rodheadlee Posted May 1, 2015 Posted May 1, 2015 Did I sound harsh? Sorry Rodheadlee, I didn't mean to offend, just disagree. I was probably tired and didn't re read my post. I'm sure that there's no beam in your eye and didn't mean to imply it either.You didn't sound harsh, no worries. I was trying to be humorous but it fell flat. 1
jana at jade house Posted May 1, 2015 Posted May 1, 2015 (edited) in our case, my DD did serve, but was never given the opportunity to lead. She never got any of her ideas accepted, never felt like she was being heard. That is a need for an adolescent. In the years that she was in YW there were maybe 2 activities a year besides temple mornings. No new beginnings no awards night nothing. She was put off so many times for her PP that she gave up- and parents were not allowed to sign. One year they even tried combined activities with the RS. I tried to have Mom and Me activities at our house so she could invite another YW to join with her inactive mom, but that fizzled. There were no service activities but for singing to old people at christmas ( so dd went and did red cross training and is a qualified first responder) I don't like it when adult act like it is the active child at fault. It once again rewards the inactive child. No wonder our kids run away from the church. Edited May 1, 2015 by jana at jade house 2
ERayR Posted May 1, 2015 Posted May 1, 2015 in our case, my DD did serve, but was never given the opportunity to lead. She never got any of her ideas accepted, never felt like she was being heard. That is a need for an adolescent. In the years that she was in YW there were maybe 2 activities a year besides temple mornings. No new beginnings no awards night nothing. She was put off so many times for her PP that she gave up- and parents were not allowed to sign. One year they even tried combined activities with the RS. I tried to have Mom and Me activities at our house so she could invite another YW to join with her inactive mom, but that fizzled. There were no service activities but for singing to old people at christmas ( so dd went and did red cross training and is a qualified first responder) I don't like it when adult act like it is the active child at fault. It once again rewards the inactive child. No wonder our kids run away from the church. But sometimes it is a very delicate balancing act that taxes even the very best minds.
readstoomuch Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 Obviously pray for inspiration. I do like her being part of the plan and fulfilling her needs. It may include some extra time with the leaders. I struggle with young women's and watch my daughter chafe at some of the things that are done. I did have the extreme pleasure of hearing my daughter say that Mormons are her people and she loves being Mormon. This despite some interesting experiences in YW. 1
Tacenda Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 http://ldsliving.com/story/78773-bullying-at-church-one-childs-tragic-story I know this doesn't have much to do with the OP but feel it pertinent because during the YM/YW's time of life, it may make or break someone's testimony of the church. Or even if they have a testimony they may have intense anxiety when in church because of previous experiences. My oldest daughter suffered somewhat from feel ostracized at church. Very cliquish group of girls and she was left out. She just didn't fit in, even after we moved to a new ward. She is a unique soul, bless her heart. I hope they get this figured out. That's too bad that this girl has to be alone in her ward. At least she doesn't feel alone surrounded by active girls, imagine how that can feel as this boy in the article felt but was bullied.
ERayR Posted May 2, 2015 Posted May 2, 2015 (edited) http://ldsliving.com/story/78773-bullying-at-church-one-childs-tragic-story I know this doesn't have much to do with the OP but feel it pertinent because during the YM/YW's time of life, it may make or break someone's testimony of the church. Or even if they have a testimony they may have intense anxiety when in church because of previous experiences. My oldest daughter suffered somewhat from feel ostracized at church. Very cliquish group of girls and she was left out. She just didn't fit in, even after we moved to a new ward. She is a unique soul, bless her heart. I hope they get this figured out. That's too bad that this girl has to be alone in her ward. At least she doesn't feel alone surrounded by active girls, imagine how that can feel as this boy in the article felt but was bullied. What could have been done for your daughter? I ask this because I have two daughters with very similar experiences. After several years of thinking about it I have concluded that the other girls could have been kinder but my own daughters attitude was a definite contributing factor. It is so difficult to get them from 12 to 20 intact. Edited May 2, 2015 by ERayR
Tacenda Posted May 3, 2015 Posted May 3, 2015 What could have been done for your daughter? I ask this because I have two daughters with very similar experiences. After several years of thinking about it I have concluded that the other girls could have been kinder but my own daughters attitude was a definite contributing factor.It is so difficult to get them from 12 to 20 intact.I agree, it may have been my daughter's attitude also. I think some girls just have a hard time with other girls at that age, girls can be so cruel sometimes. Luckily my daughter has really good women friends now.
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