The Nehor Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Congrats, very happy for you. And a little jealous. But mostly happy.
Tacenda Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 6 minutes ago, The Nehor said: Congrats, very happy for you. And a little jealous. But mostly happy. I know, what's up with that?
Stargazer Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 3 hours ago, VideoGameJunkie said: Congrats which temple are you choosing? As I wrote, she is sealed to her late husband, so this is a Time Only marriage. We were married by my bishop in our meetinghouse on 3 March. 1
Stargazer Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 6 hours ago, Jeanne said: Nowadays...I think we all need a do over...what an election!!! You got that right! Wake me sometime after election day and let me know how it turned out. 1
Stargazer Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 3 hours ago, The Nehor said: Congrats, very happy for you. And a little jealous. But mostly happy. Oh, you can't be jealous, Nehor! Envious perhaps, and that's understandable. You'll find someone sometime, just have faith! The whole thing surprised the heck out of me. I think I told you once that I signed up on LDSSingles.com, and this was the result. She actually found me first, and the matter ran on rails from that moment on. I've asked my dear wife to have a look at this topic, and perhaps she will be inspired to sign up on the site and make her own comment, but if you smile just right, who knows? Some wonderful woman will see that smile and be inspired to get to know you! She said that it was my "cheeky smile" that caused her to have a look. I guess I described myself in my bio sufficiently well that she immediately felt a connection. 2
VideoGameJunkie Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 26 minutes ago, Stargazer said: As I wrote, she is sealed to her late husband, so this is a Time Only marriage. We were married by my bishop in our meetinghouse on 3 March. Well once you both pass, you can have your and her children do the sealings for you and you can be sealed to her one day.
Stargazer Posted March 22, 2016 Author Posted March 22, 2016 5 minutes ago, VideoGameJunkie said: Well once you both pass, you can have your and her children do the sealings for you and you can be sealed to her one day. Well, I'd love to have her for eternity, but that wouldn't be very fair to her late husband, who died both her faithful husband and member of the Church, now would it? He is my brother, and I would not want him left bereft of his beloved wife. I'm here to take care of her in life, as his proxy, but it wouldn't do to steal her away from him! Yes, I am aware that after we're both gone someone can seal us together despite the former sealing, but it won't be my doing. And his two children, to whom I am now stepfather, they certainly wouldn't do this, either. It's OK, VGJ, it is enough for me to have her for the brief time we have remaining to us in mortality. 4
Garden Girl Posted March 22, 2016 Posted March 22, 2016 Hello Stargazer... Mike... I'm very happy for you and enjoyed reading your story... all good wishes... GG 1
VideoGameJunkie Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 Stargazer can I ask a really deep question? It's okay if you don't answer. I've thought a lot about if I ever married how I would feel if a spouse died and how I'd feel if I found someone after that I loved. My question is do you think in God's eyes your wife's death no matter how painful it was, was a good thing because it led you to another person you love and can feel companionship with, or would you rather not have your first wife die, and have her still be alive with you, meaning you'd never fall in love with your second love? Because I look at people like President Nelson, Elder Oaks, and Howard W Hunter who have lost their first wives to death and then remarried and wonder if I should be jealous that they get to be sealed to 2 lovely women for eternity or more saddened for them that they had to go through the extreme painful experience of being a widow for a time.
Calm Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 VGJ, life is life. What ifs are meaningless in predicting actual behaviour because that is not what is happening now and we can never know how we react until we do. All they can do is tell us how we feel about something at any given moment in time. If you are so concerned about having as many wives as the next guy in eternity, you will be missing out on what companionship actually means and thinking of your marriage relationship more along the lines of possessions. One relationship is potentially infinite in love and joy, if you have that quality of love, why would you need more in the eternities as there will be no reason that you would lose that special someone and be alone as can happen here in mortality (and thus some currently marry again adter the death of a beloved spouse)? Mourn with those who mourn and celebrate with those who celebrate and quit comparing your life to others' lives and just live your own life to the best of your ability. It will make life more meaningful if you can do that. 3
ERayR Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 (edited) 10 hours ago, Calm said: VGJ, life is life. What ifs are meaningless in predicting actual behaviour because that is not what is happening now and we can never know how we react until we do. All they can do is tell us how we feel about something at any given moment in time. If you are so concerned about having as many wives as the next guy in eternity, you will be missing out on what companionship actually means and thinking of your marriage relationship more along the lines of possessions. One relationship is potentially infinite in love and joy, if you have that quality of love, why would you need more in the eternities as there will be no reason that you would lose that special someone and be alone as can happen here in mortality (and thus some currently marry again adter the death of a beloved spouse)? Mourn with those who mourn and celebrate with those who celebrate and quit comparing your life to others' lives and just live your own life to the best of your ability. It will make life more meaningful if you can do that. I utter a resounding Amen to what Calm has written. What if's are simply what might have been and one never knows what your reactions to might have beens would have been. One thing I have found out is that love is not divided between those you love but rather it is multiplied and sometimes multiplied exponentially. I have also come to the conclusion one should not worry about the what ifs but live the right now's. Edited March 23, 2016 by ERayR 1
ALarson Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 On 3/22/2016 at 11:07 PM, Stargazer said: The whole thing surprised the heck out of me. I think I told you once that I signed up on LDSSingles.com, and this was the result. She actually found me first, and the matter ran on rails from that moment on. I've asked my dear wife to have a look at this topic, and perhaps she will be inspired to sign up on the site and make her own comment, but if you smile just right, who knows? Some wonderful woman will see that smile and be inspired to get to know you! She said that it was my "cheeky smile" that caused her to have a look. I guess I described myself in my bio sufficiently well that she immediately felt a connection. Congratulations, Stargazer! I loved reading your story and following the links to read more of what you've written. You deserve every happiness after what you've been through and it sounds like you've found it It would be fun to hear from her (if she wants to join and post). (Congratulations to you, too ERayR!!!)
MorningStar Posted March 23, 2016 Posted March 23, 2016 Stargazer, out of all the people you've met from this board, am I your favorite? 1
Stargazer Posted March 24, 2016 Author Posted March 24, 2016 10 hours ago, MorningStar said: Stargazer, out of all the people you've met from this board, am I your favorite? Absolutely!!! 2
Daniel2 Posted March 24, 2016 Posted March 24, 2016 Just wanted to add my congratulations here in the Social Hall, Stargazer!!! Wishing you and your new bride every happiness! 1
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