Kenngo1969 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Wow, that is a tough one. I think what others are saying is good advice. Be a good husband as well as father. Try to find ways to live your religion without pressuring your wife. Sounds like your ward is definitely different. Funny enough, my husband taught an EQ lesson on not using some terms like what you said. We didn't really have too many issues or anything, but negative terms like those and others are not good. He had an awesome lesson about not using those types of terms or others that might be not so flattering. Good luck and look to the others who have better advice.I'm sure you, your husband, and heck, most of the people in your ward already know this, but I'm a simple guy who likes to make the implicit explicit: it's not just about not using certain language. (It's like the person who, when called on such behavior, protests, "Some of my best friends are black ...") Use of such language betrays the existence of a much deeper issue regarding how we feel about our fellow human beings, not just what we say about them. It's a lot easier to get people to change language than it is to get us to change attitudes. English teachers and sociologists can get us to do the former; the latter is what the Atonement is for.
emeliza Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I'm sure you, your husband, and heck, most of the people in your ward already know this, but I'm a simple guy who likes to make the implicit explicit: it's not just about not using certain language. (It's like the person who, when called on such behavior, protests, "Some of my best friends are black ...") Use of such language betrays the existence of a much deeper issue regarding how we feel about our fellow human beings, not just what we say about them. It's a lot easier to get people to change language than it is to get us to change attitudes. English teachers and sociologists can get us to do the former; the latter is what the Atonement is for.The lesson was mostly about changing words and why as one lesson wasn't going to change how people thing that much. They talked about what images certain words bring up and what they mean and what you think of when you hear them. They also talked about good words and they they mean and such. They talked about words that have been used on them as well. I believe it was a good lesson and people took a lot from it, but there will always be those who just don't see what the problem is and such.
alter idem Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 With all due respect, TAO, you are 17 and unmarried.H.17 and unmarried? TAO makes pretty good sense despite his/her youth.My advice to Chiliandseabass is to talk to your Bishop about your family concerns as well as your wife's concerns regarding the ward, especially the sisters. I'm sure that given his calling, he can give you the best counsel on how to deal with your family situation; your obligations to your wife, your son, as well as taking into consideration your own needs and desires.Make an appt. with your Bishop.
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