Mate Selection In The Next Life

[Duncan]

So let's say you don't get married in this life but prove faithful. In the next life, we are promised, that we will finally be married. Who choosesour spouse? Does God say "okay, Calvin Crudalinksi from Crystal City, Texas you are with Polly Pendleton, from Pembroke, Ontario" or is a a group of singles and see what happens with that? Some people are vry faithful but may not be stellar at choosing who they are married to, what will make the next life any different? Some marriages here are a train wreck but both could be faithful, what will happen to those people?

[ERMD]

No one knows.

[TAO]

As ERMD says, nobody knows. I would say it'd be partially you in the least... God isn't going to force it on you. But he will make sure it's right for you. =)

Just a note. I remember a prophet of the church stating any two people could be married and make a mairrage work if they put their hearts into it and dedicated themselves. I think it's true =D. If you and whoever you find do your honest best to love each other, despite the hassle; if you and whoever you find put the other first among all other priorities... I think you will have a brilliant mairrage =).

Best Wishes,

Hope this helps,

TAO

Edited June 20, 2011 by TAO

[thesometimesaint]

Unknown at this time.

[cdowis]

So let's say you don't get married in this life but prove faithful. In the next life, we are promised, that we will finally be married.

If you are a man, you're probably outta luck depending on the circumstances.

For a woman, she will certainly make her own choice, and the work will be done according to her wishes. Regarding temple work for the deceased, a woman who had several husbands (a widow, of course) is now sealed to all of them.

Edited June 20, 2011 by cdowis

[thesometimesaint]

cdowis:

As that would make God a respector of persons I don't believe so.

[Duncan]

If you are a man, you're probably outta luck depending on the circumstances.

For a woman, she will certainly make her own choice, and the work will be done according to her wishes. Regarding temple work for the deceased, a woman who had several husbands (a widow, of course) is now sealed to all of them.

i don't want to be outta luck! I want a woman for heaven's sake either here or there, preferably both!

[Log]

It won't matter. All divisions we have in this life are the result of sin, which divisions won't exist in the next.

And what was said was "almost any two people" can make it work in this life.

[cinepro]

Regarding temple work for the deceased, a woman who had several husbands (a widow, of course) is now sealed to all of them.

That's only if she wasn't sealed to any of them in this life, right?

[TAO]

If you are a man, you're probably outta luck depending on the circumstances.

For a woman, she will certainly make her own choice, and the work will be done according to her wishes. Regarding temple work for the deceased, a woman who had several husbands (a widow, of course) is now sealed to all of them.

cwodis, as for the man's being out of luck, it depends on the opportunities he had in this life, whether he took them or not, I believe... yah.

Edited June 20, 2011 by TAO

[Jeff K.]

I had a nightmare once. It was during a time of inactivity in my life and I don't know if it was a sign, a revelation or my conscience working on me. I dreamt that my wife and I found ourselves in different kingdoms. Hers to one with greater glory while mine was the lesser. In that dream my wife loved me dearly and was resigned to being with me. The Lord presented her with a new Eternal companion. He was a wonderful man, perfect and loving in everyway, thoughtful and everything that I wasn't. He was also infinitely patient, and willing to wait for the inevitable to occur and all the while loving and caring.

In that dream I knew my wife would eventually slip away from me and that despite her love she had to go on while I was lost and consigned to something that would seperate us for all time and eternity. In my dream I longed for the oblivian of death where such pain would be denied me.

It was the most horrid nightmare in my life, and it left me with a deep hollow emptiness that I sometimes reach for in order to know how my life should be prioritized. It is the reason I see Eternal Marriage as the key component in our belief system that answers the question of the love we have in our lives, and how it is more real because we experience it here.

Edited June 20, 2011 by Jeff K.

[Duncan]

I had a nightmare once. It was during a time of inactivity in my life and I don't know if it was a sign, a revelation or my conscience working on me. I dreamt that my wife and I found ourselves in different kingdoms. Hers to one with greater glory while mine was the lesser. In that dream my wife loved me dearly and was resigned to being with me. The Lord presented her with a new Eternal companion. He was a wonderful man, perfect and loving in everyway, thoughtful and everything that I wasn't. He was also infinitely patient, and willing to wait for the inevitable to occur and all the while loving and caring.

In that dream I knew my wife would eventually slip away from me and that despite her love she had to go on while I was lost and consigned to something that would seperate us for all time and eternity. In my dream I longed for the oblivian of death where such pain would be denied me.

It was the most horrid nightmare in my life, and it left me with a deep hollow emptiness that I sometimes reach for in order to know how my life should be prioritized. It is the reason I see Eternal Marriage as the key component in our belief system that answers the question of the love we have in our lives, and how it is more real because we experience it here.

Wow, thank you for sharing that!

[Kenngo1969]

If you are a man, you're probably outta luck depending on the circumstances. ...

Dang!

[staccato]

It won't matter. All divisions we have in this life are the result of sin, which divisions won't exist in the next.

And what was said was "almost any two people" can make it work in this life.

Why do you think this is the case? Before this life ever was, according to mormon theology, there was a huge division and sin (defined as separated from the will of God). Why do you think this would never occur after this life?

[Log]

Why do you think this is the case? Before this life ever was, according to mormon theology, there was a huge division and sin (defined as separated from the will of God). Why do you think this would never occur after this life?

Because, apparently, I've read things by the prophets that you haven't, and you make assumptions I don't.

[mbh26]

I think marriages will be arranged to a larger extent than we are accustomed to in our current culture. At the very least it will be a fair match that we can choose to accept or reject. Maybe God won't specifically state who you have to marry, but I think we'll be surrounded by people like ourselves in a very reciprocal fashion. If we're demanding as a spouse, we'll be married or rejected from marriage by equally demanding people. It'll be a tricky result because many people believe and are very Christlike with other people, but when it comes to their spouse or even who they date, they believe in behaving and behave completely differently. In every relationship we enter in this life, whether it be employer/employee, slave/master, parent/child, or husband/wife the tables will be turned and we'll have to live the other side of it.

[cinepro]

So let's say you don't get married in this life but prove faithful. In the next life, we are promised, that we will finally be married. Who choosesour spouse? Does God say "okay, Calvin Crudalinksi from Crystal City, Texas you are with Polly Pendleton, from Pembroke, Ontario" or is a a group of singles and see what happens with that? Some people are vry faithful but may not be stellar at choosing who they are married to, what will make the next life any different? Some marriages here are a train wreck but both could be faithful, what will happen to those people?

I'm not sure this question even makes any sense.

On what criteria would someone base their spouse-selection in the spirit world (or after the resurrection)? It can't be physical appearance, since we'll all be looking our best. It obviously won't be age, or geography. It can't be intelligence, or earning potential, or social class. Will there be etiquette in heaven?

And then there are the millions of children who have died before the age of 8. Are they all in the heavenly dating pool as well? If a child who died 30 seconds after birth is able to find eternal marriage, then we can probably say that nothing that happened to us in our Earth life is even relevant to our post-mortal chances for marriage.

In the end, I don't think our current cultural beliefs about "dating" or "courtship", or even romantic love, will have any relevance in the eternities. As far as I can tell, God runs his kingdom through assignments and callings, and I strongly suspect his matchmaking would follow the same pattern.

Edited June 22, 2011 by cinepro

[Duncan]

I'm not sure this question even makes any sense.

On what criteria would someone base their spouse-selection in the spirit world (or after the resurrection)? It can't be physical appearance, since we'll all be looking our best. It obviously won't be age, or geography. It can't be intelligence, or earning potential, or social class. Will there be etiquette in heaven?

And then there are the millions of children who have died before the age of 8. Are they all in the heavenly dating pool as well? If a child who died 30 seconds after birth is able to find eternal marriage, then we can probably say that nothing that happened to us in our Earth life is even relevant to our post-mortal chances for marriage.

In the end, I don't think our current cultural beliefs about "dating" or "courtship", or even romantic love, will have any relevance in the eternities. As far as I can tell, God runs his kingdom through assignments and callings, and I strongly suspect his matchmaking would follow the same pattern.

very interesting!

[mbh26]

In the end, I don't think our current cultural beliefs about "dating" or "courtship", or even romantic love, will have any relevance in the eternities.

It's pretty difficult for me to imagine how a lot of things would actually play out in an infinite world.

[Jeff K.]

I'm not sure this question even makes any sense.

On what criteria would someone base their spouse-selection in the spirit world (or after the resurrection)? It can't be physical appearance, since we'll all be looking our best. It obviously won't be age, or geography. It can't be intelligence, or earning potential, or social class. Will there be etiquette in heaven?

And then there are the millions of children who have died before the age of 8. Are they all in the heavenly dating pool as well? If a child who died 30 seconds after birth is able to find eternal marriage, then we can probably say that nothing that happened to us in our Earth life is even relevant to our post-mortal chances for marriage.

In the end, I don't think our current cultural beliefs about "dating" or "courtship", or even romantic love, will have any relevance in the eternities. As far as I can tell, God runs his kingdom through assignments and callings, and I strongly suspect his matchmaking would follow the same pattern.

I agree, our mortal life, our bodies and our actions are heavily influences by mortal needs which are temporal and short term. Dating and romantic love by beings in full control of all instincts and faculties may indeed be different. It might still be romantic, but romantic may have a distinct meaning.

[asbestosman]

On what criteria would someone base their spouse-selection in the spirit world (or after the resurrection)? It can't be physical appearance, since we'll all be looking our best. It obviously won't be age, or geography. It can't be intelligence, or earning potential, or social class. Will there be etiquette in heaven?

I don't think we'll all be clones of each other. I'm not sure what differences will exist, but perhaps part of it will be shared (or contrasting) background from earth life, hobbies, and maybe even things like a sense of humor or brand of creativity. Other differences may include relative maturity--I have heard that it is still quite a journey after death.

In the end, I don't think our current cultural beliefs about "dating" or "courtship", or even romantic love, will have any relevance in the eternities. As far as I can tell, God runs his kingdom through assignments and callings, and I strongly suspect his matchmaking would follow the same pattern.

That's is indeed a good point. I'm not sure that we chose our parents--although some suspect we did. Keep in mind that there we have not only birth parents, but adoptive parents too. Also, do we choose step-parents? What if they eventually adopt us? Yet when we are sealed, we don't generally get to choose who we'd like to have as our parents. If we could, wouldn't we all try to be sealed to some of the best parents--like Mary and Joseph?

[TAO]

God will be merciful in whom he selects to be married to each other. It is a matter of two things... perhaps one being your choice... the second being his choice. Together, your choices lead to happiness, forever , binding, and eternal. It is important though to remember to listen, just as he will listen to you.

Best Wishes,

TAO

Edited June 25, 2011 by TAO