MorningStar Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 Yes, there are definitely some women who get some kind of weird power trip from toying with men's emotions. I don't get them. So tell us specifically about the woman who made you feel stupid so we can address how lame she is. 1
oats Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 See my post #13. Thanks. When I read that post I was reminded of a thread I saw on reddit a few months back regarding the 'friendzone'. Maybe it's relevant maybe it isn't. Seems to be along the same lines as post #13, albeit with a different lingo. When I searched the word on reddit there were tons of threads about it. I guess the feeling is common.
Duncan Posted November 5, 2011 Posted November 5, 2011 When I read that post I was reminded of a thread I saw on reddit a few months back regarding the 'friendzone'. Maybe it's relevant maybe it isn't. Seems to be along the same lines as post #13, albeit with a different lingo. When I searched the word on reddit there were tons of threads about it. I guess the feeling is common.The problem though with friends is while it is necessary to be friends with the lady first then hot to trot for each other it is almost all or nothing. If you say I want to extend this friendship to a relationship and they say "you must be joking?" then the friendship could be strained to almost nothing but if you pour your guts out to them, and they don't laugh and say 'this is soooo going on facebook right now!" and they reciprocate then fine and dandy. the key indicator is to somehow see where they are at and if you really like them and they you, then go for it
Kenngo1969 Posted November 6, 2011 Author Posted November 6, 2011 I'd be interested in your findings if you want to share them sometime.I put that danged paper in a "special" place away from the rest of my portfolio because it stands out in quality: I've gotten better grades on other work, but I got a solid "B" on that one (in law school, no less; if I had law school to do over again, I would have queried professors, "By any chance, is the majority of my grade in your class to be determined by a paper rather than by an exam?" And if the answer had been in the affirmative, I would've taken the class! "Feminist Perspectives On The Law"? Sign me up, bab-- Er, you know what I mean!). But I can't remember where my "special" place for it is: it's the only one of my works I'm interested in keeping, but of which I cannot now find either a soft or a hard copy. If and when I find it, I'll let you know. (Since I'm not interested in having what's left of my hair set on fire for any unpopular/politically-incorrect views it may espouse, I'll PM you with it if-and-when I find it. )
Kenngo1969 Posted November 6, 2011 Author Posted November 6, 2011 (edited) Yes, there are definitely some women who get some kind of weird power trip from toying with men's emotions. I don't get them. So tell us specifically about the woman who made you feel stupid so we can address how lame she is. Oh, I just wish the site on which we began our interaction included an option like this: "I'm looking for a (a) friend; (b) serious relationship; (c ) et cetera." "What's the problem, Ken? She was looking for (a), you were looking for (b)!" Our interaction was complicated somewhat by something of a language barrier and possibly some cultural differences. As my opening post indicates, many women don't make us (or is it just me ) feel stupid on purpose or out of malicious intent; another common possibility is that they do it unintentionally, perhaps (in many cases) even unknowingly. (Besides, I'm the one who's lame! You know, as a person with Cerebral Palsy, political correctness now demands that I become upset when someone uses the word "lame" colloquially like that! ) (Yes, I know my disability opens up yet another minefield when it comes to relationships! That's another topic for another day!) Edited November 6, 2011 by Kenngo1969
mercyngrace Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 (edited) Ken,You've taken a whole lot of offense where none was intended.1. I wasn't defending anyone because this is the social hall - not a place for debate or defensiveness.2. I was trying to throw some humor in the mix because YOU seemed to be annoyed that Cal was derailing your thread about how women make men feel stupid.3. I don't do drive-bys. I have a life. Sometimes it actually occurs away from my laptop.4. If you are going to publicly accuse me of being rude, don't bother following it up with a private message.5. Perhaps the real issue you're having with women has less to do with your thick head than with your thin skin.And finally,It's easy to take pot shots at someone who chooses a user name like mercy and grace but take a good look at those words, Ken - neither of them is spelled P-E-R-F-E-C-T and I've never suggested as much. Least of all when it comes to my attempts at online humor. In any case, I was trying to bring a laugh to what seemed like a rising level of frustration (as evidenced by you calling Cal out for taking over your thread.)ETA: Ken, you should look up the word rant. I definitely can rant. But you've never seen me do that, I assure you. LOL! And if you ever get the chance, you'll realize just how badly you've applied that word in this case. Edited November 6, 2011 by mercyngrace
mercyngrace Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 (edited) Apparently, this thread might have struck a nerve with some people. He says, "Sacred cows are best butchered and barbecued." I'm very sorry, but I think that the notions that women neither possess any power over men nor are they ever the least bit tempted to misuse it are sacred cows which are best butchered and barbecued.Ken, you are the only one upset here. It seems to be your nerves that have been struck. Notice how Bluebell immediately knew I was joking. You're the one with your panties in a bunch, dude. Chill out.FWIW, I agree that women hold a lot of power over men and that some misuse it. There's no gender qualifier for being an abuser. Edited November 6, 2011 by mercyngrace 1
blackstrap Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 Ken may have gotten his shorts in a bunch,but if he got his "panties" in a bunch ....he has other issues that probably should be cleared up first..
Skylla Posted November 6, 2011 Posted November 6, 2011 That's enough about Ken's panties. Thread closed as the discussion is less than congenial.Skylla
Recommended Posts