Mental health as a latter day saint .

[bro Lawrence]

For discussion on mental health n how to properly talk to him about after a very rude comment 

[MustardSeed]

How can we best help you? Your thought didn’t come across here in a complete sentence. Maybe you can give us a little more information so we can support.

[Pyreaux]

There are a few rude commenters here. Dealing with a blatantly rude comment can trigger your stress response. So protecting your mental health is a worthy priority. Immediately pause, try not to reply hastily. Before you say anything, buy yourself a few moments. A rude comment is often intentional, so try not to let them force an aggressive counter-attack, or get trapped in the other person's negative energy. Let the provoking spike of adrenaline settle.

Meanwhile, assess the intent. Was this cluelessness, or was it a deliberate attempt to hurt or diminish you? You don't need to yell (or use ALL CAPS) to be firm. If you can speak calmly and directly, you can shift your discomfort back onto the person who made the comment. Ask for clarification to neutralize passive-aggression. Forcing someone to explain their own sharp remarks usually exposes how inappropriate it was. Makes them say the quiet part out loud, which most rude people want to avoid.

Strategically disengage to protect yourself. You do not owe every rube person a response. If someone wants to get a reaction, denying them that reaction is incredibly powerful. Give a calm, silent, expressionless look, completely changing the subject or leaving the room. Rudeness can reflect their lack of emotional regulation or their poor communication skills. It is almost never actually about you.

After the interaction is over, do a quick check-in with yourself. If you are still ruminating on it hours later, try writing it down to get it out of your head, or talk it through with a friend to validate your feelings and let it go. But knowing more context can help us tailor more specific advice.

Edited June 23 by Pyreaux

[The Nehor]

42 minutes ago, Pyreaux said:

There are a few rude commenters here.

You called? Oh, you weren’t looking for me.

Oh….uhhhh…..never mind.