Nofear Posted June 10, 2022 Posted June 10, 2022 Somebody made a comment about most marriages being unhappy and ending up in divorce. I thought I'd post some statistics so that we might be informed on the state of things. https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/ https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-us-divorce-rate-has-hit-a-50-year-low Lots of good information, some new to me as well. 4
The Nehor Posted June 10, 2022 Posted June 10, 2022 It is also notable that the half of all marriages end in divorce statistic is not too far off but note that people with four or five failed marriages can support four or five people happy in or at least tolerating their first marriage. 3
rongo Posted June 10, 2022 Posted June 10, 2022 Cohabitation is way up,and this affects divorce rates,doesn't it? It's not a divorce if you're not married in the first place.
JAHS Posted June 10, 2022 Posted June 10, 2022 There are a lot of reasons for a couple to get divorced, but in my opinion the number 1 underlying reason for most reasons is selfishness, by one or both spouses.
Nofear Posted June 10, 2022 Author Posted June 10, 2022 2 hours ago, rongo said: Cohabitation is way up,and this affects divorce rates,doesn't it? It's not a divorce if you're not married in the first place. True, it's not a divorce. More than half of cohabitating couples will marry, but they are also seem to be much more likely to divorce. "60 percent of cohabiting couples will eventually marry. However, living together prior to marriage can increase the chance of getting divorced by as much as 40 percent." 1
The Nehor Posted June 11, 2022 Posted June 11, 2022 3 hours ago, Nofear said: True, it's not a divorce. More than half of cohabitating couples will marry, but they are also seem to be much more likely to divorce. "60 percent of cohabiting couples will eventually marry. However, living together prior to marriage can increase the chance of getting divorced by as much as 40 percent." Last I read that was only when there was no firm marriage goal when they moved in. When the couple cohabitate with the intent of marriage numbers are almost as good for staying together as the norm.
Chum Posted June 11, 2022 Posted June 11, 2022 7 hours ago, JAHS said: There are a lot of reasons for a couple to get divorced,... the number 1 reason is selfishness Coincidentally, is also a popular reason for marriage. 1
Nofear Posted June 11, 2022 Author Posted June 11, 2022 11 hours ago, The Nehor said: Last I read that was only when there was no firm marriage goal when they moved in. When the couple cohabitate with the intent of marriage numbers are almost as good for staying together as the norm. "...most people believe cohabitation should improve one’s odds of marital success. Rosenfeld and Roesler’s work suggests this may only be true very early in marriage [1st year]. Otherwise, not so much" https://ifstudies.org/blog/is-cohabitation-still-linked-to-greater-odds-of-divorce https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2019/11/06/key-findings-on-marriage-and-cohabitation-in-the-u-s/ 1
Metis_LDS Posted June 11, 2022 Posted June 11, 2022 On 6/10/2022 at 9:08 PM, JAHS said: There are a lot of reasons for a couple to get divorced, but in my opinion the number 1 underlying reason for most reasons is selfishness, by one or both spouses. There was an interesting period in the Church in Canada. Men and women would talk in Fast meeting about how wonderful and how much they loved their spouse. Mostly without fail and within months their marriages would hit the rocks hard. You can tell a lot by what people say in Fast meetings at the microphone.
SeekingUnderstanding Posted June 12, 2022 Posted June 12, 2022 23 minutes ago, Metis_LDS said: There was an interesting period in the Church in Canada. Men and women would talk in Fast meeting about how wonderful and how much they loved their spouse. Mostly without fail and within months their marriages would hit the rocks hard. You can tell a lot by what people say in Fast meetings at the microphone. I always viewed that as people trying to convince themselves or kind of in line with this: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_lady_doth_protest_too_much,_methinks
Metis_LDS Posted June 12, 2022 Posted June 12, 2022 (edited) 44 minutes ago, SeekingUnderstanding said: I always viewed that as people trying to convince themselves or kind of in line with this: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_lady_doth_protest_too_much,_methinks Yes for sure, also perhaps an element of guilt. It would of been interesting to ask these persons so how is your marriage doing. I think many would of said it was all right. Denial is a powerful force until you hit the wall. Edited June 12, 2022 by Metis_LDS grammar
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