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It's not strictly a moral issue.

I'm curious about the defenders. Those chairs sound rather dangerous folding all over the place. Are you sure they need defending?

You may only be able to see this on Instagram. Sorry, I tried finding it elsewhere. "The Young Men General Presidency trying to come up with equally whimsical names." https://www.instagram.com/reel/DXYc7A6gRtA/?igsh=MWdqdTltZHZkcDh5Yg==

That is good to know. It felt a little like a hammer of "you should do this thing that I'm doing" so it is good to know it is a reminder for yourself. I get that it is a good thing (the book is now on my list of books to read) and you're excited to share what you're learning and I'm good with that. Incidentally, I know I bring this book up a lot, but 7 Habits of Highly Effective People go right along with what you have quoted here, specifically habits 4 and 5 of thinking win-win and seek first to understand and then be understood, though those habits build on the first 3.

Does "deacon" have a meaning? Or "priest"? Teacher does. I go back and forth of whether priest does, mostly because the meaning I have in my mind seems to fit better outside the church than in. But then very little of what teachers in the church do today is teach. So it kind of feels like the YW titles are reminders of how they should act, but AP are job titles.

It's interesting to me that he felt that the "decided are always gentle" means calmness and tranquility. To me, calmness and tranquility are things you feel inside yourself for yourself. Others may feel it in you and may start to feel it in themselves because of you, but it is definitly a way one feels within for themselves. Gentleness, on the other hand is a way to treat others (often because of the calmness inside). I think sometimes people feel calm (or think they do when they may just feel "right"), but are not gentle to others. So one should be decided because of the peace they feel inside, but gentle with others affected.

I spent last Tuesday with an Afghan woman learning to make Afghan food. She had an electric coffee carafe that she used several times for making the meal that had nothing to do with coffee. After seeing how quickly she was getting the water hot, I was thinking of getting one of those for myself! I've occasionally thought of getting a tea kettle for the same reason, but this was even better! I know that's not what you were talking about, but saying something about not having to drive 20 min reminded me of how convenient coffee and tea items can be!

Personally, I think it has always been a mixed message, but people just didn't recognize it. There have been so many things said back in patriarchal blessings over the years (check your grandparent's and great grandparent's) about the worth of women and the gifts given to them. If someone truly believes theirs came from God they ought to be open to what God wants them to do outside the home as well as inside. I can tell you mine never says anything close to something like "only in the home or as a mother" and I would be surprised if there was more than a handful that did if any. Then there are so many lessons on finding your talents or gifts and magnifying them in some way. I'm pretty creative and could probably easily connect any gift to motherhood, but do people really think that's what those lessons are saying?

It is not just older people making those kind of comments.

I just looked it up on Instagram (couldn't see it here). Some people are saying this makes motherhood sound less important. Others are saying "we" shouldn't have a lot of professional women, but should be emphasizing motherhood. Others are saying the church needs more messaging like this.

What are the comments saying?

Yes. I actually just got done writting a very long text to someone about this. She is teaching Elder Stephenson's talk on Peacemaking and asked if I would say something in class or write something. Basically I told her peacemaking isn't just playing nice and not making waves. Peacemaking is both sides trying to truly understand and see the other's heart and then try to work it out with that understanding. Stephen Covey talks about both sides winning. In most cases of things that matter, if only one side wins, then both sides actually lose. I find if I go in trying to understand my husband better that it helps him to trust me enough to try to understand me better when I speak up for how I'm feeling too. He knows I'm not just in it for the win. And vice versa.

To be clear, I'm no longer a believing member. I was just trying to help. I'm really the wrong person to ask because long before I no longer believed I saw the devastating affects of alcohol on family members and friends and while I am ok with others drinking I won't provide it for anyone. However, I have bought a lot tea and coffee for non members when I was a believing member. Honestly, like calm said, these questions are really only questions your wife can answer. Different members will feel different ways. Be patient with her as she may not be aware herself of why she feels certain ways. I hope you get some understanding of why she feels how she feels and that she gets some understanding of where your heart is with this gift.

Is there any chance your brother doesn't handle alcohol well? Could thatbe the reason? Or perhaps it is because you approached it together with the kids, but you left her out of the choice for your brother?

Here in Tempe ASU has a place where they sell stuff they are not using - computers, monitors, chairs, file cabinets, office things and then random things like mugs, balls or who knows. You might check any college near you to see if they have something like that.

It's a badly designed question. I think it can't be answered with true or false. There will be things he says you know is true, some things you are not sure of and some things you may think he is wrong on. If he says you should be kind to children do you really need to pray about it? However if he says something you're not sure of or feel is wrong why wouldn't you pray about it? At the very least you could pray about having faith with the leader on this matter. So neither answer fits. I would have written in something like, "neither" and then explained why.

POSSIBLE SPOILERS POSIBLLE SPOILERS It had something to do with why they had to drop down to collect the bacteria to get more since they already had some and growing more since the best place to grow it would be in the dot stream. We both thought maybe the book explained that better.

Usurp means to wrongfully cease. With that scripture, I don't see a problem with women being in authority over men as long as they didn't actually usurp it. I don't think the writer would have liked men usurping authority either. That doesn't mean that the writer is ok with women having authority, I'm just talking about how people shouldn't worry about women having authorty over men given how this scripture talks about wrongful ceasure.

We watched Project Hail Mary and thought it was a good movie with heart. We, especially my engineer husband, thought there were a few explanations that didn't quite make sense, but they didn't stop us from enjoying the movie. We wondered if that was a movie script problem or a problem in the book as well. I really wish that there was more of Carl in the movie as I loved what happened between him and Grace, but honestly, I'm not sure how you could do much more of that given the plot.

I'm so glad she is doing well, and I'm sad about your dad. I just saw this thread and said a prayer after reading your original post, so even though it was too late for that, I hope she continues to do well.

We saw Solo Mio last week. Loved it! My husband loved it too. Definitely worth seeing. Thanks for the suggestion @MustardSeed

Thanks for answering. 😀 I don't think so. I haven't fundamentally changed. There are things I notice now that I didn't before, but overall I am the same person. What did it for me was saying something about the only person when even as a teenager I knew people in the church who had similar concerns of God and his answers. Nehor is unique, but his trying to be faithful while he struggles with God and God's answers are not, so the only person line came across as not sincere to me. Thanks for clearing that up.

I deeply believe in God and that He loves us. Because of what you have said here, even with that belief, I've just had to decide to trust that whatever is happening, if I put my trust in him and do what I think he wants me to do things will be ok. It also means I have to trust that he also loves those who don't believe he is there and things will be ok. I'm not saying this to bear testimony to you. Just that because of the things you have said it has made me have to work differently with how I believe. I have to trust my feelings and not what others might say.

I really wanted to see that this week. I wanted to have my sink back in the bathroom more so we didn't see it, but I'm hoping for this week.