Emma Thompson: Women Who Work Can’T Be Great Mothers

[The Nehor]

We lived in New Mexico for about a decade. Things cost less, but pay was also far less. Before I retired I was making about 5 times more here in California, adjusted for inflation.

 

Sounds about right. I could get a 50% or more increase in pay by moving to the California coast but after expenses (especially housing) my purchasing power would go down.

[thesometimesaint]

Sounds about right. I could get a 50% or more increase in pay by moving to the California coast but after expenses (especially housing) my purchasing power would go down.

 

Lots depends on what part of California you live in. The San Francisco Bay Area. Forget about it. It has some of the highest cost of living in the country. Most places in Orange and Los Angeles counties are too expensive to. I don't see how a middle class family can make it there. Out here in San Bernardino county prices are far less, but incomes are just a little less. The plus is that I look out my front window into 12,000 ft. mountains, am an hour from the desert, and about a hour and a half from the ocean, depending on traffic. 

[Tacenda]

Lots depends on what part of California you live in. The San Francisco Bay Area. Forget about it. It has some of the highest cost of living in the country. Most places in Orange and Los Angeles counties are too expensive to. I don't see how a middle class family can make it there. Out here in San Bernardino county prices are far less, but incomes are just a little less. The plus is that I look out my front window into 12,000 ft. mountains, am an hour from the desert, and about a hour and a half from the ocean, depending on traffic.

That's ideal TSS, living so close to both mountains & ocean!

My nephew and his family have been living in Utah for the past few years but he and his wife grew up in California and in April they decided to move back there to live near both sets of families. They lived with his in-laws while looking for a home but as luck would have it, homes increased $100,000.00 in their Northern California town. They've since moved back to Utah after realizing they wanted to be in a better, more affordable area. It's too bad since both wanted to be back home with their families. Luckily they have cousins and aunts and uncles in Utah, so somewhat like family.

[thesometimesaint]

That's ideal TSS, living so close to both mountains & ocean!

My nephew and his family have been living in Utah for the past few years but he and his wife grew up in California and in April they decided to move back there to live near both sets of families. They lived with his in-laws while looking for a home but as luck would have it, homes increased $100,000.00 in their Northern California town. They've since moved back to Utah after realizing they wanted to be in a better, more affordable area. It's too bad since both wanted to be back home with their families. Luckily they have cousins and aunts and uncles in Utah, so somewhat like family.

 

Both sets of parents, nearly all aunts and uncles and lots of cousins have gone past the veil. All my kids, and grandkids, are within 10 miles of us. Home is where the heart is, and my heart is here.

[cinepro]

Just so I'm clear, we're supposed to take advice on family values from the woman who was in "Junior"?

[Helen47]

I understand in Sweden instead of putting the child in daycare they pay the mother to stay home for a couple of years. Some developmental psychologists have argued that research shows attachment problems if a child is placed in daycare too early.

[thesometimesaint]

I understand in Sweden instead of putting the child in daycare they pay the mother to stay home for a couple of years. Some developmental psychologists have argued that research shows attachment problems if a child is placed in daycare too early.

 

Agreed. The US has a long ways to go in its treatment of its children.