Starting the path to legal polygamy in the U.S.

[VideoGameJunkie]

30 minutes ago, Stargazer said:

Haven't we had this conversation before?  That's only to cover all bases.  I am not stealing her from her first husband, who was a good and faithful priesthood holder.  I will be sure to leave instructions to descendants that we are not to be sealed.  

Do you think you might change your mind though once you pass through the veil? I'm pretty sure we may realize what we want after the veil is lifted is different from what we wanted in our fallen state.

[VideoGameJunkie]

23 minutes ago, Stargazer said:

I think the doctrine is that we don't know what the ultimate outcome of some situations should be, and so we cover all bases.  For example, one of my great grandmothers first husband died and she remarried to my great grandfather.  Who should she be sealed to?  It seems that the first husband gets "dibs" but how do we know?  Maybe she didn't love him, didn't want him, but children and circumstances (and laws at the time) prohibited her from divorcing him.  Maybe she would be much happier with her second husband, the man who was my great grandfather. My mother and father were close to divorce when she died -- should I really have had them sealed together, or should I have not?  I don't know, so it's best to assume that since they were married and loved each other at one time, that they should have the benefit of the sealing.

It's not my CFR, but I think you will find the policy stated in either Handbook 1 or 2.  I think it's in 1, but I'm not sure.  

My parents have talked about divorce and my dad's not a member, so I went to my Bishop and he said if my dad passes away while divorced from my mom, I can still do all his work and seal him to my mom in the temple, even if they divorced from their marriage. My Bishop said I can do it, so I assume I can do it.

[rockpond]

7 hours ago, Stargazer said:

I think the doctrine is that we don't know what the ultimate outcome of some situations should be, and so we cover all bases.  For example, one of my great grandmothers first husband died and she remarried to my great grandfather.  Who should she be sealed to?  It seems that the first husband gets "dibs" but how do we know?  Maybe she didn't love him, didn't want him, but children and circumstances (and laws at the time) prohibited her from divorcing him.  Maybe she would be much happier with her second husband, the man who was my great grandfather. My mother and father were close to divorce when she died -- should I really have had them sealed together, or should I have not?  I don't know, so it's best to assume that since they were married and loved each other at one time, that they should have the benefit of the sealing.

It's not my CFR, but I think you will find the policy stated in either Handbook 1 or 2.  I think it's in 1, but I'm not sure.  

My mistake, you and VGJ are correct.  I was remembering all of the statements in handbook 1 that say a woman can only be sealed to one man (it is repeated several times).  But it always refers to a "living woman".  After she is dead, a woman can be sealed to multiple men.  That's really interesting. 

[JLHPROF]

8 hours ago, VideoGameJunkie said:

My parents have talked about divorce and my dad's not a member, so I went to my Bishop and he said if my dad passes away while divorced from my mom, I can still do all his work and seal him to my mom in the temple, even if they divorced from their marriage. My Bishop said I can do it, so I assume I can do it.

Now that is an interesting idea.
There are many teachings that suggest nobody will be forced to stay sealed to someone they don't want to be with.
So if your parents have chosen to be divorced, why would you attempt to force them back together against their agency.  If they CHOSE to be apart, why would you have them sealed together.

Of course, there is also the teaching that any two Celestial beings can make a marriage work when mortality is taken out of the equation.

[VideoGameJunkie]

2 hours ago, JLHPROF said:

Now that is an interesting idea.
There are many teachings that suggest nobody will be forced to stay sealed to someone they don't want to be with.
So if your parents have chosen to be divorced, why would you attempt to force them back together against their agency.  If they CHOSE to be apart, why would you have them sealed together.

Of course, there is also the teaching that any two Celestial beings can make a marriage work when mortality is taken out of the equation.

Because my dad has mental problems that are causing him to do things that are leading to their possible divorce and my mom told me that he won't have those mental problems once he dies and my mom thinks he will realize on the other side the mistakes he made and will want to repent and be with my mom.

[Stargazer]

12 hours ago, VideoGameJunkie said:

Do you think you might change your mind though once you pass through the veil? I'm pretty sure we may realize what we want after the veil is lifted is different from what we wanted in our fallen state.

What we want, veil or not, is beside the point.