Mikaela Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 Hi brothers & Sisters! Can you help me please? I had a boyfriend for 13 years who died just a month ago. He was a member for 13 years but was inactive. He only received the Aaronic Priesthood when he was baptized. He was planning to come back to church but an accident happened that caused his early death at 30 years old. Can he still get the Melchizedek Priesthood even though he is already deceased? Can it be done thru proxy in the temple? Thank you so much!
Mikaela Posted November 16, 2016 Author Posted November 16, 2016 I am not endowned yet but I am working on it. Thank you so much Sister!
Robert F. Smith Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 2 hours ago, Mikaela said: Hi brothers & Sisters! Can you help me please? I had a boyfriend for 13 years who died just a month ago. He was a member for 13 years but was inactive. He only received the Aaronic Priesthood when he was baptized. He was planning to come back to church but an accident happened that caused his early death at 30 years old. Can he still get the Melchizedek Priesthood even though he is already deceased? Can it be done thru proxy in the temple? Thank you so much! The proxy temple work can be done for him one year after his death, but only with the permission of (or by) the immediate family (father, mother, brother, sister, etc.). They may be very happy to hear that you are so concerned. So feel them out as the anniversary of his death approaches.
Mikaela Posted November 16, 2016 Author Posted November 16, 2016 I greatly appreciate your response Bro. Robert. His family are not member though. Do I need papers for them to sign that they permit it? Thank you.
Rain Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 No, you don't need to sign anything, but it really is best to wait. I've found that sometimes nonmembers are happy to give permission and sometimes they are very angry when temple work has been done. Since ultimately you would like him to be sealed to his parents as well you wouldn't want to have it done against their permission if at all possible. If it doesn't get done for a long time it will be ok in the end though I know it will be hard for you now. There can be great blessings in waiting for that permission from relatives. You never know how their hearts can change. 1
rpn Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 Yes, you will need written permission of his next of kin, in addition to providing their contact info to the family search people who may confirm that permission before granting you permission to do his temple work. And it cannot be done until at least one year has passed. And since you say you have a son with him, it may be that you should wait until your son wants to do his temple work. He will be his dad's next of kin, after all and when he is ready he can do all of the ordinances as proxy for his dad. If I were that child, I would not like it if my mother arranged other people to do my dad's work, even if my dad's parents gave permission. I would understand that was an ordinance I should be allowed to do personally.
VideoGameJunkie Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 They receive the Melchizedek priesthood during the initiatory ordinance.
Rain Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 13 hours ago, Rain said: No, you don't need to sign anything, but it really is best to wait. I've found that sometimes nonmembers are happy to give permission and sometimes they are very angry when temple work has been done. Since ultimately you would like him to be sealed to his parents as well you wouldn't want to have it done against their permission if at all possible. If it doesn't get done for a long time it will be ok in the end though I know it will be hard for you now. There can be great blessings in waiting for that permission from relatives. You never know how their hearts can change. 12 hours ago, rpn said: Yes, you will need written permission of his next of kin, in addition to providing their contact info to the family search people who may confirm that permission before granting you permission to do his temple work. And it cannot be done until at least one year has passed. And since you say you have a son with him, it may be that you should wait until your son wants to do his temple work. He will be his dad's next of kin, after all and when he is ready he can do all of the ordinances as proxy for his dad. If I were that child, I would not like it if my mother arranged other people to do my dad's work, even if my dad's parents gave permission. I would understand that was an ordinance I should be allowed to do personally. After seeing rpn's answer I went looking to see about the written permission. My parents were missionaries in the family history library last year so I asked them. They referred me to the family search site. When the time comes you will need to contact the family search site and get permission from them and you will need written permission from his parents. Family search can help you know what you need to have. The things included that you will need are: Quote For questions regarding temple ordinances for nonrelated individuals, send information to Support. Please note that written permission is needed in order to request temple ordinances for nonrelated individuals. Please include the following: Username Helper access number Relationship of patron to individual whose ordinances are being requested Reason why ordinances are being requested Name of the individual being requested ID Number of the individual being requested
Robert F. Smith Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 (edited) 20 hours ago, Mikaela said: I greatly appreciate your response Bro. Robert. His family are not member though. Do I need papers for them to sign that they permit it? Thank you. You must go online to https://familysearch.org/ , fill out the known data on that man (put in his family tree, with parents, siblings, etc. -- there are people in your ward who will help), and then make your request through familysearch.org. I don't think that you need it in writing, but I could be wrong, so I just sent them a message and will let you know what they say. However, there is plenty of time yet before anything can be done. ETA: Oh, I see that someone says that, yes, written permission is needed. Edited November 17, 2016 by Robert F. Smith
Robert F. Smith Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 On 11/15/2016 at 8:42 PM, Mikaela said: I am not endowned yet but I am working on it. Thank you so much Sister! Can take about a year for someone who is serious to get permission to be endowed. Work with your bishop.
Mikaela Posted November 19, 2016 Author Posted November 19, 2016 On 11/17/2016 at 7:14 AM, Rain said: After seeing rpn's answer I went looking to see about the written permission. My parents were missionaries in the family history library last year so I asked them. They referred me to the family search site. When the time comes you will need to contact the family search site and get permission from them and you will need written permission from his parents. Family search can help you know what you need to have. The things included that you will need are: On 11/17/2016 at 0:45 PM, Robert F. Smith said: You must go online to https://familysearch.org/ , fill out the known data on that man (put in his family tree, with parents, siblings, etc. -- there are people in your ward who will help), and then make your request through familysearch.org. I don't think that you need it in writing, but I could be wrong, so I just sent them a message and will let you know what they say. However, there is plenty of time yet before anything can be done. ETA: Oh, I see that someone says that, yes, written permission is needed. Sister Rain, and Bro. Robert, thank you very much for taking time and effort in answering my question and referring to the ramily search site. Thank you also Bro, Robert for sending them a message, and for Sister Rain, for asking your parents. I do appreciate you letting me know waht to do. I'm really confused right now because I am in Saudi Arabia, away from my family and the temple. It's a nice feeling that I found LDS members who are willing to extend help and comfort tho we didn't know each other. I was only googling my question last week, then I found this site. What a blessing! Thank you.
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