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MustardSeed

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  1. I can’t speak to these stats because I don’t know anything about that. What I do know, is that I live in the Pacific Northwest and I can speak anecdotally to the damage that comes from church leaders who don’t “get it”. Sexual abuse is particularly problematic due to the fact that there is so much resistance to believe such horrible things actually happen. I mean, I think most people understand that it does happen, but when it actually happens, and you are thinking of a person that you care about or are involved with socially and it’s hard to imagine that that person could possibly do something so heinous. So what happens is that there is a lot of guarding, denial, resistance, etc. to facing reality and doing what’s needed to protect people. Especially when it comes to clergy IME. In our church, the main task of our bishops and s president is to bring people to Christ. That means they’re doing the work of repentance with people constantly. The business of trauma healing? Not in a bishop’s wheelhouse. Not trained for that. Not their job. I’ll refer again to my experience as a therapist having wrestled with Bishops who tend to protect the offender. I am going to assume (I acknowledge that I might be wrong, but I certainly hope I’m not ) that Bishops in other states get a little more training or at least there’s understanding that they had better recognize that legal action (reporting) needs to be taken when there is a concern that sexual abuse may likely be happening. I really wish that when I personally had to report sexual abuse, that the bishop had not gotten angry with me for doing so. He absolutely did not understand my responsibility legally nor morally to put a stop to what was happening. If he had a legal obligation to report as well, we could’ve been on the same page and there may have been a different outcome. Note, he was angry because he believed that the event had happened “only one time”. He was leaning into the offender’s redeem-ability. The level of denial was so high.
  2. I use Blink cameras. It’s not a doorbell. But the cameras are clear
  3. They might not. Can you simply choose to edit your own first post. Thank you
  4. It’s so interesting how differently we approach these cases- as a lawyer, it’s all about proving things first, and me as a therapist, my first reaction is empathy. Can you imagine a marriage between a lawyer and a therapist? That would be - not fun.
  5. Do you believe that the single incident being reported actually happened? I suspect that your mind works in a way that has you suspending any concerns until proven in a court of law. In other words, if I were assaulted, you’d not be my confidante. No offense of course.
  6. I’m not going to go line by line to prove my point. If I’m wrong about your intent here, I’m ready to get to know you better and be more trusting.
  7. I’m getting the impression particularly from this thread that you are less interested really in who we are as people and more interested in proving that we are wrong, or at least making us look bad. That doesn’t feel very good, to be honest. It seems strange to me that a stranger would ask why we as members of the church tithe and that you would come in and answer the question for us in a way that makes us look foolish.
  8. You could at least edit the first post to clarify I think?
  9. I don’t get the impression you’re a fan. Are you here as you originally stated to learn more? It seems like you believe you know quite a bit.
  10. Benefits are many to belong to this group. To any group. Tithing is my way of magnifying my gratitude. yesterday I gave an extra tip to a waiter because I was grateful. I don’t receive any added benefits from the extra tip. But giving extra magnified my gratitude in my own heart.
  11. When I was in my graduate program we had one entire class hour devoted to a handful of our program professors sitting down to instruct us to “not put off having children” while we were in school. They directed their comments to the women in the program. I thought it was weird at the time for our professors to insert themselves into our personal family planning. Looking back I’m suspect they were pressured by the university to emphasize family over education, even though we were already in the program. The proclamation had just been released. In addition, there were some pretty critical lessons around human sexuality that went against typical church policy at the time that I’m sure if the university had caught wind of, they would’ve shut it down. I’m glad I got the tiny bit of information on the topic that I did get. If I were to go back to graduate school again, I would absolutely make a different university choice because I feel as though my particular degree could’ve benefited from a little more variety in training. That said, I am very grateful for the education I did receive. My degree has shaped my life in some very crucial ways. I can’t not be grateful.
  12. King Noah is depicted as a fat disgusting evil cartoon, which in contrast makes it easy for all primary children to see Abinadi as a hero. It’s certainly my favorite story from the scriptures, teaching me about standing firm against all odds with my convictions. On the other hand, the 2025 inductee is seen by some as a hero himself, a promise of rescue from financial hardship, a voice of reason and a force against corruption. Any fans of the president are going to take issue with anyone who threatens to redirect his path. It would be difficult to convince any King Noah fans that Abinidi was anything but a problem. Oh except for Alma. He was humbled and open to Gods message upon hearing Abinidi speak. The rest of them were just angry. I mean, we have all seen the screenshot- but here it is for reference for those who don’t follow Noah on FB
  13. Since I am a woman, and since I have more evidence here today to show you don’t particularly respect women than otherwise, I think I’ll stop here. Carry on, thank you for the clarity.
  14. I think you were saying that you would stay for Sunday school as long as I didn’t talk about lesbian stuff. If I, a woman, were speaking on Jesus’s behalf, you would stay. General conference is the exception though. When those women talk, you get up and walk out. I would have more weight than the women who hold general positions in the church. it appears as though Teddy is team Steve so now I understand two of you just a little bit better. Thank you for the clarification. I mean, it makes sense to me. Not really, but I’m just trying to get along here. 😅
  15. Because im a woman. Ok…. I knew there were folks like you but I’d never met one personally. Now I know I’m not crazy. 🤪
  16. I teach gospel doctrine. I wonder if you were in my ward if you would just go home after sacrament for the same reason.
  17. I’m audio booking “the let them theory” by Mel Robbins. I really like it. But I think it will be over quoted within a year time and I’ll be sick of hearing about it. But for now, I really enjoy it. She does a great job of reading her own text. It sounds as if she’s just speaking rather than reading. I really appreciate that. This is a topic that I really need to embrace myself.
  18. I can totally understand why outsiders would hang their judgments on the belief that we worship Joseph Smith, that we hang our salvation on works and that we believe in a different Jesus than they do. I’m assuming that most churches also believe that they have the most correct interpretation of requirements to be with God after mortality. Our church is certainly vocal about its stance that we have the one and only truth. I’m sure that ruffles a few feathers for others. I’m also sure that it riles some people up to want to put us in our place. Some might even come here, and present as friendly to gain our trust and then to pull a gotcha. I have come to trust that Tony is open hearted and I appreciate that. There are other long-term friends among us who have taught me a lot about their own religion or point of view without coming across as being malintended. I appreciate that. That said, circling back to the question, admit, I have no idea what the official doctrine of the church would say about the question, but I personally believe anybody can make a promise with God and that God can make promises back. As far as our own temple specific covenants? I would’ve assumed not but I don’t know the answer.
  19. It’s seems clear to me that the “offering” is the directors attempt to demonstrate the inhumane disregard for life and absence of all compassion during that event.
  20. I personally I’m turned off simply by the online summaries of that book. In fact, a friend of mine was obsessed with it at one time and I had to distance myself from her because she got super weird. I don’t think it’s a strange coincidence that it turns out that these psychopaths were also attached to said book.
  21. Nothing about rape is benevolent. I doubt any woman would choose rape and immediate death over immediate death. I think the point of this offering in the movie was to cinematically demonstrate how absolutely “deplorable” the Mormons “were.”
  22. And, I’ll add, I much prefer a message of grace. It’s much more hopeful and compassionate. I’m on board 💯
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