Guest Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 The issue with engagement before a mission, is that over that 2 year period each are growing in different directions due to different experiences. Now if both are serving missions these will be shared experiences...but the age that missionaries are serving now, it is too young for engagements.
Meadowchik Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 doesn't that kind of grind against the idea of eternal companion? I don't think so. "Eternal companion," imo, implies from now to eternity, which is infinite. It does not necessarily imply to both directions for infinity. On the other hand, being married to someone in the temple and believing they're the one doesn't mean they are. That blessing is contingent upon the righteousness of both. It is a noble goal, but it's one of those things we move toward and don't necessarily know the outcome of in this life.
Meadowchik Posted July 21, 2015 Posted July 21, 2015 The difference between waiting and formal engagement is commitment. For something called eternal companionship, I would figure this kind of trial would be encouraged.We are so committed and obedient with things in this church, why is this so different? We are told that having the faith of Abraham or Job is a good thing for anything else. Why not this? Might as well just use arranged marriages then. There was a fella in my stake who my parents liked and his parents liked me. They thought we'd be great together. Didn't happen though. "Eternal companionship" is a name for the goal, though, which cannot be forced. The goal is so important that there is wisdom in having a generous amount of freedom before the actual ceremony in order for both people to enter into it with their full, whole-hearted consent.
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Kenngo1969 Posted July 22, 2015 Posted July 22, 2015 Ah, so this is one of those, "Make money posting links on the Interwebz" dealios. Gotcha.
Rain Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 Having not read the thread yet I am clarifying my vote and then get back to the thread. I said, "no", but believe some could work out. I just feel it isn't a good thing. I knew I would be marrying my husband before we both went so that wasn't a big deal to me. I just think it stunts growth when you get engaged before you go.
Rain Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 Well, the rule about being married isn't such a hard a fast rule as the Church news a bit ago profiled a young sister who was divorced and she went on a mission, after getting First Pres. approval. I am quite sure there have been people who got engaged before their missions and got married upon arrival. There is a yung sister in our Stake that got a mission call to Poland and then a RM who served here came back and now they are engaged to be married. The theological implications of her, or anyone, not serving after getting a mission call is something I don't understand but life moves on!There was a divorced sister in my mission 26 years ago.
Rain Posted July 23, 2015 Posted July 23, 2015 (edited) doesn't that kind of grind against the idea of eternal companion? How many of you feel the same as Canard78?I don't believe in it either. I knew I would get married to my husband because the Spirit told me before we left. I didn't believe it at the time. As I grew to believe I felt very strongly that I needed to allow him to have agency so I never told him- I also felt I had agency in following the "advice". When I came home he was engaged for a very short while. I still felt strongly that we would get married, but if not I could be happy with someone else. So I feel I had the ONE, but he wasn't the only ONE for me. Edited July 23, 2015 by Rain 2
Bee Sweet Posted October 11, 2015 Posted October 11, 2015 I have a grandson who just got home from Cape town South Africa. He was sweet on a girl before he left. She decided to serve a mission and will be home soon, I think things might just happen for them.Heck, I was engaged to several missionaries at the same time. Is that wrong?
Jeanne Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I was married 40 years and it ended badly. I'm pretty much against marriage now. People crazy enough to try it, my best to them. I know I'll never do it again.I love your honesty!
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