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Ok, first off, yippee, my first topic!!!
I have a rather complex question. I have searched, pondered and prayed repeatedly and have yet to feel that I understand this topic yet. I am coming here to find peoples views, further reference and just plain counsel. I will probably be a little less that complete in what I state here, but here is the problem and the rationale behind my struggle.
I am divorced. I am divorced due to my ex-wife having an affair with my high school best friend and my being unable to live with the fact of the affair. I tried to work through the emotions and remain married but as is commonly the case adulterers tend to repeat their offense. Also, neither of them have any remorse and both have told me, before the divorce, that they have no feelings of regret.
I am now remarried and will be going through the temple with my wife soon.
I am trying to forgive my ex-wife and her mister who is now her husband.
Now for the question or perhaps questions...
What does it mean to forgive them?
It is difficult to forgive them for what this has put my children through.
If they return to the Church and wish to be sealed, believing that God will do right by her and I, will our children be "sealed" in a manner of speaking to them? If so, I am struggling with sharing my children with her and her husband. Is this me not forgiving? If the Church were to ask my view if they were to wish to be sealed, and I struggled and wanted to say "no", would I have not forgiven sufficiently?
I struggle when her husband "steps on my toes" as a father. Does this reflect that I have not forgiven them?
Do I need to be ok with all of this to be truly forgiving of them? What does it mean to forgive them?
If you are not LDS, your religious views as to this subject are also appreciated. However, I'm not really interested in comments concerning whether you agree with the concept of eternal marriage or not and hope that this topic does not degenerate into a debate about such.