Thank you. I was going to emerge from my years-long lurk to make this very point. Tithing is not a dollar, but an act. It is an act of will, of intention, of faith, and of sacrifice. A dollar that is tithed to the Lord is one that has first come to the hands of a believer, and then that believer has passed the dollar to the Lord in a pro-active and willful act of faith. Dollars that come to the church through a passive, automatic process do not pass through hands of faith, and do not come to the church via sacrifice and will. Those passive, automatic funds still belong to the Lord, they are still consecrated. But to call them tithing cheapens the act and sacrifice of the believer.
The challenge I've encountered is coming up with a word to describe the culture that surrounds the membership of the church, but which does not give the false impression that such cultural features are institutionally sanctioned. For example, books like "The Work and the Glory" used to be referred to as "Mormon fiction." But if that word is no longer acceptable, and calling it "fiction of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints" gives the wrong impression, then what do we call those books? And this is an issue that goes beyond fiction: Mormon film, Mormon taboos, Mormon rites-of-passage. My daughter just had a movie party with her friends last night and watched "Monty Python and the Holy Grail" for the first time. That's a "Mormon rite-of-passage, but definitely not a rite-of-passage of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.