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I am in the doghouse. It is so bad that my wife aid she questions the entire foundation of our marriage! What did I do? My sister in law suggested my brother might like a bottle of Utah brewed whiskey for his birthday while he is here for a couple of days from California. So I went in halfsies with my sister and got him a bottle. When my wife came home from work and learned what I had done, she was so angry and hurt and said she felt betrayed. I tried to explain that I don't have any intention of consuming at all and my family knows it. I felt that it would help my brother and sister and parents feel I accept them and see their wants above my personal morals. I also don't see alcohol as inherently evil. We have been asked not to consume it as members currently, but I don't think non-members who casually drink represent evil. Now to add one wrinkle - recently my wife and I decided we would pay for drink for our kids who have left the church when we take them out for dinner on their birthdays etc. We used to say we would pay for the dinner, but the drinks were on them. But we decided it felt weird and alienated our kids, so we agreed to start just letting them order what they would like and paying the entire bill. So why is she ok with that, but now somehow angry with me to the point of telling me I am betraying our marriage and she feels like she needs to separate herself emotionally for her 'safety'? help