SteelMagnoliainTexas Posted June 17, 2022 Posted June 17, 2022 I have faced this recently.....this slander, this abuse, this hatred towards the older woman. Yes I'm older. Yes I've had most of my children even have grand children, but that does not mean I'm old, worn out, withered,a dog, a cow, a vulture, or a wretch or a hag either. On fact, I've got more fight in me that I could challenge most young people and send even men running. As far as my appearance many people say I'm beautiful. And if I am age alone should not determine if two people are meant for each other. And it's sad these days that I am resolved to have to go to the internet if I'm to find a future companion because if I'm found interacting with a younger man (nearly all the ones my age are taken) then everybody has got to o make it their business to assault me verbally and assault him in private. It's not that I'm not worth anything it's just people even men in leadership make it their business to make me feel unworthy.
Calm Posted June 17, 2022 Posted June 17, 2022 (edited) 39 minutes ago, SteelMagnoliainTexas said: I have faced this recently.....this slander, this abuse, this hatred towards the older woman. Yes I'm older. Yes I've had most of my children even have grand children, but that does not mean I'm old, worn out, withered,a dog, a cow, a vulture, or a wretch or a hag either. On fact, I've got more fight in me that I could challenge most young people and send even men running. As far as my appearance many people say I'm beautiful. And if I am age alone should not determine if two people are meant for each other. And it's sad these days that I am resolved to have to go to the internet if I'm to find a future companion because if I'm found interacting with a younger man (nearly all the ones my age are taken) then everybody has got to o make it their business to assault me verbally and assault him in private. It's not that I'm not worth anything it's just people even men in leadership make it their business to make me feel unworthy. I am unsure of the purpose of you posting multiple threads on the difficulty of your interactions with other people. Are you looking for insight from posters here about people’s behaviour? Emotional support? A place to vent? I don’t think any of us can provide any great insight because we are not from your community and don’t know the type of people there, haven’t interacted with them, etc. And while we might provide support and venting, I think a more effective venue would perhaps be to find a therapist or support group or a group of friends, who are gathered together to be supportive for each other, so hopefully you can avoid the problems you have mentioned here and elsewhere. I have found that there is so much more love and strength that can be communicated in person rather than online. Too often the negative is nurtured and I feel worse if I just vent online to strangers to thinking there will be a release of bad feelings because nothing is actually resolved. If I vent to people who know me better, their feedback and support helps me move forward, let’s me figure out what is important to pay attention to for me. I think you would be better off if you found a resource closer to home to help you with this. You will be much more likely to come to some sort of resolution. Edited June 17, 2022 by Calm 2
rpn Posted June 17, 2022 Posted June 17, 2022 I'd say that in various places in the world, you are not at all alone in your perspective. Certainly over my lifetime I've seen people my age with younger people. One thing to remember though is that biology matters if a man wants children and that is ONE real barrier to the man/woman age difference that all the wishing in the world won't overcome. 2
Pyreaux Posted June 17, 2022 Posted June 17, 2022 Some suggest its evolution. A male has to establish himself to support a family which might be at a later time in his life, but he is still viable to be a father. A female has a time limit where she is viable to start a family. The older males get, the option opens up, the older female get, the option starts to close. To meet at the same point in their lives is a bit of a luxury. However, there is someone for everyone. There is a young man out there that thinks an older woman is beautiful. Rather there are many out there. The secret is 'exposure'. You have to meet enough people, and put yourself out there.
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