2016 On 6/19/2016 at 2:43 AM, Stargazer said: Well, I can't say I know exactly what Pa Pa is going through, as I am 64 (nearly 65) and still somewhat hale and hearty. But I've got sleep apnea, starting to develop neurapathy in the soles of my feet, and last year my wife died. I was definitely a candidate for mid-life crisis. Now, with a vigorous new wife 9 years my junior, I am suddenly rejuvenated! My incipient MLC is now terminated. And I plan to live to 100. Wonderful...I am happy for you...my Dad got married the 2nd time at the age of 88. He will be 96 tomorrow!! Up and until she got cancer..my Dad's second wife had him dancing every week! 2
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