How do I quit the incel community at 18 years old?

[MormónBodyBuilder383]

I am 18, Mexican-Russian, and have autism, I enjoyed learning languages and I speak Russian and Spanish fluently and mastered Chinese months ago but lost progress due to going to a mental hospital in January 2024 and getting abused in prison by women and men guards or Chads.

i live in Las Vegas, which is on the West Coast and I had a Jewish bully growing up in Maryland who didn’t like I was Mormon and would constantly hate on me for believing God and he was a atheist, he would pretend he lived in Texas but I knew it wasn’t real and probably made up.

I worked out and became a sigma male because of my Mexican mother and this dude was some white Jewish atheist living in Maryland who wouldn’t stop bullying me online and sexually harassing me as a joke and physically torturing me.

He also would take screenshots of random sites I would visit and he doesn’t regret what he did and he doesn’t believe in God and hates me as a person.

i know it’s rare for Mormons to have been involved in the incel community but I am one of them, I don’t hate women anymore but I still have suicidal thoughts and I want to study in Beijing or Shanghai and get a computer degree when I turn 19 years old but this guy still lives in Maryland and he bullies me and is a satanist, what do I do? And if I was involved in some incel communities? How do I leave them and turn back to God after going through a terrible trial?

[Calm]

Chances are your thread will be locked out of caution because the moderator won’t want you to feel bullied or otherwise trashed here.  You have a complicated problem, I am assuming you are still in therapy?  If not, I would highly recommend you get some because no one here is going to be able to help you like that.  Look to professionals.

And while you are doing that, focus on that you are a child of God and he loves you as you are and wants to give you blessings where he can.  
 

Try to quit thinking of yourself as an incel or part of that community, easier said than done, I know.  It is just a label you put on yourself and using language such as Chads isn’t going to help break that mindset.

[rpn]

Your post suggests that you may not know what an "incel" is.  It is short for "involuntarily celibate", which if you are a faithful church member you cannot be (because celibacy is chosen and known to be entirely desirable until one is in a position to marry).  (And IMHO the first best thing you could do is to get out of your electronics and into the real world of living, serving and learning and more serving. 

I'm sorry for the bullying.   We can grow and learn from the mistakes and wickedness of others, and recover (or at least get beyond other's unkindness and/or wickedness).   It requires refusing to give those whose behavior we don't like any more time and space in our own head,  (And for many it requires Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which lots of therapists claim to do, but few do with fidelity.  You'll have homework and you won't talk about the past much because the point is to process differently as you move forward.

Just get out of all of those sites.   I'm sure why or how you apparently remain in contact with this old school bully.   But you should disconnect any of the ways you formerly interacted with him.  (And while it is not required of bully survivors, you might at least consider whether recent public events may have made him scared of you because of the upswell of antisemetic behavior, just like you are afraid of/mad at him.   We are taught to forgive our enemies and those who speak falsely about us, not an easy feat for sure.   Cognitive Behavior Therapy can teach you skills to get beyond it.   It can be hard to find with fidelity (though many therapists claim to do it) but it is worth it to get it.  

Focus on what you are working and planning to become,  and keep your eyes, ears, reading and media habits focused on becoming like your Savior.   (Which almost always requires discontinuing the interactions with incel communities.)    Consider serving a mission (and if you think you can't serve, submit your application that you have been completely honest about where you are and what limitations you think you have so that your leaders can have informed inspiration, because you want to know that YOU did not just choose not to serve when you could have stepped up to the call to serve.

The habits of discipleship that I'd focus on would be healthy eating, daily heavy exercises, getting sufficient restful sleep (including using weighted blankets and/or white noise when needed, service to others, inspiring (not necessarily religious) music, more service to others, being in nature, and seeking out of the best books (learning more and becoming more, and teaching our spirits to be in full control of our bodies, and their parts, passions and appetites, and more service.

You are a known, beloved, child of heavenly parents with a Savior who are in your corner helping you with everything They can consistent with Their Plan and your agency.   But in order to get to where you want to be, you have to leave behind all the thinking, associations, and choices that interfere with the good.

Edited February 5, 2024 by rpn

[Nemesis]

How many accounts do you need I count 5 so far.  All with different email addresses but same email names.  Stick to one account.  Or I’ll ban them all.

Nemesis