I Messed Up

[Ceeboo]

Ceeboo, are all Catholics so suspicious?

Hey cal,

I will not speak for all Catholics, but I can assure you that there are a few Catholics (Ceeboo certainly included) that are very suspicious when it comes to things like onions in potato salad or dress socks placed in the second drawrer.

Peace,

Ceeboo

Edited February 7, 2011 by Ceeboo

[Calm]

LOL.

What I want to know is where the missionaries were in all of this. Any young man I've known that's gone on a mission (and most of the young ladies as well) would have had that woman hogtied and thrown in the back of a car a minute after they heard the 'smack' and turned around to see one of their investigators treated in such a way.

There was an episode in my previous ward where a mentally retarded young man in his late 20s (wheelchaired bound) reached out and fondled one of the young women. He was very sorry he had scared her, but didn't understand why. The mother of the girl wanted him banned from coming to Church (understandably). He was living in a group home as his parents were too old and ill themselves to take care of him fulltime and was brought to church weekly by the handicap bus so it would have been easiest to do it that way, but he had lived in the ward all his life and the ward was part of his extended family (he was really a sweet young man, lived around the corner from us....just had been molested himself at the group home and didn't realize it was something wrong to do to others). Unfortunately his mental capability was not at a level where one could be certain he understood enough not to repeat the action so something had to be done. Rather than traumatizing him and depriving him of one of the few uplifting and loving experiences he had in his life at that time (he had a great home teacher who took him out on excursions a lot so it wasn't his only outlet thank goodness), the ward leadership assigned a rotation of men to stand watch over him and made strict rules about how close he was allowed to come of the young women and men thus allowing for full safety of the youth while still giving him what he needed as well.

I don't think anyone would think Blossom strange if she were to express her concerns about encountering this woman on her own again to not only the Bishop, but the RS President. It would be a good idea for Blossom to have an escort (for a variety of reasons) at church functions (both social and Sabbath related) until she feels more comfortable. Blossom, you might ask the missionaries to 'set you up' with someone who can take you under their wing for a time. They can help with smoothing the rocky places that newcomers generally experience (and some experiences that may be unique as well).

[Blossom]

Major Update!

I'm in NC, and our "picnic" was in our community building.

We had a Superbowl community sharing time tonight, and I found out the woman who slapped me is mentally ill. She's a new member to our Church but has been a Mormon a long time in Georgia and moved here.

I decided to make friends with her, trying to be forgiving and show love, and it worked. I got to visit with her and she loved my wings with a zing (fried chicken wings with the usual Ranch dressing...but with a dollop of tabasco sauce -- hence the zing) and didn't remember slapping me. I can understand mentally ill.

She's forgiven -- though now I know she may be given to bouts of anger now, and so forewarned is forearmed. But she's ill. I need to be especially careful to treat her with maybe a LOT more extra love.

I sure learned a lot from your replies, and I thank you all! I was so shocked and saddened (I am a little sensitive too) I was in a tizzy. The Bishop and a couple Elders spoke with her privately, then spoke to me privately. I decided to forgive and show extra love toward her. The three men and I decided this would be the best course of action. They did leave it up to me, and I think God wanted me to forgive her.

So. Here we are, and now I have a calling in the Church!! My neighbor doesn't like it, though. I am called to clean up the kitchen. I love doing that, because I'm really good at it. Tonight after I got through cleaning, the Bishop looked at the kitchen and said, "My dear, this kitchen hasn't looked this good since the day it was built."

My neighbor told our Bishop that that was a bad thing to do to someone who wasn't baptised yet, to make me clean up. But I had been doing it for several weeks. He just made it "official." The reason I did it was because I'm dang good at it, can do it quickly and efficiently, and I do not have children to attend to like many of the other women have. I scooted them away to go do the Mom thing and stayed to clean up. Let me emphasize: No one made me do it.

I would say being a Mom is a higher calling. My neighbor, though, didn't like it. Okay, maybe she has issues with it but I don't. It needs to be done and I can do it. Make sense? I'm proud!

Other than the dang Packers winning the dang Superbowl (I was rooting for the Steelers) today was PURRfect! I learned a lesson about forgiveness and now I have a calling. The Bishop and Elders teased me about being baptised was only a matter of time. It is. I stayed with the lady who slapped me tonight and we joked and laughed and talked. She likes cats too and visits her cousin's cats every week.

Isn't it interesting how God turns around an unfortunate incident and makes it something to appreciate? I am happy tonight. I made a batch of 40 wings and they were all gone. I should have made more. Next year, I'll know. Make 60!

And I have a new friend....who is a little prone to outbursts. And the Bishop loved my cleanup job; he has appreciated it since I started shooing Moms away and doing it. Several members, too, noticed the kitchen and I got a few compliments.

So here I am at this point. Receiving a calling is so special to me. Now I can shoo Moms off with authority! Hah!

I love this Church.

Thanks for listening, my friends.

Blessings,

Blossom

[nicolasconnault]

Major Update!

I'm in NC, and our "picnic" was in our community building.

We had a Superbowl community sharing time tonight, and I found out the woman who slapped me is mentally ill. She's a new member to our Church but has been a Mormon a long time in Georgia and moved here.

I decided to make friends with her, trying to be forgiving and show love, and it worked. I got to visit with her and she loved my wings with a zing (fried chicken wings with the usual Ranch dressing...but with a dollop of tabasco sauce -- hence the zing) and didn't remember slapping me. I can understand mentally ill.

She's forgiven -- though now I know she may be given to bouts of anger now, and so forewarned is forearmed. But she's ill. I need to be especially careful to treat her with maybe a LOT more extra love.

I sure learned a lot from your replies, and I thank you all! I was so shocked and saddened (I am a little sensitive too) I was in a tizzy. The Bishop and a couple Elders spoke with her privately, then spoke to me privately. I decided to forgive and show extra love toward her. The three men and I decided this would be the best course of action. They did leave it up to me, and I think God wanted me to forgive her.

So. Here we are, and now I have a calling in the Church!! My neighbor doesn't like it, though. I am called to clean up the kitchen. I love doing that, because I'm really good at it. Tonight after I got through cleaning, the Bishop looked at the kitchen and said, "My dear, this kitchen hasn't looked this good since the day it was built."

My neighbor told our Bishop that that was a bad thing to do to someone who wasn't baptised yet, to make me clean up. But I had been doing it for several weeks. He just made it "official." The reason I did it was because I'm dang good at it, can do it quickly and efficiently, and I do not have children to attend to like many of the other women have. I scooted them away to go do the Mom thing and stayed to clean up. Let me emphasize: No one made me do it.

I would say being a Mom is a higher calling. My neighbor, though, didn't like it. Okay, maybe she has issues with it but I don't. It needs to be done and I can do it. Make sense? I'm proud!

Other than the dang Packers winning the dang Superbowl (I was rooting for the Steelers) today was PURRfect! I learned a lesson about forgiveness and now I have a calling. The Bishop and Elders teased me about being baptised was only a matter of time. It is. I stayed with the lady who slapped me tonight and we joked and laughed and talked. She likes cats too and visits her cousin's cats every week.

Isn't it interesting how God turns around an unfortunate incident and makes it something to appreciate? I am happy tonight. I made a batch of 40 wings and they were all gone. I should have made more. Next year, I'll know. Make 60!

And I have a new friend....who is a little prone to outbursts. And the Bishop loved my cleanup job; he has appreciated it since I started shooing Moms away and doing it. Several members, too, noticed the kitchen and I got a few compliments.

So here I am at this point. Receiving a calling is so special to me. Now I can shoo Moms off with authority! Hah!

I love this Church.

Thanks for listening, my friends.

Blessings,

Blossom

AWESOME I was praying and hoping that something like this would result from your initially unfortunate event. Your actions are those of a true Christian

[Ron Beron]

Major Update!

I'm in NC, and our "picnic" was in our community building.

We had a Superbowl community sharing time tonight, and I found out the woman who slapped me is mentally ill. She's a new member to our Church but has been a Mormon a long time in Georgia and moved here.

I decided to make friends with her, trying to be forgiving and show love, and it worked. I got to visit with her and she loved my wings with a zing (fried chicken wings with the usual Ranch dressing...but with a dollop of tabasco sauce -- hence the zing) and didn't remember slapping me. I can understand mentally ill.

She's forgiven -- though now I know she may be given to bouts of anger now, and so forewarned is forearmed. But she's ill. I need to be especially careful to treat her with maybe a LOT more extra love.

I sure learned a lot from your replies, and I thank you all! I was so shocked and saddened (I am a little sensitive too) I was in a tizzy. The Bishop and a couple Elders spoke with her privately, then spoke to me privately. I decided to forgive and show extra love toward her. The three men and I decided this would be the best course of action. They did leave it up to me, and I think God wanted me to forgive her.

So. Here we are, and now I have a calling in the Church!! My neighbor doesn't like it, though. I am called to clean up the kitchen. I love doing that, because I'm really good at it. Tonight after I got through cleaning, the Bishop looked at the kitchen and said, "My dear, this kitchen hasn't looked this good since the day it was built."

My neighbor told our Bishop that that was a bad thing to do to someone who wasn't baptised yet, to make me clean up. But I had been doing it for several weeks. He just made it "official." The reason I did it was because I'm dang good at it, can do it quickly and efficiently, and I do not have children to attend to like many of the other women have. I scooted them away to go do the Mom thing and stayed to clean up. Let me emphasize: No one made me do it.

I would say being a Mom is a higher calling. My neighbor, though, didn't like it. Okay, maybe she has issues with it but I don't. It needs to be done and I can do it. Make sense? I'm proud!

Other than the dang Packers winning the dang Superbowl (I was rooting for the Steelers) today was PURRfect! I learned a lesson about forgiveness and now I have a calling. The Bishop and Elders teased me about being baptised was only a matter of time. It is. I stayed with the lady who slapped me tonight and we joked and laughed and talked. She likes cats too and visits her cousin's cats every week.

Isn't it interesting how God turns around an unfortunate incident and makes it something to appreciate? I am happy tonight. I made a batch of 40 wings and they were all gone. I should have made more. Next year, I'll know. Make 60!

And I have a new friend....who is a little prone to outbursts. And the Bishop loved my cleanup job; he has appreciated it since I started shooing Moms away and doing it. Several members, too, noticed the kitchen and I got a few compliments.

So here I am at this point. Receiving a calling is so special to me. Now I can shoo Moms off with authority! Hah!

I love this Church.

Thanks for listening, my friends.

Blessings,

Blossom

Great ending! I love it when the gospel comes together.

[Blossom]

Thanks for the support! I do love this Church. I love the people in it. I was afraid of her, I really was.

I think God fixed this because I sure couldn't forgive I don't think. But she is ill.

The mentally ill need all the love we can give them. It must be terrible when your brain malfunctions. She is actually a nice lady who knits, crochets, reads a lot of books, loves cats and music. Her favorite music is classical, and her favorite one there is Dvorak. I found her fascinating.

Thanks, my friends!

Blessings,

Blossom

[nicolasconnault]

Thanks for the support! I do love this Church. I love the people in it. I was afraid of her, I really was.

I think God fixed this because I sure couldn't forgive I don't think. But she is ill.

The mentally ill need all the love we can give them. It must be terrible when your brain malfunctions. She is actually a nice lady who knits, crochets, reads a lot of books, loves cats and music. Her favorite music is classical, and her favorite one there is Dvorak. I found her fascinating.

Thanks, my friends!

Blessings,

Blossom

Yay, another cat- and Dvorak-lover out there

[Blossom]

Yep! The world needs more cat-loving Dvorak types.

I do love Dvorak, but I lean more toward Bartok and Wagner.

I have five cats; well on my way to being the crazy old cat lady down the street! She and I make a good pair.

Blessings,

Blossom

[nicolasconnault]

Yep! The world needs more cat-loving Dvorak types.

I do love Dvorak, but I lean more toward Bartok and Wagner.

I have five cats; well on my way to being the crazy old cat lady down the street! She and I make a good pair.

We have two cats, focusing on having babies now that we figured out how!

My favourites are Rachmaninov, Chopin, Gershwin and Schubert, in that order. That also happens to be the general order of difficulty on the piano ...

[volgadon]

Yep! The world needs more cat-loving Dvorak types.

I do love Dvorak, but I lean more toward Bartok and Wagner.

I have five cats; well on my way to being the crazy old cat lady down the street! She and I make a good pair.

Blessings,

Blossom

Like cats. Used to love Wagner, not so much anymore, but Dvorak and Bartok!

[Blossom]

Rachmaninoff! Yow! I love him, but trying to play his stuff on the piano, for me, is like trying to ski through a revolving door.

Plus, I can't read music; I play everything by ear. I bet if I had ever learned to read music, Rachmaninoff and even Schumann would be easier for me.

Modern technology, though, makes it easier to play things by ear. At least I'm not killing records, destroying needles and cartridges, or getting up 200 times an hour -- remote control CD players and MP3s are fantastic!

I found Dolly Parton's version of "He's Alive!" and learned it on the guitar...think that might be appropriate for our Easter program? Our music director wants ideas.

Thanks for being here!

Blessings,

Blossom

[nicolasconnault]

I found Dolly Parton's version of "He's Alive!" and learned it on the guitar...think that might be appropriate for our Easter program? Our music director wants ideas.

Blossom, you can look up the guidelines for the use of music in the official church handbook. The short answer is that the Dolly Parton song would be probably fine except in a "worship" service such as a sacrament meeting. I'm not sure what "Easter program" you are referring to, whether it's a sacrament meeting or a fireside of sorts.

[Jigglysaint]

I am so glad to hear that things worked out. I think you also learned a very important lesson, one that not many people understand. A bad thing happened to you. You sought guidance and understanding. You took steps to forgive. You turned a bad experience into a great oppertunity. Many people, including some LDS, wouldn't get that from their encounter. You know somthing, this church was built off of the power of God turning bad situations into great ones.

Now, if only I can turn this situation with my girlfriend that I have into somthing positive. She's jealous of this other girl who is very low-functioning, and fears that I'm going to abandon her for this other person.

[todd520]

The bishop said we don't do that and he spoke to her.

Thank you all. I love you all, I really do.....but I'm looking at my badly bruised face in the mirror. My left eye is swollen shut and my left side of my face is black and blue.

Blossom, Turning your cheek does not mean ignoring a problem

The woman(?) who did this has something wrong and needs help, more than a chat with the Bishop

You may want to press charges, so that her condition is properly evaluated.

While you are bruised (mind and body), she could severely injure or possibly kill in her next outburst.

Edited February 8, 2011 by todd520

[LDS Guy 1986]

I brought the wrong dish to our Church picnic today. I made potato salad but I put onions in it and a member slapped me in the face and told me I was a nasty name because of it.

I was hoping to be in this Church and I have tried hard so far to learn and to do right and try to be a member but sorry, no one told me I would get hit.

I can't believe this and I haven't stopped crying yet.

I think I need to re-think this.

Blossom

I am sorry to hear that this happened to you, I hope you understand that this type of behavior is in no way shape of for acceptable in the Church. I am glad that you notified the Bishop about this and you might even consider notifying the police. I hope this tragic experience does not prevent you from further investigating (if you are not a member) or growing (if you are a new member) in the Church.

Know that this incident is not representative of the entire membership of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we are a Church that focuses on loving each other like Christ loves us. Blossom I hope that my words help you and I hope that this trial does not derail you from the faith you have in God and Jesus Christ.

God loves you, Christ loves you, and the Church loves you and needs your help to function and prosper!

You are a important part of this Church and you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity!

I love you Sister, stay strong in Christ!

[Jeff K.]

Blossom, Turning your cheek does not mean ignoring a problem

The woman(?) who did this has something wrong and needs help, more than a chat with the Bishop

You may want to press charges, so that her condition is properly evaluated.

While you are bruised (mind and body), she could severely injure or possibly kill in her next outburst.

Over the top is a term that originated during WWI trench warfare. You would pull yourself out of the trench and madly charge into blazing machine guns. This strategy had a less than desireable success rate.

Funny how it can be used with equal recurrance and with almost the same level of success.

[Blossom]

Ahh, well...you see, the mentally ill need us and I am there for her.

With mental illness, your brain turns traitor on you and it is horrible.

See? It's a dfficult issue but a mentally ill person does respond positively and happily to love -- hugs, backrubs, and just holding a hand.

That's where I am on this issue.

Blessings,

Blossom

[Calm]

Ahh, well...you see, the mentally ill need us and I am there for her.

With mental illness, your brain turns traitor on you and it is horrible.

See? It's a dfficult issue but a mentally ill person does respond positively and happily to love -- hugs, backrubs, and just holding a hand.

That's where I am on this issue.

Blessings,

Blossom

You (and other of your ward members) are the best person to judge what is needed because you are in that situation. So if you are happy about it, sounds all good.

[Blossom]

I think for now maybe it's ok but we will see. I will have to go one step at a time with her.

Thanks all of you!

Blessings,

Blossom

[emeliza]

I think for now maybe it's ok but we will see. I will have to go one step at a time with her.

Thanks all of you!

Blessings,

Blossom

And maybe keep your guard up a bit as well.

I still can't believe this happened. Not that I don't believe you, I do believe. But how shocking that must have been for you. So unexpected. Glad it is all going okay now.

[ERayR]

Ceeboo, are all Catholics so suspicious?

This Mormon is also suspicious.

[frankenstein]

Blossom, Turning your cheek does not mean ignoring a problem

The woman(?) who did this has something wrong and needs help, more than a chat with the Bishop

You may want to press charges, so that her condition is properly evaluated.

While you are bruised (mind and body), she could severely injure or possibly kill in her next outburst.

in my home ward, there was a lady who was disturbed and she always carried a butcher knife in her purse.

[emeliza]

in my home ward, there was a lady who was disturbed and she always carried a butcher knife in her purse.

I heard stories about a sister in our ward (prior to my joining) that was fine when she was on her meds, but when off she would share her testimony about stripping. I do believe she was someone that the Bishop had to be careful of when she got up to testify.

We also had a women in our ward that we found out was on the FBI wanted list for killing her husband and kidnapping her daughter's children from Hawaii. Our Bishop's wife was the one to find out and report her. I think her stories weren't matching up and they found out that the LDS Church was helping her with rent and the Catholic Church was helping her with some thing else. The Bishop's wife did some type of google search and found her in the FBI listing. Crazy huh?

Edited February 10, 2011 by emeliza

[Blossom]

This Mormon is also suspicious.

I'm sure many Mormons are suspicious of converts. There are a couple folks who never let me forget I'm not one of them and they make sure I get put in my place by letting me know I'm not a Mormon yet and saying I'm not worthy of trust because I wasn't born one and not married to one.

Blessings,

Blossom

[bluebell]

I'm sure many Mormons are suspicious of converts. There are a couple folks who never let me forget I'm not one of them and they make sure I get put in my place by letting me know I'm not a Mormon yet and saying I'm not worthy of trust because I wasn't born one and not married to one.

Blessings,

Blossom

I've never been in a ward where that would be tolerated-make sure you tell the missionaries and the bishop because it's not something that would ever be condoned.

It seems that you have some pretty interesting people in your ward.