thesometimesaint Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 There are about half a dozen "perfect" marriage partners for everyone; another 20 or so that are "ideal"; the rest of us just make it work.If you want the perfect marriage partner be the perfect marriage partner. 1
fatherofone Posted October 25, 2012 Author Posted October 25, 2012 There are about half a dozen "perfect" marriage partners for everyone; another 20 or so that are "ideal"; the rest of us just make it work.If you want the perfect marriage partner be the perfect marriage partner.totally agree with this. I think it was Spencer W Kimball who said any man and woman can make a great marriage if they are both willing to try, or something like that. Yeah I agree tho
cinepro Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 (edited) There are about half a dozen "perfect" marriage partners for everyone; another 20 or so that are "ideal"; the rest of us just make it work.If you want the perfect marriage partner be the perfect marriage partner.It's still weird to think that for most of human history, a person's options for marriage were limited to a very small pool of local potential partners. Now we live in a global social environment where most people probably make it to their 20's having met hundreds or thousands of potential mates, and yet some say they still haven't had a chance to meet the right one.FWIW, here's a scientific way to "Find a Soul Mate", as found in Wired Magazine:Find a Soul MateThere’s a probabilistic approach to finding the love of your life, and it even has a name: satisficing, a combination of satisfy and suffice. OK, technically, satisficing refers to getting a good enough outcome when you’re lacking complete information about your options. But isn’t dating like that? According to Peter Todd, professor of informatics and cognitive science at Indiana University, the question always comes down to this: “Do you keep searching and hope something better will come along, or do you stop searching when you find something that looks pretty good?”In the face of this conundrum, the best strategy for picking a mate is to date enough people to establish some baseline standards, then settle down with the next person you meet who exceeds the bar. According to Todd, you should have a baseline after dating roughly 12 people. He’s dubbed this theory the Twelve-Bonk Rule, and it can also be applied to picking the right employee or choosing a home. So, if you’ve dated fewer than 12 people, you should feel free to keep looking. If you’ve had 30 relationships, odds are you’re being too picky. Quit obsessing over your new paramour’s dorky laugh.—Judy DuttonI'd love to have this taught in General Conference, or at least a YSA fireside. Edited October 25, 2012 by cinepro
JAHS Posted October 25, 2012 Posted October 25, 2012 In the Pre-earth life the only choice we made that we know about was to follow the plan of God. After that we don't know much about any other choices in regards to what families we come to or when we come. There is scriptural evidence that in our pre-earth life as spirit children of God certain individual were selected to come forth in mortality at specified times, under certain conditions, and to fulfill predesignated responsibilities. (Jer. 1:5, Abr 3: 22-23)In Acts Paul said:"And hath made of one blood all nations of men for to dwell on all the face of the earth, and hath determined the times before appointed, and the bounds of their habitation;" (Acts 17:26)So according to Paul many spirits may have been foreordained to specific nations and generations ("bounds of habitation"), and to varied assignments, work, or missions on earth. Could this include being foreordained to a certain family? Perhaps.But as far as I know these foreordinations were made by God according to His judgment with little if any input from ourselves.
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