"Mother At Home..."

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Ok That makes sense. The whole discussion around it still doesn't effect me personally I would say. I don't have children and won't for a while. It's not in my list of immediate concerns (not because I don't want them, just that I hear marriage is a better starting point to work towards before kids ). The only experience I have where I'm more aware of their concerns about working or not are in Texas and Utah.

It is a very hard choice, and you can never plan on how life will turn out, or where/what you will be guided to do. Thankfully we have the Spirit to lead us - and that is the only way anyone will ever feel content with their decision, is if their choice was concretely affirmed by the Spirit. I wish you the best of luck in taking that next step (marriage). You sound like a very thoughtful and well informed person, so I'm sure you will make a good choice!

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. If they could say what I think they're really thinking...

Yea, it doesn't really matter what they say, what matters is what they do. You could say anything however you want to say it - but if you are in a ward where most of the women work, then you will feel uncomfortable and unsupported as a s.a.h.m. On the other hand, if you happen to be in a ward where most moms stay at home, it would feel uncomfortable to work. Perhaps everyone should move to an area where they are surrounded by like-minded people, and then no one would feel bad? the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, and women will always look at the other side of the fence... which will always make life a little harder for them, and more confusing than it is for the guys.

[Ahab]

This is derailing the thread, but do you believe we all live more than once?

In a sense, yes, but not as in recincarnation. In a sense my life began at 40, which is when I got married, but I had already been born, and born again, and actually born again in heaven before that.

There's this scripture:

And as it is appointed unto men once to die - Hebrews 9:27

Well, except for people like Lazarus, who our Lord Jesus raised from the dead. Poor guy. He died, and was stinky, and then was raised to life presumably while he was still stinky. And then he died and got stinky again.

but I have to admit, the idea of reincarnation is intriguing to me. Sometimes when I try to imagine myself in another's shoes, I say to myself "that's me in another life", and when I think that, I no longer feel animosity towards them.

I see lots of people who I could have been like had I not made some of the choices I've bad. Some better versions of me, and some worse in some ways. I can still do things to make the me I am better than I am now, though, and I think I'll always be able to do that... at least until I get as totally perfect as our Father in heaven. Once there, there's no turning back.

Get back on topic.

[Ahab]

Yea, it doesn't really matter what they say, what matters is what they do. You could say anything however you want to say it - but if you are in a ward where most of the women work, then you will feel uncomfortable and unsupported as a s.a.h.m. On the other hand, if you happen to be in a ward where most moms stay at home, it would feel uncomfortable to work. Perhaps everyone should move to an area where they are surrounded by like-minded people, and then no one would feel bad? the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, and women will always look at the other side of the fence... which will always make life a little harder for them, and more confusing than it is for the guys.

When you know what you're doing is right, according to our Father in heaven, then what your siblings say won't make you feel bad.

They're just your siblings, and not your Father in heaven. Peer pressure is way overrated.

[thesometimesaint]

http://www.babble.com/babble-voices/the-uppercase-lowdown-cecily-kellogg/2013/02/21/they-were-wrong-amazing-anti-bullying-message/