Messenger Posted April 1, 2012 Author Posted April 1, 2012 The more and more I think about this subject the more I realize that there are men out there, the so called tough guys, the men that are independent and self-reliant who are also attracted to women who are also independent and self-reliant. It would seem to me that there are also men and women who are not. There are lots of matriarchal types (just as there are patriarchal types) that try to conquer and control everything. Some spouses like that, and there are others that do not. It just seems to me that those that are not independent, are not happy. They seem to have to be with someone else all the time no matter what. Its a shame that people cant be happy no matter what their circumstances are and not try to blame others, even if the blame may be valid.
GingerRed Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 The guy I broke it off with back in Dec was like that....he didn't like my Independence...he wanted to be around me 24/7!! He told he he felt "left out" of anything I did with my girlfriends or went to the gym, or went shopping etc. He told me "I want you to depend on me more"...like HUH??? I was pretty flabbergasted by that! But...he was a widower and all he's ever known was how to be part of a couple. I get where he's coming from...but I don't need a needy, smothering, kind of guy! Not my idea of a healthy normal relationship! 1
Messenger Posted April 2, 2012 Author Posted April 2, 2012 The guy I broke it off with back in Dec was like that....he didn't like my Independence...he wanted to be around me 24/7!! He told he he felt "left out" of anything I did with my girlfriends or went to the gym, or went shopping etc. He told me "I want you to depend on me more"...like HUH??? I was pretty flabbergasted by that! But...he was a widower and all he's ever known was how to be part of a couple. I get where he's coming from...but I don't need a needy, smothering, kind of guy! Not my idea of a healthy normal relationship!That's refreshing to know that there are those out there that are like us.
liliella Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 why do we put so much pressure on young girls to get married, if there not married by 25 is doesnt mean that they are never going to get married or dont want to.it just means they want a bit of life experience 1st to have fun and find out who they are before marrying a man that they are going to be with forever!! if its forever why is there a need to rush it? 1
Messenger Posted April 3, 2012 Author Posted April 3, 2012 Liliella,I suppose they want to make sure they can experience the joy of having children and a family here in this life. Some experiences here on earth are probably unique and can help us in the next life. Can they be make up another way, yes. But you do bring up a good point.... In the rush to get married, sometimes (but not all the time) we may not fully understand what we are getting into, or who we are marrying. However, on the other hand, I will say that there are probably more that put it off for other reasons than trying to know themselves or figure out who the best companion would be. But, its nice, at least for me, to have two conferences in a row where they weren't beating up on single people for not being married. In fact, I felt this conference was quite a turn around from it.
liliella Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 you dont have to get married young to have children, and my point was that the church puts pressure on ysa to get married. when they dont have to be young in order to get married and have the blessings that come with having a family !
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