Latter-Day Saints, white Evangelical value empathy the least

[The Nehor]

2 minutes ago, Navidad said:

So NPR generalizes from one conversation to a whole class of people. That doesn't seem like a good idea to me. 

Did you read the conversation and what they were referencing. All the books and podcasts they mentioned talking about the dangers of excessive or “toxic” empathy. This one conversation isn’t what started it or the sum total of the movement.

While phrased differently the goal of the whole “toxic empathy” thing seems to be that there are some people who are lost and godless. From the Toxic Empathy book:

“The erroneous conflation of love and empathy has convinced the masses that to be loving, we must feel the same way they do. Toxic empathy says we must not only share their feelings, but affirm their feelings and choices as valid, justified, and good. This confusion has not only made us a morally lost people but it’s also harmed the very people empathy-mongers claim they’re trying to help: the truly marginalized and vulnerable.”

“…someone who doesn’t follow Christ must first repent of their unbelief before they repent of anything else. That means we get to share with them who God is and what He’s done for us before we have any conversation about sexuality and identity.”

It is codswallop but buried in there is the idea that the maginalized and vulnerable who are godless aren’t actually marginalized and vulnerable. Once they repent we can talk but until then we have to make sure they suffer so they repent. As if God couldn’t punish the marginalized and vulnerable for their sins without the help of his ‘loving’ followers. It is also showing that those who think empathy it toxic if it is directed to the ‘undeserving’ have no real interest in trying to coexist in a pluralistic society. They want a trump card (pun intended) that they are right and want that reflected in how government functions. 

“God’s definition of what is good and loving will almost always contradict the world’s definition, which will inevitably put us at odds with mainstream culture. While this is uncomfortable, the sacrifice is worth it. The truth can change lives.”

Ignoring the obvious historical ignorance of Christianity being the dominant faith in many parts of the world throughout history we are still left with this pathetic siege mentality of the poor Christians fighting off the godless hordes of mainstream culture and doing this while they control the levers of power. It is pathetic. It does serve an important purpose though. If you are in charge there can be a duty of care to everyone under your governance. If you can still cast yourself as an oppressed minority you can pretend that oppression of others is just a security measure to protect yourselves. You can throw out all Christian virtues in the interest of survival. The old fascist “the enemy is both strong and weak” bit where the opposition is portrayed differently based on what your rhetorical point is.

[Calm]

8 minutes ago, Navidad said:

Can you tell us more about the "moral disengagement hypothesis?" I have never heard that term. I think I like it, but want ot know more. 

Isn’t it why people can do bad/unethical things without guilt or shame?

Stuff like I was only following orders, everyone else is doing it, it’s not as bad as, etc.

Nehor is addressing the form that dehumanizes the desired target if I understood him correctly…answering this to test if I did.  I must be bored because it makes more sense to wait till he answers.

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[Navidad]

1 hour ago, Eschaton said:

Yup, exactly. 

Regarding the most conservative religious groups, it's definitely white evangelicals and LDS:

There's a certainty word again - "definitely."   I would suggest that if we are looking at conservative as a broad-based adjective examined in its entirety, that in my experience in US and Mexican-based Christianity, Black Protestant Christians and Hispanic Christians may be (notice the uncertainty?) more conservative (overall) than are White Evangelical or non-Evangelical Protestants. The word "Conservative" can be used doctrinally and/or culturally, especially as it relates to the family and revealed truth. In that broad sense, I disagree that Whites out-conservative Blacks and Hispanics. I think that showed up in the last voting cycle and surprised many. My whole life, I have claimed to be conservative in my biblical interpretations (hermeneutics) and liberal in my social values. Being conservative in one does not guarantee being conservative in the other. I think one of the challenges is that we often think we know the "other"  better than the "other" knows themselves.  That is true from all points of view. Our apriori biases cloud our conclusions, and we would rather not let them go! They are part of our identity, and identity often gives us our purpose. 

[Calm]

10 minutes ago, The Nehor said:

…someone who doesn’t follow Christ must first repent of their unbelief before they repent of anything else. That means we get to share with them who God is and what He’s done for us before we have any conversation about sexuality and identity.”

You can’t talk with someone before they agree with your view of discipleship?  Because that seems to me to be what repentance is meaning here.

If anyone here holds this view (seems unlikely because they are here discussing stuff with others who follow Christ in different ways, including some who don’t view him as God even if they might agree with somethings attributed to him), would be interested in clarification because it seems identical to what the ones quoted are claiming others  are doing when the others allegedly demand “affirm their feelings and choices as valid, justified, and good”, only it is feelings and choices about beliefs of God and how to follow him.

[The Nehor]

3 minutes ago, Navidad said:

Can you tell us more about the "moral disengagement hypothesis?" I have never heard that term. I think I like it, but want ot know more. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moral_disengagement

Short version is that it is a method of convincing yourself or others that moral standards don’t apply in some circumstances. You shut down the willingness to condemn yourself for immoral behavior. You reframe this behavior as morally acceptable or good while maintaining the moral standard as still being good. It just has a bunch of exceptions.

It has a lot of forms but probably the most dangerous is dehumanization. When people are being called animals or inhuman or are portrayed as a kind of disease or infection it turns immoral actions into putting down a horse with a broken leg or healing the nation or the religious movement or whatever of a dangerous infection.

“illegal immigration is poisoning the blood of our nation.”
”illegal alien animal”
”The woke mind virus”
“***** Derangement Syndrome (TDS)”
”LGBTQIA groomers”
”Transgender witches”

Denying basic humanity and declaring that people are a disease or an impurity.

Christians are specifically susceptible to this kind of rhetoric since the Old Testament is full of it. God spends a lot of time lambasting the Israelites for not genociding hard enough and now the enemy who were spared are corrupting the nation with their weird religious practices and immorality and yada yada yada. 

 

Here is a fictional “good guy” justifying destroying a planet to preserve a greater whole:

 

[The Nehor]

7 minutes ago, Calm said:

You can’t talk with someone before they agree with your view of discipleship?  Because that seems to me to be what repentance is meaning here.

If anyone here holds this view (seems unlikely because they are here discussing stuff with others who follow Christ in different ways, including some who don’t view him as God even if they might agree with somethings attributed to him), would be interested in clarification because it seems identical to what the ones quoted are claiming others  are doing when the others allegedly demand “affirm their feelings and choices as valid, justified, and good”, only it is feelings and choices about beliefs of God and how to follow him.

You are assuming consistency and fairness is valued. They complain that all these degenerates are trying to force them to affirm and agree with their views while they are busy privileging their own views. You can see why they dislike empathy. It might make them realize that they are doing what they are accusing others of doing.

The old line still applies: “Every accusation is a confession.”

[Tacenda]

I like this analogy of the difference of empathy and sympathy:

The Muddy Trench

Two friends, Thomas and Samuel, were walking home through the countryside when they came across a neighbor, John. John had slipped off the main path and fallen deep into a muddy, rain-filled trench. He was cold, soaked, and utterly stuck, looking up at the steep, slick banks with a face full of despair.

Samuel rushed to the edge of the pit. He looked down at John, shook his head with pity, and said, “Oh, John, I am so incredibly sorry you are down there. That looks terrible. It must be so cold and miserable. I truly feel awful that this happened to you. Stay strong, my friend!”

Samuel stood at the top where it was dry, wringing his hands and offering comforting words from safety. This was sympathy. Samuel felt pity for John’s situation, but he remained separated from it, looking down from above.

Thomas did something different. Without a second thought, Thomas slid right down the slick, muddy bank into the trench. He dropped to his knees in the cold muck right next to John. He didn’t offer a speech. He just sat in the mud, wrapped his arm around John’s shivering shoulders, and looked him in the eye.

“I’m here,” Thomas said quietly. “It’s freezing down here, and it feels completely overwhelming. I’m going to sit here with you in the dark until we figure out how to climb out together.”

This was empathy. Thomas didn’t just look down with pity; he chose to enter into John's suffering, to feel what he felt, and to connect with him on his level.

 

 

[Navidad]

19 minutes ago, Calm said:

Isn’t it why people can do bad/unethical things without guilt or shame?

Stuff like I was only following orders, everyone else is doing it, it’s not as bad as, etc.

Nehor is addressing the form that dehumanizes the desired target if I understood him correctly…answering this to test if I did.  I must be bored because it makes more sense to wait till he answers.

I am not looking for a response, but I am wondering if our (LDS and non-LDS Christian) missionary efforts are not at times guilty of "deChristianizing the desire target." I wonder if there is a significant difference between dehumanizing and deChristianizing our targets, especially if we think of it in terms of doing symbolic violence to the other. Both non-LDS Christians and the LDS-Christians deChristianize all others who are not them. This starts out culturally and soon is integrated into doctrine. Then into dogma. Then it may become moral disengagement (I am trying to use that new term), even when it is meant to "advance the kingdom." What could be more justifiable than that?

In college, I was president of the Student Missionary Fellowship. As an adult, I served on the International Council of one of the largest Evangelical (uh-oh!) mission organizations in the world. Now as a 77 year old, I look back on all of that and reflect! I don't say any of this to diminish anyone but myself. It is wonderful to be old and to look back and "ponder" on all I have thought, believed, and done. Just my own personal reflection. 

[Tacenda]

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[Navidad]

23 minutes ago, The Nehor said:

Christians are specifically susceptible to this kind of rhetoric since the Old Testament is full of it. God spends a lot of time lambasting the Israelites for not genociding hard enough and now the enemy who were spared are corrupting the nation with their weird religious practices and immorality and yada yada yada. 

Wow! I will say a hearty Amen to that. Maybe we are saying the same thing. This is how I am putting it:

Edited 20 hours ago by Navidad

[Calm]

56 minutes ago, The Nehor said:

You are assuming consistency and fairness is valued.

I am not sure where you got this.  Not following your thought iow.

I just posted how it seemed they were complaining how wrong something was (insisting on conversion before engagement) when the other guy did it while acting like it was the righteous, healthy thing to do when they did it (repent first and then we will talk).

Which we apparently agree appears to be happening here.

I am willing to listen if someone who is doing this believes it’s not.  So that might be what you mean…I am open to there being another possibility, though it seems unlikely.

Edited 19 hours ago by Calm

[The Nehor]

56 minutes ago, Navidad said:

I am not looking for a response, but I am wondering if our (LDS and non-LDS Christian) missionary efforts are not at times guilty of "deChristianizing the desire target." I wonder if there is a significant difference between dehumanizing and deChristianizing our targets, especially if we think of it in terms of doing symbolic violence to the other. Both non-LDS Christians and the LDS-Christians deChristianize all others who are not them. This starts out culturally and soon is integrated into doctrine. Then into dogma. Then it may become moral disengagement (I am trying to use that new term), even when it is meant to "advance the kingdom." What could be more justifiable than that?

In college, I was president of the Student Missionary Fellowship. As an adult, I served on the International Council of one of the largest Evangelical (uh-oh!) mission organizations in the world. Now as a 77 year old, I look back on all of that and reflect! I don't say any of this to diminish anyone but myself. It is wonderful to be old and to look back and "ponder" on all I have thought, believed, and done. Just my own personal reflection. 

While it is probably a bit silly to try to gatekeep who is a true Christian I think dechristianizing is less likely to lead to outright cruelty the way dehumanization does. I mean, saying the Cathars weren’t Christians ended up having a similar effect but I think it is less likely to happen today.

[The Nehor]

7 minutes ago, Calm said:

I am not sure where you got this.  Not following your thought iow.

I just posted how it seemed they were complaining how wrong something was (insisting on conversion before engagement) when the other guy did it while acting like it was the righteous, healthy thing to do when they did it (repent first and then we will talk).

Which we apparently agree appears to be happening here.

I am willing to listen if someone who is doing this believes it’s not.  So that might be what you mean…I am open to there being another possibility, though it seems unlikely.

You’re right. I misread a phrase in your post and reversed the meaning. My bad.

[Calm]

1 hour ago, Tacenda said:

He dropped to his knees in the cold muck right next to John. He didn’t offer a speech. He just sat in the mud, wrapped his arm around John’s shivering shoulders, and looked him in the eye.

“I’m here,” Thomas said quietly. “It’s freezing down here, and it feels completely overwhelming. I’m going to sit here with you in the dark until we figure out how to climb out together.”

This was empathy. Thomas didn’t just look down with pity; he chose to enter into John's suffering, to feel what he felt, and to connect with him on his level.

This is dangerous empathy imo, if this is all the info we are given. A great example of it.  Now they can both freeze/get hyperthermia and die while feeling comfort in each other’s presence.   On the emotional side it is wonderful, being willing to endure with a sufferer so they are not alone.  That is love.  But it might be stupid love. If that was the only option, that might be the right choice (Is Thomas a father or husband?  If he is, does John even want him down there risking his life knowing he is responsible because Thomas gave him priority in that moment because I sure wouldn’t.)

There may be times when going in the ditch and suffering and even dying with another is the right thing to do.  Not all the time.

However, acting like something is harmful to others or suicide when it’s not is ridiculous and self centered.  So is abandonment and doing nothing just because the extreme isn’t wise. If no one else would be significantly harmed by one’s death, if it would be a miserable time, but both would survive with maybe some frostbite instead of John dying, etc.  Inflating the risks for one’s own benefit is wrong.  Making the other into something that doesn’t deserve companionship or comforting is sinful, imo.

A healthier version would be to tell Samuel to let John know he went to look for something to help pull him out, though it might take some time.  Maybe throw down his coat if that wouldn’t impede him in going for help.  Then once help came and they got John out, that is the time to stay with him until he is back able to care for himself.  Or if he could trust Samuel to intelligently look for help and not waste time, then Thomas could safely get in the ditch and wait with John until Samuel got back.

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[Calm]

1 hour ago, Navidad said:

the LDS-Christians deChristianize all others who are not them.

That would depend on how you define Christian and deChristianizing.  Most of us as far as I am aware allow the Christianhood of others who believe in Christ in different ways then we do.  We might at times believe they aren’t very good Christians or that they have some mixed up beliefs.  There are some idiots who talk about others “pretending” to do church and that certainly sounds like pretending to be Christian, but I am pretty sure what is usually meant the few times I have heard this was pretending to have authority, valid rituals, etc, not pretending to have belief.

[Calm]

22 minutes ago, The Nehor said:

You’re right. I misread a phrase in your post and reversed the meaning. My bad.

Not a problem.  I do that a lot.  I just like to understand how others understand me…at least approximately.

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[Navidad]

3 hours ago, Calm said:

That would depend on how you define Christian and deChristianizing.  Most of us as far as I am aware allow the Christianhood of others who believe in Christ in different ways then we do.  We might at times believe they aren’t very good Christians or that they have some mixed up beliefs.  There are some idiots who talk about others “pretending” to do church and that certainly sounds like pretending to be Christian, but I am pretty sure what is usually meant the few times I have heard this was pretending to have authority, valid rituals, etc, not pretending to have belief.

You are a wonderful person; a true believer in Christ. You just can't and therefore don't believe He believes in me as the same, just as I am with no help needed from the LDS church, its authority, its covenants, or its ordinances. Blessings, Navidad

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clarification

[let’s roll]

“One headline, why believe it?”

Words to live by. 🙂

[Calm]

3 hours ago, Navidad said:

You are a wonderful person; a true believer in Christ. You just can't and therefore don't believe He believes in me as the same, just as I am with no help needed from the LDS church, its authority, its covenants, or its ordinances. Blessings, Navidad

There are a few things that really piss me off and I have to take a moment to get my temper settled down.  One is insisting you know better than I do what I believe, what I can and can’t accept as truth.

And trust me on this as I would have noticed, I have never even raised an eyebrow of one of my leaders with my apparently nonexistent beliefs, never had a recommend held back or a calling rescinded.  Just more invites, more expressions of gratitude for my contributions, and more invites for callings.  The only thing that ever got even a wisp of blowback was me asking if my husband had to shave his beard to be on the High Council of our stake.

My belief…God accepts you fully as you are in the same way he accepts me fully.  It is not a belief in ordinances and authority that makes us acceptable to Christ.

I do believe he is preparing us to be able to accept all the blessings he wants to bestow on us.  I suspect that is where we differ, the gifts he wants to give out of love to his children.  I doubt either of us have received more than a minuscule amount of what he has waiting for us.  And you may have accepted many more than I have at this point even if you haven’t accepted some of the ones I have.

If you don’t understand what I am talking about….a parent takes his numerous children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren and all their spouses (and their parents and grandparents if they want to) out shopping once a year for birthday presents.  He actually owns the store and ensures everything there is something good, of value and then tells all of them to choose what they want.  There are some presents he needs to tell the little ones to wait to get till they are older, but he guarantees the items will be there when they are older enough.

Just because some of the group are younger doesn’t mean they aren’t just as much family as his adult sons and daughters are.  He treats everyone, even the in-laws as his nearest and dearest.  He sees in everyone his child, his friend….even the ones who sulk because they think this is childish and want to be out playing with other friends or even refuse to choose any gift at all that year.  It also gives him great delight whatever gift the family members choose if they take joy in them.

And btw, he adopts anyone who comes up and wants to be part of his family and treats them identical to his other children.  Turns out all, every last member started out as adopted.

And no, I don’t believe an ordinance is required to be adopted into the family.

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[Navidad]

9 hours ago, Calm said:

There are a few things that really piss me off and I have to take a moment to get my temper settled down.  One is insisting you know better than I do what I believe, what I can and can’t accept as truth.

And trust me on this as I would have noticed, I have never even raised an eyebrow of one of my leaders with my apparently nonexistent beliefs, never had a recommend held back or a calling rescinded.  Just more invites, more expressions of gratitude for my contributions, and more invites for callings.  The only thing that ever got even a wisp of blowback was me asking if my husband had to shave his beard to be on the High Council of our stake.

My belief…God accepts you fully as you are in the same way he accepts me fully.  It is not a belief in ordinances and authority that makes us acceptable to Christ.

I do believe he is preparing us to be able to accept all the blessings he wants to bestow on us.  I suspect that is where we differ, the gifts he wants to give out of love to his children.  I doubt either of us have received more than a minuscule amount of what he has waiting for us.  And you may have accepted many more than I have at this point even if you haven’t accepted some of the ones I have.

If you don’t understand what I am talking about….a parent takes his numerous children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren and all their spouses (and their parents and grandparents if they want to) out shopping once a year for birthday presents.  He actually owns the store and ensures everything there is something good, of value and then tells all of them to choose what they want.  There are some presents he needs to tell the little ones to wait to get till they are older, but he guarantees the items will be there when they are older enough.

Just because some of the group are younger doesn’t mean they aren’t just as much family as his adult sons and daughters are.  He treats everyone, even the in-laws as his nearest and dearest.  He sees in everyone his child, his friend….even the ones who sulk because they think this is childish and want to be out playing with other friends or even refuse to choose any gift at all that year.  It also gives him great delight whatever gift the family members choose if they take joy in them.

And btw, he adopts anyone who comes up and wants to be part of his family and treats them identical to his other children.  Turns out all, every last member started out as adopted.

And no, I don’t believe an ordinance is required to be adopted into the family.

Well, it took me three attempts at replying to your message to get my temper settled down. So we are in a similar situation in that regard. Where we are in a different situation is your second paragraph. You have not had negative experiences with your leaders because of your beliefs or lack thereof. And you speak of your relatives. I have had negative experiences with local LDS leaders. And . . . the only close relative I have in the world is my wife. I have no children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, nor spouses of the same for me to love, buy gifts for, or who love me.  She is dying and there is not a thing I can do about it, more than pray for a miracle.

So no, I don't know what you are talking about, except I guess you are defining me as a little one who must wait until I am a bit older . . . . or older enough (or mature enough to accept the gifts that God through the LDS church has to offer me— most likely after death) and thus, ultimately receive God's good and perfect gifts. 

I am so tired of offering to share love, fellowship, worship, and ministry with my local LDS community and having that offer rejected, while calling me "brother" and smiling at me in the grocery store and asking about my wife. It feels like a charade and it angers me. I don't dare share that anger with them because their blind spots and justification of their position would cause them to be aghast at my response to their "love and kindness". Hogwash! or Hogwarts! — once Dolores Umbridge was headmaster! She (Dolores) even constantly referred to the "handbook" to impose her will on staff and students. Sounds familiar to me, a lived experience, even if it hasn't been so for you. 

So yes, I had to revise and cut down my response to you as you may have had to do to me. It is only the highest of high regard that I have for you that caused me to edit and edit and edit. It is good I did. Anger doesn't solve many things. 

One last thing for now . . . . this week our new bishop and one of his counselors came by to visit us. It was a kind visit. We were invited "back" to the ward to participate as we feel led. He is a genuine and kind leader, whose father I have known for years. That was a significant and kind offer, something our stake president and my friends in church leadership assured me might happen with a bishopric change. To be honest, it did feel as if, to use Tacenda's parable a few posts above, they were being Samuel. Sympathetic, but not willing or able to get involved. 

It came time on Saturday to decide about attending on Sunday. My wife indicated she didn't think she could. I assured her I would help her to get in and out of the church. That wasn't her concern. Her concern was that she has lost so much weight that she only has slacks she can wear out in public and the ladies in the ward would all be in dresses. Seeing her cry about what to wear to worship broke my heart again. She lacks the defiance that I might have in freely wearing a blue dress shirt to the ward. Now, I am often told that "colony Mormons" are conservative; but there is a big difference between conservative and judgemental. Ha! It is the difference between being Evangelical and Fundamentalist! You knew I couldn't resist that. I would rather not refuse the gift (to use your terminology) that the bishop and his counselor offered us. I just need to get to Walmart in the states tomorrow and buy some skirts or dresses in a smaller size. I can't expect the ladies in the ward to lower their expectations for a dying friend, but that makes me angry and in my mind separates the Fundamentalists from the Evangelicals which is why I respond sometimes (ok, most of the time) when folks here continue to conflate and confuse Evangelicals and Fundamentalists, who are indeed two different species of Christian. OK. I have responded enough . . . . yeh, too much. I think the world of you, your unique wisdom, and your kindness. It is an easy and quick task for me to get over being angry with you. Blessings, Navidad.  

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[Doctor Steuss]

On 10/20/2026 at 11:41 AM, Eschaton said:

Empathy is a traditional Christian value [...]

Not just Christian, but a key component that Christianity carried over from its Jewish roots.  Rabbinical writings often emphasize it as being the core of the Torah (accounts of Rabbi Hillel's teaching moments likely being the most well-known).

[Eschaton]

23 minutes ago, Doctor Steuss said:

Not just Christian, but a key component that Christianity carried over from its Jewish roots.  Rabbinical writings often emphasize it as being the core of the Torah (accounts of Rabbi Hillel's teaching moments likely being the most well-known).

Indeed! Jesus himself was not in any sense a Christian, but Christian empathy derives from his Jewish teachings, which did not emerge in a vacuum. 

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[teddyaware]

37 minutes ago, Eschaton said:

Indeed! Jesus himself was not in any sense a Christian, but Christian empathy derives from his Jewish teachings, which did not emerge in a vacuum. 

Are you asserting that Jesus was not in any sense a worshipping Christian because he himself was the Christ and therefore the object of Christian worship, or are you saying that in spite of the fact that the teachings of Jesus establish the very justification for and doctrinal foundation of Christianity that he somehow didn’t actually believe what he was teaching? Or is your claim based on the belief that Jesus is inaccurately quoted in the New Testament and that New Testament is therefore fraudulent?

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[longview]

34 minutes ago, Eschaton said:

Indeed! Jesus himself was not in any sense a Christian, but Christian empathy derives from his Jewish teachings, which did not emerge in a vacuum. 

not in any sense? You missed the part where Jesus insisted on being baptized - - -

2 Ne 31:5.And now, if the Lamb of God, he being holy, should have need to be baptized by water, to fulfil all righteousness, O then, how much more need have we, being unholy, to be baptized, yea, even by water! 6.And now, I would ask of you, my beloved brethren, wherein the Lamb of God did fulfil all righteousness in being baptized by water?

Matt 3:40.Thus came John, preaching and baptizing in the river of Jordan; bearing record that he who was coming after him had power to baptize with the Holy Ghost and fire.
41.And then cometh Jesus from Galilee to Jordan, unto John, to be baptized of him;
42.But John refused him, saying, I have need to be baptized of thee, and why comest thou to me?
43.And Jesus, answering, said unto him, Suffer me to be baptized of thee, for thus it becometh us to fulfill all righteousness. Then he suffered him.
44.And John went down into the water and baptized him.
45.And Jesus when he was baptized, went up straightway out of the water; and John saw, and lo, the heavens were opened unto him, and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and lighting upon Jesus.
46.And lo, he heard a voice from heaven, saying, This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased. Hear ye him.

[Navidad]

17 hours ago, The Nehor said:

While it is probably a bit silly to try to gatekeep who is a true Christian I think dechristianizing is less likely to lead to outright cruelty the way dehumanization does. I mean, saying the Cathars weren’t Christians ended up having a similar effect but I think it is less likely to happen today.

I agree with the silliness of gatekeeping. I would simply suggest that dechristianizing is indeed cruel, causes soul wounds, and as in the case of many members of the LDS Church has created epigenetic wounds, down through generations. It has created an identity for them as a persecuted people, as it has for the Mennonites.

I am unsure what you mean by "it" in your last sentence, but if the "it" you refer to in your last phrase is physical violence, I agree with you. The challenge with the violence perpetrated today is that while it is less physically violent, that does not mean "it" is less violent in other ways. The anger in some in this forum over having had Fundamentalists - or Evangelicals, if you must, strip LDS folks of the validity and genuineness of their faith is indeed palpable. I have great empathy (to tie it into this thread) in me, as I know what it is like to be dechristianized by the LDS, however subtly and smilingly delivered. Today the language is much more subtle than in decades past, but it is equally as palpable for the recipient (whether LDS or non-LDS), regardless of the source. The Hopi remind us that the wounds also apply to the perpetrator as well as the recipient, especially over time.  Speaking of the Cathars or Albigenses, there are those, rightly or wrongly, who identify them as precursors to both the primitive and magesterial reformations. That could certainly be debated; however the Albigense regions of Europe, especially in France were the same regions where centuries later the reformers flourished. The correlation may not suggest causation, but it is interesting that you mention them. Best wishes.