Prayer for Dear Dad

[Pyreaux]

My dad Ray has dementia and had an asphyxiation incident (the state or process of being deprived of oxygen), as well as recent bowel troubles. I'm hoping he doesn't pass tonight, or tomorrow or this weekend. I believe in the prayers of many, it has worked all my life. Priesthood blessings, not so much. Prayer circles, many times. So, I have plenty of faith in it. Thanks, in advance.

[InCognitus]

Will do.

[Calm]

1 hour ago, Pyreaux said:

My dad Ray has dementia and had an asphyxiation incident (the state or process of being deprived of oxygen), as well as recent bowel troubles. I'm hoping he doesn't pass tonight, or tomorrow or this weekend. I believe in the prayers of many, it has worked all my life. Priesthood blessings, not so much. Prayer circles, many times. So, I have plenty of faith in it. Thanks, in advance.

Is there a reason why you want it delayed or are you just not ready yet to let go (a valid reason and I am not telling you praying for this is wrong, but as someone who has an excellent chance of facing dementia and having seen my mother and grandmother experience it, my belief for me and my family is sooner is better).

[3DOP]

Prayers for Ray, dad of Pyreaux. And prayers for Pyreaux, son of Ray. And when the times comes, consolation for all loved ones of Ray.

[Pyreaux]

38 minutes ago, Calm said:

Is there a reason why you want it delayed or are you just not ready yet to let go (a valid reason and I am not telling you praying for this is wrong, but as someone who has an excellent chance of facing dementia and having seen my mother and grandmother experience it, my belief for me and my family is sooner is better).

Because I believe he has more fight, this is so sudden. The siblings are planning pilgrimages. They need time. Not have him go while it's just me here. I have my own affairs to wrap up soon this year before he goes anywhere. I seek a new stable plateau, which is entirely possible with a little luck and good fortune. A little hard to explain, but like the 100 questions I wanted to ask my mom before she passed. God gave me that and a year longer than doctors said. Selfish? Maybe, but I think they'd still have wanted that.

[Tony uk]

Prayers said for Ray 

[Calm]

9 hours ago, Pyreaux said:

Because I believe he has more fight, this is so sudden. The siblings are planning pilgrimages. They need time. Not have him go while it's just me here. I have my own affairs to wrap up soon this year before he goes anywhere. I seek a new stable plateau, which is entirely possible with a little luck and good fortune. A little hard to explain, but like the 100 questions I wanted to ask my mom before she passed. God gave me that and a year longer than doctors said. Selfish? Maybe, but I think they'd still have wanted that.

I don’t believe it is selfish to want to say goodbye or want to be able to take one’s time and make more memories to hold on to…and if he is still able to give you meaningful answers, that’s not unselfish either to want to get some resolution or family history or just complete the picture of your dad, filling in the gaps that might be left that you weren’t aware of because it takes you experiencing life to realize you don’t know something or whatever those questions are about.  It sounds like you have thought about it carefully and it’s not just an emotional refusal to accept their new reality as can happen when death approaches even when one wants what’s best for our loved ones.

I hope and pray that you get your time and answers that you need.  I would have loved that for myself.   

Edited Saturday at 03:08 PM by Calm

[Pyreaux]

The nurse just came, as he was breathing an hour ago, body still warm. He just passed. I'm still grateful for all that your prayers have done in the past. I won't be told, "Ye have not because you ask not." Its as articulate as I can be right now.

[Tony uk]

You are also in my prayers Pyreaux.

[Calm]

1 hour ago, Pyreaux said:

The nurse just came, as he was breathing an hour ago, body still warm. He just passed. I'm still grateful for all that your prayers have done in the past. I won't be told, "Ye have not because you ask not." Its as articulate as I can be right now.

I am sorry you didn’t get the time desired.  That hurts.

[bluebell]

Prayers for comfort and strength Pyreaux, I’m so sorry. 

[manol]

Prayers for you Pyreaux.   I think you can still talk to him. 

Edited Sunday at 12:24 AM by manol

[AnchoredinChrist]

I hope you will be able to move through your grief with the most support possible. Please feel free to update us going forward.