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Ok let me talk about our current situation first. My husband and I have two kids ages 3 and 2. We are currently living in a one bedroom basement apartment which is quite cozy with the four of us. We don't know how long we'll be here and cant afford to move anywhere else.

For the past few months I keep having this feeling that we should be trying to have another. I just shake it out of my head because all I can think about is our situation and how crazy that would be to add another baby into the mix. We know that we want a big family and I really don't like the idea about having a big gap between the youngest and the next one. I cant get the idea out of my head!

Should I just go with my gut feeling? I'm so confused! We have been praying about this for a while and asking what we should do. Since the thought keeps entering my mind and I cant help but smile when I think about having another, should we just go with it?

The board is unfortunately not an appropriate place for advice of such a personal nature.

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