MorningStar

Glady. Sorry, I don't know how to break things up into separate quotes, but I'll explain. My old bishop and stake president say this man's actions were a long time ago and that he's doing better. No he's not. I have many examples of him not doing better and being a danger to the ward. They try to keep his criminal history quiet because he repented. He's not on the registry anymore, but anyone can Google him and see that he was fired from a college for CP. He had thousands of files and he even admitted to sexting with minors who he found through online gaming. He presented himself in the chat as a tutor of math and that's how he reeled his victims in. My cop brother said someone must've screwed up his case because he should've been looking at a level 2 offense of "communicating with a minor for immoral purposes," but he got a misdemeanor charge for "attempting to deal in depictions of minors engaged in sexually explicit conduct." I have the audio of him talking to detectives and admitting everything. His files even contained babies, but prepubescent girls are his favorite. When he ended up in my ward (boundaries changed) my girls were 9 and 3. He was still excommunicated, but he was allowed to do musical numbers and he left me a voicemail asking me to play the piano for him. I ignored him. The ward music chair then called me and asked on his behalf. I told her I was pretty sure she knows his history and that what if I didn't know and brought my girls to rehearse with me? I said, "I would feel utterly betrayed by you when I found out later." She apologized and said she was in an awkward position. I was stake music chair and told her considering he wasn't even allowed to pray publicly, why should he be doing musical numbers? He kept crossing my boundaries. As soon as he touched me, I went to my new bishop and told him, "I had a prompting to Google him and this is what I found. Will you tell him he needs to assume we all know what he did and that women don't want him touching them?" He said yes and then he touched me again at the next activity. And then again in the chapel when I was just trying to get to my seat with my family. He put his hand on my shoulder and referencing my 9-year-old, he said, "You can tell who this one belongs to because she looks just like you." I was furious, but didn't want to make a scene in the chapel with the prelude playing. My bishop wasn't there because he was out of town, but as soon as he got back, I went to him again and he said he would tell him specifically not to touch me and he also told him not to talk to me for any reason. But he did. He stared at me for long periods of time. approached me with my 3-year-old next to me and said my name. I ignored him and he said my name louder. I left. He did that to me several times. Then on Mother's Day when my brother was visiting, he witnessed him starting at me for a long time and told me, "Pull his records. That guy needs to be on a short leash." I couldn't enjoy church anymore or activities because of him. I would complain to the bishop and then he would get another private talking to - a "reminder" to mind his boundaries. He went to ward choir when he wasn't supposed to. It was in someone's home. Oh, he "forgot." Considering how he wasn't respecting my boundaries, I told Bishop I didn't want him to participate in Messiah. He said, "I already told him he could do it." So he couldn't untell him? He ended up putting his hand on my friend's knee, she told him not to do that, he smiled, and then he sent her a friend request the next day. As stake music chair, I reported the behavior and my stake president said he was just trying to get her attention. By touching her knee? She also watched him run an instrument down a woman's back, watched for her reaction, and then looked pleased when she was annoyed. I could go on and on. I then got on a community women's forum and posted an article to his arrest, told my story, and said if he's acting like this when he's being watched, what's he doing in the community? It got back to my stake president and then I got called into the bishop's office for disclosing this man's past when he's trying to be blessed by the Atonement. Unreal. I can send you the email if you want. I can't even explain how hurt I am after dealing with this for almost a decade. We had to move our Christmas program to zoom at the last minute because it snowed. He played a solo and right after it was over, he started to get undressed. Someone texted his wife to alert her and so we don't know how much more he was planning to take off. My daughter and other children were going to perform and he was going to be in what state of undress? I thought, "Well that oughta do it." But months after that, he was called as the ward music coordinator and that gave the deviant and excuse to talk to families. He approached a teenage girl and said, "Your mom isn't answering. What song is your family going to do?" A friend called to fellowship his wife after surgery and she put my friends on speaker phone. He invited himself to the conversation and told her that he enjoys tutoring kids online and he finds them through online gaming. Exactly what he was doing when he was sexting them. I have the chat logs from the police. His LinkedIn also says he's looking for tutoring and teaching opportunities. I don't know how else to spell it out that he is not recovered. When I told my bishop about him staring at me, he said, "Well it's not like he has a thing for you." He also said I probably find him creepy because he has Autism. No, because he's a creep and he never stopped being a creep. This is a nightmare. Just a few weeks ago, after not attending our ward for over a year (going to his daughter's ward instead), he showed up to play for our ward variety show. A 12-year-old girl introduced him. Not OK. Afterward, a new woman in the ward said, "Now we know where to get accordion lessons." I lost it and left. People have asked, "What's the hard in just letting him perform?" That exact scenario. Those who don't know might hire him to teach their kids and he got to promote himself. That activity was put on by the primary. Of course he showed up for that one. I guess I'm back to not going to ward activities because I never know when he'll show up and I can't handle it anymore. I have a strong testimony of the church though and that's why I'm still here. He's just made it an unbearable experience and I can't believe he's allowed to go to ward Halloween parties. Last time he made a beeline for my friend who is very bothered by him, put his hand on her shoulder, and his knee up against her knee at her table. She wrote to him later and said, "If you ever touch me again, I will consider it assault and I'll call the police." He offered to help a family with their kids at that party. Unbelievable. I talked to a lawyer in January about my options and she said I could confront him if I saw him doing something I didn't like. Multiple people had told him to stick with the men, but he didn't. After two women wrote to him after the Halloween party, his first time back to church was a year ago January 19th. A friend came into the foyer crying because he upset her and I walked up to him afterwards and told him, "You bothered my friend. Women do not come to church to be bothered by you and considering your criminal history, you should not approach women." His wife then said, "And you are unforgiving." I snapped, "You need to keep him away from women!" I walked away and he told my husband, "Your wife needs to be more Christlike." I can't talk to my new bishop about this because I can't handle any comments like, "We shouldn't focus on his sins." Protect the flock from the wolf! I would need a therapist to help explain my view and his deviant, unrepentant behavior. Our state sucks. He should still be on the registry, but he's not. Also, he was made ward music coordinator to "help keep him active." Meanwhile, they have no idea what this is doing to me and others. Who's trying to keep us active?

That's really discouraging, but also not surprising. I will never talk to a priesthood leader again without a therapist present. People also have misguided views of what repentance is. If someone is forgiven, that doesn't mean we hide their past. That doesn't mean you trust them. I told a friend last night, "If someone breaks the law of chastity and gets herpes in the process, they can be forgiven, but they still have herpes. When you are a pedophile and you prey on kids, you have social herpes forever!"

What I've learned in unpleasant ways is that women will do what men won't. 😠 I confronted the pedo in my ward over a year ago and men kept saying, "We shouldn't focus on his sins." Bishops, if you can't handle confronting predators, find the angriest lady in your ward and she'll do it for you. For real.

Me: IS THAT A SLIVER OF A MOTORCYCLE OR NOT?!?! Too much pressure.

I heard that rumor too, but how could they take away music time from the kids especially?

I'm so sorry. Did you have a chance to meet her in person?

I think for those who are waiting for girlfriends/boyfriends, they can serve at the same time and be less of a distraction to each other because they'll be so busy. One of my "mission sons" has a girlfriend waiting for him, but she says he has to wait for her when she serves her mission. Now he won't have to wait for her as long! I'm so excited for him! They have a two year age difference.

Yeah, when the age was 21, that never made sense. I remember thinking if I wasn't married by then, then maybe I would have a hard time finding someone when I came back.

There are such weird reactions to this. People have said it might encourage more violence because it's rewarding murder. Oh brother! The shooter wasn't rewarded. He's dead. He did this knowing he would end up dead.

I'm so sorry. My cousin's son saw Charlie right after he was shot as he was coming out of a building after paying his fees. He was in the courtyard. Very shaken up. He has autism and had to call his mom because he couldn't even figure out how to leave campus.

It was the Seattle Temple. For my grandma, we scheduled her baptism at 7 am and I think the endowment session was at 11. Sealings were at 1ish? It wasn't that hard. Just a long day.

I did it recently and I loved it! We also did all of my grandma's work last year in one day.

I enjoyed meeting you too! What a wonderful surprise it was. 😁

Thank you so much for letting us know! I've missed her terribly and will continue to miss her. Love you, GG!