Bernard Gui Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 (edited) 15 hours ago, The Nehor said: They couldn't. Just like they can't prevent a man from getting a vasectomy but both are discouraged in the CHI. I was toying with adopting an early teen or older child a few years back and found out the CHI advised against it. Kind of sad but I guess I will go with it. One day I will find that strange woman that desires me and who I desire. The CHI advised against what, exactly? The Church has no control over who can adopt. LDS Family Services is no longer an adoption agency, but even when it was, it could only screen those who went to it for adoptions. I admire your attitude...someday a lucky lady will find out how lucky she can be. Have you considered Big Brothers, not that it's any of my business? Edited January 14, 2016 by Bernard Gui
Bernard Gui Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 11 hours ago, Paddy said: There is nothing in the handbook the prohibits single persons from adopting or fostering. The emphasis on single sisters who fall pregnant out of wedlock to offer their children for adoption would suggest it is not recommended. Single sisters who opt for artificial insemination are in a worst situation as the quote from CHI 1 shows (mods please remove if not allowed). "Artificial insemination of single sisters is not approved. Single sisters who deliberately refuse to follow the counsel of church leaders in this matter are subject to church discipline." Pg 186 Are men discouraged from donating? Since I was released as ward clerk, I no longer have access to CH1.
Thinking Posted January 14, 2016 Author Posted January 14, 2016 16 hours ago, Maidservant said: What are the chances of him finding a young woman with SSA and with similar desires, values, and goals for family? They could support and understand each other in their strengths and struggles. Excellent post. My son's best friends have always been girls. He loves everything about the idea of having a family except he doesn't understand the attraction of the female figure. He commented that he doesn't understand why boobs are so attractive. "I don't know," I replied, "they just are." 1
Paddy Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 1 hour ago, Bernard Gui said: Are men discouraged from donating? Since I was released as ward clerk, I no longer have access to CH1. Yes they are
The Nehor Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 2 hours ago, Bernard Gui said: Are men discouraged from donating? Since I was released as ward clerk, I no longer have access to CH1. Yes, and I believe the language is stronger there.
Bernard Gui Posted January 14, 2016 Posted January 14, 2016 1 hour ago, Paddy said: Yes they are Great. Consistency is important.
sdc999 Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 (edited) On 1/13/2016 at 11:02 AM, smac97 said: I agree with you regarding a single person adopting a young child. Even a full-time-stay-at-home parent can feel overwhelmed by the responsibilities of caring for a young child. Thanks, -Smac Wait a minute. The church encourages young couples to start families right away. So the church wants for people to feel overwhelmed? Why is one struggle better than another struggle? If you look at having a child in the financial sense, there is rarely a time that is adequate early in life. But people do it: young couples, single parents - they do it with love. Yes, some do it much better than others but most try to do it with love. So, if a single parent wants to adopt and give a child love and stability, by all means, get it done and give a child in the foster system a much better chance in life. Edited January 15, 2016 by sdc999
smac97 Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 24 minutes ago, sdc999 said: Wait a minute. The church encourages young couples to start families right away. So the church wants for people to feel overwhelmed? The Church, which is to say, God, wants us "to be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth," and to "train up a child in the way he should go." Parenting is, in the main, a challenging job, so "feel[ing] overwhelmed" is part of the job description. Hence the Lord's emphasis on families, and church attendance, and righteous living, and so on. Quote Why is one struggle better than another struggle? Well, one "struggle" (having children within marriage, with a father and mother working together) is what the Lord wants us to do, whereas "another struggle" (deliberately choosing to become a single parent, thus deliberately depriving both the child and the parent of the much-needed support and contributions to parenting that a second parent is supposed to provide). Quote If you look at having a child in the financial sense, there is rarely a time that is adequate early in life. But people do it: young couples, single parents - they do it with love. Yes, some do it much better than others but most try to do it with love. So, if a single parent wants to adopt and give a child love and stability, by all means, get it done and give a child in the foster system a much better chance in life. This discussion at hand is how well a single parent can cope with the demands of parenting. For example, I'm not sure a latchkey adopted child (which may be how the child of a deliberately single parent ends up, good intentions notwithstanding) is materially better off than a child in, say, a two-parent foster home (I know there are horror stories about foster care, but there are plenty of very good and kind and decent foster parents). Thanks, -Smac
Avatar4321 Posted January 15, 2016 Posted January 15, 2016 Be allowed? Can anyone other than the state stop him if he chooses to? Should he? I can't answer that.
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