DBMormon Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Anger and hurt are natural emotions when you feel your trust has been betrayed. I went through a period of maybe 2 years when I was hurt and angry, but it passed. The worst thing you can do is suppress what you're feeling in the mistaken belief that such emotions shouldn't be expressed. Get them out but in ways and places that are unlikely to do damage to your relationships with loved ones, and then move on. But one thing I learned is that you can't expect sympathy from people who don't feel what you're feeling, especially if the focus of your emotion is something they believe in passionately.Which is the heart of the issue. One in crisis has no where to turn. My family were non members, I didn't want them to see the Church as bad so I didn't tell them.My wife and her family are LDS, I didn't want to break their heartsI didn't tell my ward as they wouldn't have answers and they might have their own testimonies hurt.I kept it in and had nowhere to talk. So I went online to a "LDS" discussion board. I thought it was FAIR's board and expected kind answers and fellowship.... some was and some wasn't. People need a safe place to go and talk.... currently there are few places like this to go if any.
Buckeye Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Which is the heart of the issue. One in crisis has no where to turn. My family were non members, I didn't want them to see the Church as bad so I didn't tell them.My wife and her family are LDS, I didn't want to break their heartsI didn't tell my ward as they wouldn't have answers and they might have their own testimonies hurt.I kept it in and had nowhere to talk. So I went online to a "LDS" discussion board. I thought it was FAIR's board and expected kind answers and fellowship.... some was and some wasn't. People need a safe place to go and talk.... currently there are few places like this to go if any. Out in the desert they wander, hunger and helpless and cold.
Scott Lloyd Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 (edited) Which is the heart of the issue. One in crisis has no where to turn. My family were non members, I didn't want them to see the Church as bad so I didn't tell them.My wife and her family are LDS, I didn't want to break their heartsI didn't tell my ward as they wouldn't have answers and they might have their own testimonies hurt.I kept it in and had nowhere to talk. So I went online to a "LDS" discussion board. I thought it was FAIR's board and expected kind answers and fellowship.... some was and some wasn't. People need a safe place to go and talk.... currently there are few places like this to go if any.Off hand, I might say that perhaps stake leaders or those on an even higher level might have been of help. But I hasten to acknowledge that I wasn't in your shoes and have no way of knowing precisely what you were going through at the time. And, of course, reaching out to a higher level apparently didn't help Hans Mattsson and the others associated with him. As for this board being a "safe place," as carefully moderated as it is (and the moderators do a great job of keeping things civil), "safe" is not an adjective I would use. There is still a lot of faultfinding, criticism, out-of-context citation, occasional sophistry, etc., too much thrust-and-parry, that could be hazardous to the faith of people in a vulnerable position. Edited October 10, 2013 by Scott Lloyd
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