Jeff K. Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 You know in California marriage years that is 80. 1
Duncan Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 My story started with a former missionary companion of mine. We had served together for only 3 months, but we became lifelong friends. After our missions, I continued to talk to him, primarily by Instant Message. One day, about 8 months after my mission, I saw his name pop up on the chat client. So I go to give him a friendly 'hello'. "This isn't Bryce." Came the reply. "I am a friend of his. He is hosting a YSA event at his place, and I got bored, so I asked if I could get on his computer." I said, "Oh, well I'll leave you be then." "No, that's okay, I'd like to talk if you would. My name is Kimberly." "Sure, my name is Mark." From there, we chatted for a few hours, and exchanged our Instant Message handles. We continued to chat for hours near nightly for 8 months. Nearly every subject we could think of we'd talk about, and became great friends. Then one day, she asked if she could hear what I sounded like. So she gave me her cell #, and I called her. From there, we switched from chat to phone for hours several times a week. Then she wanted to see what I looked like, to put a face to the voice. So we exchanged pictures. A few nights later, we started talking about marriage, and agreed it was time to meet. All through this, Bryce occasionally acted as a liaison between us, and often told me I was getting the better end of the deal. She was down in Alabama, and I was up in Pennsylvania. Incidentally, my cousin was going to school in AL, and was due to come up for a weekend in early Nov, so we arranged for her to come up with my cousin, and stay with my grandmother. We met, & sparks flew, as it were. It was a great weekend. I drove down to meet her family that Thanksgiving. And she came back up Christmas, where I formally proposed to her. I moved to AL the following May, and we got married in June. This year, we have been married for 8 years, and still going strong.wow! very cool!
thesometimesaint Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Jeff K.:Actually is forever, and I've got the piece of paper to prove it.
rodheadlee Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I was wondering if the married folks on this board had some kind of a moment where they somehow knew that their future spouse was to be a person if interest? I know some people see the person for the first time and then they know and others know them for awhile but then they start dating and it goes along from there -thoughts? Most certainly, I knew the moment I laid eyes on her.
asbestosman Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 She - *smart. Me - I like smart. Match made in heaven.*well, other than that she was dumb enough to marry me.
Buckeye Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I don't have an amazing story, but I'll share. Actually, it's pretty sterotypical. We met in our singles ward at BYU. I was in the ward because I'd procrastinated finding an apartment while on my mission and begged my sister to get me into her complex. I met the future Mrs. Buckeye on the first Sunday. Four months later we began dating. Four months later we were engaged. Four months later we were married. Four months later our son was born. .... Just kidding, he was born 16 months later. But of course he was born in UVMC. [Must keep up the sterotype!]I never received a huge confirmation as to the decision. Not that I didn't try. I did. I had this idea that I needed to fast for 72 hours because the Lord would see my sacrifice and send some big signal. Well, on the third day I was teaching EQ and I fainted due to low blood sugar. Completely passed out in the middle of everyone. My friend tried to catch me, but missed and I hit my head on a desk. I remember waking up in the break room on the lower floor of the Tanner Building (where we held church). The Bishop's counselor had dragged me there, along with Mrs. Buckeye, and she was force feeding me M&M's from the vending machine. [A blatant breaking of the sabbath!] I will always remember the ensuing discussion. The counselor asked Mrs. Buckeye what happended. She told him about the 72 hour fast idea. He said, "Buckeye, you're an idiot" Then he asked Mrs. Buckeye "you sure you want to marry this idiot?" She said "without a doubt" That was my confirmation.We're going on 13 years now. I still can't point to any one "objective" reason for picking Mrs. Buckeye. There were others who were slightly more intellectual than her. Others who were slightly more musical. Others who were slightly better cooks. Though, honestly, she's very bright, has a great voice, and is a darn good cook. The one thing that always stood out was that I was I'd never in my whole life been as happy as I was around her. That's really it. If happiness is the object and design of our existence, I'd found it.
Duncan Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 I don't have an amazing story, but I'll share. Actually, it's pretty sterotypical. We met in our singles ward at BYU. I was in the ward because I'd procrastinated finding an apartment while on my mission and begged my sister to get me into her complex. I met the future Mrs. Buckeye on the first Sunday. Four months later we began dating. Four months later we were engaged. Four months later we were married. Four months later our son was born. .... Just kidding, he was born 16 months later. But of course he was born in UVMC. [Must keep up the sterotype!]I never received a huge confirmation as to the decision. Not that I didn't try. I did. I had this idea that I needed to fast for 72 hours because the Lord would see my sacrifice and send some big signal. Well, on the third day I was teaching EQ and I fainted due to low blood sugar. Completely passed out in the middle of everyone. My friend tried to catch me, but missed and I hit my head on a desk. I remember waking up in the break room on the lower floor of the Tanner Building (where we held church). The Bishop's counselor had dragged me there, along with Mrs. Buckeye, and she was force feeding me M&M's from the vending machine. [A blatant breaking of the sabbath!] I will always remember the ensuing discussion. The counselor asked Mrs. Buckeye what happended. She told him about the 72 hour fast idea. He said, "Buckeye, you're an idiot" Then he asked Mrs. Buckeye "you sure you want to marry this idiot?" She said "without a doubt" That was my confirmation.We're going on 13 years now. I still can't point to any one "objective" reason for picking Mrs. Buckeye. There were others who were slightly more intellectual than her. Others who were slightly more musical. Others who were slightly better cooks. Though, honestly, she's very bright, has a great voice, and is a darn good cook. The one thing that always stood out was that I was I'd never in my whole life been as happy as I was around her. That's really it. If happiness is the object and design of our existence, I'd found it.no offense but that is hilarious!
Deborah Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I still can't point to any one "objective" reason for picking Mrs. Buckeye. Who else would have married such an "idiot"! That really was hilarious.
Mola Ram Suda Ram Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Didn't read everyone's comments. This may help or it might not. For me, I just could not find anything wrong with her. Of course I did the whole prayer thing and going to the temple. I took my time and I wanted to make sure I was not just doing an "in the moment" type of thing. My wife always teases me that I wanted to date other people, while we were dating. I just did not want to rush into it and I did not want to get caught up and be all infatuated.I also made the list of things I was looking for in a wife and went out looking. One thing I came to realize, that for me I want a woman that had gone on a mission. I am not going to fully explain why, other than to say it was important to me. Also, it helps if you can see, the woman you are dating, as the mother of your kids. If you cannot even get that far then bail. It is important what your family thinks too.
Mola Ram Suda Ram Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I moved to AL the following May, and we got married in June. This year, we have been married for 8 years, and still going strong.Great story, but long distance relationship are hard. Oh, I would never want to do that again.
guitarist Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Great story, but long distance relationship are hard. Oh, I would never want to do that again.It wasn't easy, it put a bit of strain at work requesting several days off at a time & on short notice like that, and there were some bumps in the relationship itself as a result of the distance that had to be smoothed out. But that was part of my decision to move down to AL, to eliminate that distance.The ironic thing was throughout jr High & High school, any girlfriend I got was never nearby (always outside of my school district), despite any efforts otherwise, so I was always in a "long distance" relationship. Come to think of it, the older I got, the farther away they ended up being.
Bill “Papa” Lee Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 (edited) I was wondering if the married folks on this board had some kind of a moment where they somehow knew that their future spouse was to be a person if interest? I know some people see the person for the first time and then they know and others know them for awhile but then they start dating and it goes along from there -thoughts?I just kept asking until one said, yes...actually I got a wonderful daughter in the marriage who has now given me 3 grandchildren. We have been together for 36 years. After being married to me that long the Catholic Church is considering her for Sainthood, and we are Mormons. Edited April 11, 2012 by Bill “Papa” Lee
rpn Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 When you find someone who makes you want to be better than you are (or maybe inspires you to be).
emeliza Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 (edited) I haven't even made it to 2 years yet, but I know I will--only a few more months. We met at Church. Before I got to know him, I thought he was a bit odd and arrogant. For a few weeks he had a design shaved onto the back of his head and I remember thinking...isn't that something guys do when they are in their teens or maybe early 20s? We are in our 30s.After we met I thought he would make a great friend. He liked to have fun and he didn't want to marry. After we became friends he wanted to date and I said no because he didn't ever want to marry and I didn't want to waste my time dating or liking a guy there was no possible future with, but we continued to hang out. I think it only took another week before he decided that maybe he would want to marry again. We were probably friends for about a month before we started dating, but it was a month where we were together a lot. My car had died so he was giving me rides to work and such. He also got to know my girls since we weren't dating. Had we started out dating, I wouldn't have let them meet for a long time. We dated for 7 months before we got engaged and were engaged for 8 months before we got married. It has been great. Neither of us believe in soul mates, but I can't imagine being married to anyone else. We are pretty mismatched in personalities, but it works very well as often my strengths are his weaknesses and his strengths are my weaknesses.He has since adopted my youngest daughter and is very much a strong father figure for my oldest daughter. He loves them both like they are his. We are all sealed together as well. Edited March 30, 2012 by emeliza 1
Duncan Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 I haven't even made it to 2 years yet, but I know I will--only a few more months. We met at Church. Before I got to know him, I thought he was a bit odd and arrogant. For a few weeks he had a design shaved onto the back of his head and I remember thinking...isn't that something guys do when they are in their teens or maybe early 20s? We are in our 30s.After we met I thought he would make a great friend. He liked to have fun and he didn't want to marry. After we became friends he wanted to date and I said no because he didn't ever want to marry and I didn't want to waste my time dating or liking a guy there was no possible future with, but we continued to hang out. I think it only took another week before he decided that maybe he would want to marry again. We were probably friends for about a month before we started dating, but it was a month where we were together a lot. My car had died so he was giving me rides to work and such. He also got to know my girls since we weren't dating. Had we started out dating, I wouldn't have let them meet for a long time. We dated for 7 months before we got engaged and were engaged for 8 months before we got married. It has been great. Neither of us believe in soul mates, but I can't imagine being married to anyone else. We are pretty mismatched in personalities, but it works very well as often my strengths are his weaknesses and his strengths are my weaknesses.He has since adopted my youngest daughter and is very much a strong father figure for my oldest daughter. He loves them both like they are his. We are all sealed together as well.I love that!
Thunderfire Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I first saw my wife our junior year of college. We didn't meet, but I saw her and she literally took my breath away. I was an aviation major and it was pretty much all guys. My senior year I walked into one of my classes and there she was! I walked up and sat next to her, introducing myself. Every day after class I would walk her to her next class and we would talk. After a month I finally got the courage to ask her out. (she was baffled that it took me so long)We dated for three years allowing us time to get to know each other well and we have been together 32 years now! 1
LDS_RM Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 you just know, and don't force it. It all just happens. Most likely it will be the person you are dating who you respect.
zielkee Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 I prayed about my fiance and felt that I should read my journal. I decided I was too busy and the answer was probably yes. Many years later, I read my journal and realized my husband's birthday was the same date as a very sacred revelation I received about 10 years prior to meeting him.... "We were meant for each other."
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