Scott Lloyd Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 15 minutes ago, InCognitus said: I like the stage setting this conference and the seating of the apostles and first presidency wearing their masks. I was just thinking it looked like a typical temple interior. Link to comment
Duncan Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 24 minutes ago, Scott Lloyd said: Wasn’t he called to the Presiding Bishopric? yeah, i wrote that out but it got figured out! Link to comment
Tacenda Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 1 hour ago, Rain said: The talk that actually touched me personally the most so far was actually Sister Craig's. The others were great, but there was something about the questions in her talk that I need to look at further. Yeah, I liked hers a lot!! Link to comment
teddyaware Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 4 hours ago, JAHS said: Elder Cook said our church culture comes from the gospel of Jesus Christ. The Gospel of Jesus Christ is not a judaic or gentile culture. while we rejoice in distinctive cultures we should leave behind aspects of those cultures that conflict with the gospel He mentioned that paul wanted the saints to leave behind cultural impediments that are not consistent with the Gospel. I am wondering what specific cultural aspects he is talking about. In our day, an extreme example of one such a cultural impediment might be the widely accepted post sexual revolution notion that sexual relations outside of marriage is acceptable, harmless and even healthy. 1 Link to comment
Kenngo1969 Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 2 hours ago, Rain said: We are quaranting my covid type symptom husband in the office/guestroom and communicating by text since his voice is rough. I don't think you want to come. Well, I'm certainly sorry to hear that you're experiencing such difficulties, and pray that the Lord will bless you and yours in your time of need. 1 Link to comment
The Nehor Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 I think he is talking primarily about more subtle cultural biases. Cultures where the wife is excluded from parental decisions, hyperindividualistic cultures, ethnic hate in cultures, cultures that overly reverence athletics, intelligence, financial success, etc. There are lots of weird biases we pick up. 1 Link to comment
mfbukowski Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 4 hours ago, Robert F. Smith said: Yes, Pres. Oaks gave a very timely and needed message. Perhaps preaching to the choir, but still needed. I kept thinking of Jewish novelist Andre Schwarz-Bart speaking of the "impossible love" preached by Jesus. How can we truly love our enemies? The Gospel can be so hard. It can. I think we are all going to have to do a lot of compromising to pull off anything like "unity" AND do it peacefully. And that presumes that both sides have compromise as a goal to even get started on it. 3 Link to comment
mfbukowski Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 5 minutes ago, Kenngo1969 said: Well, I'm certainly sorry to hear that you're experiencing such difficulties, and pray that the Lord will bless you and yours in your time of need. Likewise. @Rainyou are in my prayers as well. 1 Link to comment
Stargazer Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 (edited) 4 hours ago, Bernard Gui said: In my dad's Polish family, kissing all kinds of relatives was appropriate. From John Denver's song, "Grandma's Feather Bed": "Well, I love my ma and I love my pa, I love granny and grandpa tooI've been fishin' with my uncles, I wrestled my cousinI even kissed Aunt Lou, ew!" Edited October 3, 2020 by Stargazer 2 Link to comment
Robert F. Smith Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 39 minutes ago, teddyaware said: In our day, an extreme example of one such a cultural impediment might be the widely accepted post sexual revolution notion that sexual relations outside of marriage is acceptable, harmless and even healthy. For most humans, pair-bonding was marriage. That meant no marriage ceremony was necessary. The couple simply set up housekeeping. This was true in many localities even in the 19th and 20th centuries -- known as common law marriage, or contrato consensual. Quote A marriage may be proved ... from cohabitation, reputation, acknowledgment of the parties, reception in the family, and other circumstances from which a marriage may be inferred.... No formal solemnization of marriage was requisite. A contract of marriage made per verba de presenti amounts to an actual marriage, and is valid as if made in facie ecclesiae. Yale Law Journal, 107:1885-1886, online at https://digitalcommons.law.yale.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=7816&context=ylj . 2 Link to comment
mfbukowski Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 5 hours ago, Bernard Gui said: In my dad's Polish family, kissing all kinds of relatives was appropriate. More like "mandatory" To do otherwise was kind of like refusing to shake someone's extended hand. "What's HIS problem? Did I do something?" 1 Link to comment
Chum Posted October 3, 2020 Share Posted October 3, 2020 20 minutes ago, Robert F. Smith said: For most humans, pair-bonding was marriage. That meant no marriage ceremony was necessary. The couple simply set up housekeeping. This was true in many localities even in the 19th and 20th centuries -- known as common law marriage, or contrato consensual. I recently created my first common law marriage entry in family search. It was something like my 10k person but I finally did one. 3 Link to comment
Scott Lloyd Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 2 hours ago, The Nehor said: I think he is talking primarily about more subtle cultural biases. Cultures where the wife is excluded from parental decisions, hyperindividualistic cultures, ethnic hate in cultures, cultures that overly reverence athletics, intelligence, financial success, etc. There are lots of weird biases we pick up. The question was about leaving behind elements of Ancient Greek culture. The Hellenic philosophies that ultimately came to corrupt the precepts if Christendom are perhaps an example of cultural elements that should have been left behind by converts to Christianity but weren’t. Link to comment
mfbukowski Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Robert F. Smith said: For most humans, pair-bonding was marriage. That meant no marriage ceremony was necessary. The couple simply set up housekeeping. This was true in many localities even in the 19th and 20th centuries -- known as common law marriage, or contrato consensual. Hereabouts in LA you are considered foolish for NOT having sex before marriage- the argument is made that it is necessary that one needs to find out if one is "compatible" with one's "partner" instead of assuming that two people who truly loved each other could simply work out any possible problems in this area. Does that mean there were never problems in such a marriage? Of course there were, but the overwhelming assumption was that two loving people could work it out. In the 50's such an idea- the "incompatibility" of two loving people of opposite sexes -was a remote possibility of course- but "incompatible"?? You have a virgin male and virgin female crazy about each other, completely attracted to each other, obviously or the relationship would not have gotten that far, and totally fed up with abstinence after practicing it for a few months at least, and now the doors are open ? Some of you youngsters under 50 may not have heard this song- which was a major hit of the Everly Brothers AND was banned by the Catholic Bishop of Boston for being too suggestive https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wake_Up_Little_Susie Are you ready to be shocked? I hope the mods don't ban me 🤯 Quote Wake up, little Susie, wake upWe've both been sound asleep, wake up, little Susie, and weepThe movie's over, it's four o'clock, and we're in trouble deepWake up little Susie... Whatta we gonna tell your mamaWhatta we gonna tell your paWhatta we gonna tell our friends when they say "ooh-la-la"... I told your mama that you'd be in by tenWell Susie baby looks like we goofed again...Wake up little Susie, we gotta go home...Wake up, little Susie, wake upThe movie wasn't so hot, it didn't have much of a plot... Our reputations are shot... The assumptions are clear that even in early days of the "devil's music" - rock n roll- even young people themselves would be concerned about their "reputations" and their friends saying "ooh-la-la" and disapproving of what MIGHT have happened until 4 AM if a boy and girl were out together that late. So what are the foundation assumptions of that view which have disappeared? And why have they disappeared? Edited October 4, 2020 by mfbukowski 1 Link to comment
The Nehor Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 (edited) 23 minutes ago, Scott Lloyd said: The question was about leaving behind elements of Ancient Greek culture. The Hellenic philosophies that ultimately came to corrupt the precepts if Christendom are perhaps an example of cultural elements that should have been left behind by converts to Christianity but weren’t. Oh, sorry, then I do not have much to contribute. I never delved too deep into Platonism.. I found Plato a dry read and I just want to punch Socrates every time he facetiously claims ignorance and then rambles on endlessly. Edited October 4, 2020 by The Nehor Link to comment
Scott Lloyd Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 18 minutes ago, mfbukowski said: Hereabouts in LA you are considered foolish for NOT having sex before marriage- the argument is made that it is necessary that one needs to find out if one is "compatible" with one's "partner" instead of assuming that two people who truly loved each other could simply work out any possible problems in this area. Does that mean there were never problems in such a marriage? Of course there were, but the overwhelming assumption was that two loving people could work it out. In the 50's such an idea- the "incompatibility" of two loving people of opposite sexes -was a remote possibility of course- but "incompatible"?? You have a virgin male and virgin female crazy about each other, completely attracted to each other, obviously or the relationship would not have gotten that far, and totally fed up with abstinence after practicing it for a few months at least, and now the doors are open ? Some of you youngsters under 50 may not have heard this song- which was a major hit of the Everly Brothers AND was banned by the Catholic Bishop of Boston for being too suggestive https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wake_Up_Little_Susie Are you ready to be shocked? I hope the mods don't ban me 🤯 The assumptions are clear that even in early days of the "devil's music" - rock n roll- even young people themselves would be concerned about their "reputations" and their friends saying "ooh-la-la" and disapproving of what MIGHT have happened until 4 AM if a boy and girl were out together that late. So what are the foundation assumptions of that view which have disappeared? And why have they disappeared? If you’re going to cite a great song like that, don’t just quote the lyrics. Give us a link to the recording on YouTube. Link to comment
Scott Lloyd Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 A general observation: Without a live congregation to react, perhaps they need a laugh track. The speakers have been getting off some pretty good one-liners that seem to be falling flat for the want of an audience. 4 Link to comment
The Nehor Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 20 minutes ago, mfbukowski said: Hereabouts in LA you are considered foolish for NOT having sex before marriage- the argument is made that it is necessary that one needs to find out if one is "compatible" with one's "partner" instead of assuming that two people who truly loved each other could simply work out any possible problems in this area. Does that mean there were never problems in such a marriage? Of course there were, but the overwhelming assumption was that two loving people could work it out. In the 50's such an idea- the "incompatibility" of two loving people of opposite sexes -was a remote possibility of course- but "incompatible"?? You have a virgin male and virgin female crazy about each other, completely attracted to each other, obviously or the relationship would not have gotten that far, and totally fed up with abstinence after practicing it for a few months at least, and now the doors are open ? Some of you youngsters under 50 may not have heard this song- which was a major hit of the Everly Brothers AND was banned by the Catholic Bishop of Boston for being too suggestive https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wake_Up_Little_Susie Are you ready to be shocked? I hope the mods don't ban me 🤯 The assumptions are clear that even in early days of the "devil's music" - rock n roll- even young people themselves would be concerned about their "reputations" and their friends saying "ooh-la-la" and disapproving of what MIGHT have happened until 4 AM if a boy and girl were out together that late. So what are the foundation assumptions of that view which have disappeared? And why have they disappeared? The 50s were late stage Victorianism. Then again, what would I know? I am like George IV and his socks: 1 Link to comment
The Nehor Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 2 minutes ago, Scott Lloyd said: A general observation: Without a live congregation to react, perhaps they need a laugh track. The speakers have been getting off some pretty good one-liners that seem to be falling flat for the want of an audience. I chuckled at a few. I don’t like laugh tracks generally. Link to comment
Robert F. Smith Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 1 hour ago, mfbukowski said: Hereabouts in LA you are considered foolish for NOT having sex before marriage- the argument is made that it is necessary that one needs to find out if one is "compatible" with one's "partner" instead of assuming that two people who truly loved each other could simply work out any possible problems in this area. Does that mean there were never problems in such a marriage? Of course there were, but the overwhelming assumption was that two loving people could work it out..................................... The secular Israelis I knew had a rule that became apparent when I lived on a kibbutz. They would have sex with their beloved before marriage, and only have a wedding if she got pregnant. It's all about family to them, and no one wanted to be childless. Link to comment
teddyaware Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 3 hours ago, Robert F. Smith said: For most humans, pair-bonding was marriage. That meant no marriage ceremony was necessary. The couple simply set up housekeeping. This was true in many localities even in the 19th and 20th centuries -- known as common law marriage, or contrato consensual. So are you saying that prior to the 19th century (or thereabouts) marriage was basically nothing more than the modern equivalent of shacking up? Sort of an easy come, easy go “friends with benefits” arrangement without commitment? Link to comment
Calm Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 7 minutes ago, teddyaware said: So are you saying that prior to the 19th century (or thereabouts) marriage was basically nothing more than the modern equivalent of shacking up? Sort of an easy come, easy go “friends with benefits” arrangement without commitment? That would depend on the culture. Link to comment
teddyaware Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 7 minutes ago, Calm said: That would depend on the culture. I’m sure you would agree a culture that widely approves of noncommittal shaking up, as opposed to legal marriage as sanctioned by the Church, should be considered a cultural impediment to the spread of the restored gospel? 1 Link to comment
mfbukowski Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 1 hour ago, Robert F. Smith said: The secular Israelis I knew had a rule that became apparent when I lived on a kibbutz. They would have sex with their beloved before marriage, and only have a wedding if she got pregnant. It's all about family to them, and no one wanted to be childless. Ah, so it seems that the "compatibility" issue was more about fertility than pleasure, which to me at least is probably a step up from raw physical attraction. That seems to be the evolving rule around here was well. In one instance, we had a missionary from Utah in our ward- a guy on his mission, to make it crystal clear, and became the father of the child of one of the young women in the ward. Not exactly standard LDS morality. He got ex'ed and moved to our area instead of going "home", did what was required by the disciplinary council and eventually they got sealed and are now active members with a couple of more kids, and all that happened long enough ago that most in the ward don't even know what happened, all of which is the best possible outcome under the circumstances in my opinion. Those are tough times to live through and it IS better to marry than to "burn". The good news is that they found each other and it is a happy ending. 3 Link to comment
mfbukowski Posted October 4, 2020 Share Posted October 4, 2020 (edited) Oh my gosh duplicate Edited October 4, 2020 by mfbukowski Link to comment
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