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LoudmouthMormon

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  1. I'm thinking about the trans activist movement to destroy genital preference and redefine gender. I've been watching its gains in public policy, the private sector, healthcare, academia. I'm thinking we're beginning to see the crescendo now. And I'm watching gays and lesbians, of all people, starting to lead the charge. It looks a little something like this: Radical Trans Activist: Love is love! Gender is not biological sex! What's between your legs doesn't matter, how you identify and present is all that's relevant! And every week we win more and more battles against the transphobes still holding on to their outdated discriminatory genital preferences! Growing numbers of gays: Um, no. I'm attracted to persons with male genitalia, not biological females taking hormone therapy and having breast reduction surgery. Remember how we've won the battle against conversion therapy, where we're pressured/forced/electroshocked to change who we're attracted to? When trans activists show up with their "you must change who you are attracted to" mantra, it sure sounds similar. We fought to hard to say "it's ok to be attracted to the same sex". You do not get to redefine homosexuality as "same gender attraction". No thank you. Growing numbers of lesbians: Also no. I do not want anything to do with male genitalia on my partners. Some of us have survived traumas and abuse from males as part of our journey to become happy lesbians. And the trans activists pressuring us to date biological males, is starting to come across as a little rapey. No thank you. I notice there's a "New Gay Liberation Front" out there, founded on beliefs that open dialog about biological reality is a good thing. Sitting here as a temple recommend-holding covenantly-sealed cisgender heterosexual, I have to admit I find an awful lot of their arguments compelling.
  2. I heard a quick news blurb about us and our General Conference in the national news on am radio. First time ever here in Colorado Springs. I think it was ABC "all the national news in two minutes" things. Sounded like this: "...expected him to step down after this term. A leader of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, told his congregation during their semiannual General Conference, that anyone who wants to find the truth, should listen to the words of their prophet, Russel M. Nelson. President Nelson and his advisors have been quite outspoken on the subject of COVID-19, urging everyone in their congregation to get vaccinated. Algeria has recalled it's ambassador to France after..."
  3. I've been overall happy with the various changes to the LDS Library app over time. Yeah, the current selections under "men" is a bit silly. Check back in a few months and see if it's less silly. I'm a fan, for example, of the "Life Help" section, with helpful and relevant entries on self reliance, abuse, addiction, adoption, death, disabilities, divorce, education, employment, English learning, family, finances, grief, hope, media safety, mental health, physical health, pr0n, pregnant and single, preparedness, same-sex attraction, single-parent families, suicide, and transgender. The church is doing a great job, IMO, of making it's best resources swiftly available to the "we have an app for that" culture. But yeah, the sparse men section is a tad silly.
  4. Glad to be a member of a church that can still tell the difference between the two.
  5. Someone close to me experienced sexual abuse as a child, and experienced being ignored or blamed by various good LDS folk in her life, including a bishop. She has a testimony, simply put, but containing great depth: "I trust God to act like God, and man to act like man."
  6. And the beatniks that started in the late '40s. Basically, WWII ended, the US was on top of the world and full of victorious patriotic righteousness, Ezra Taft Benson was at the top of his game, and the beatniks and hippies were counter all that.
  7. Yep, looks like attendance is declining a little in the UK. (Assuming these are real leaked numbers)
  8. Perhaps the only reason they were publishing anything in the first place, was a defensive reaction to Dan Peterson walking by with his raised eyebrow. Now he's retired, the pressure isn't there any more.
  9. A few months after 9/11, a local Mosque in our area offered an open house, which I attended. Part of the presentation included a very strong, very loud, black Muslim lady who talked about the burqa. She told us in no uncertain terms there wasn't a man alive who could make her dress in a way she didn't want to, and her burqa was a testament to her faith in Allah, an indication of her willing submission to Him, and if anyone thought different she was more than happy to fight them over the issue right then and there. We all leaned back in our chairs from this powerfully-presented opinion and said "yes ma'am". I haven't paid the notion a second thought since. Yes, I know about throwing acid in the faces of young girls caught outside with uncovered heads, and closing schools for girls, and honor killings, and genital mutilation, and all that. That's horrible. But from what I can tell, the burqa and hijab are ways for women to show submission to God's will, and protect their virtue, and be chaste and pure, and all that. I'm not gonna smack talk such a thing. Forcing people to do what they don't want to, is out for me. Either in Islam, or my church. If my daughters wish to behave or dress certain ways, there may be certain consequences. But I'm not a big fan of force. From where I'm standing, the acid and killings and whatnot is force, and whatever I come up with as punishment is a consequence. Your mileage may vary. I will answer to my God on my decision here, not any of y'all.
  10. I remember reading Spaulding's Manuscript Found. Nobody liked my offered contributions to anti-mormonism, which amounted to two things: First, pointing out that the word adieu appears in it. Second, we find the notion of Lamanites growing white in it. Honestly, I can't imagine why the Tanners never interviewed me. At the very least, you would have thought Loftes Tryk would have made a book out of those two revelations. I guess it sounded too much like a pirate tale for them. Maybe they were too late to discover that Hyrum's nephew's pet cat once ran down the same alleyway where Spaulding's cousin's classmate once got lost.
  11. Oh man. Not to belabor the point, but this thread really is good for my soul. A guy shows up asking for the best explanation a critic can come up with to explain the writing of the BoM. 3 pages in, and we've got arguments about how thick beaver fur hats are, and if enough light would shine through them to have people be able to see an entire day's worth of text that Joseph had hidden there on note cards. As someone who groaned under the burden of an artist's depiction of Captain Moroni riding a tapir, I really have to say the tables have turned. "CFR that no one saw him or heard him load up his hat with 3x5 cards". Pure gold. @Fether, do you think you have your answer yet?
  12. Heh. No clearer proof of the absolute uncontested victory of apologetics on the topic has ever been uttered. Now if you don't mind, Imma go reminisce about the massive epic online battles of the '90's and 2000's. Seeking's statement is truly the best reward for all the efforts made back then.
  13. Human nature (as evidenced by human history) is an interesting range of stuff. On one end, there's the stuff we'll all decide to do differently, and at the other end is stuff we would fight and do violence rather than change. It seems like no matter where you go in history, one story remains the same: When it comes to forcing people to change, governments/churches/dominions/principalities have a heck of a lot less ability to do it than they think they do. I figure humans will largely go back to what they were doing before, and just accepting that humanity has a slight titch higher mortality rate than before. Old and infirm and frail will continue to die, just like they have for as long as there have been humans. We'll continue to try to refine COVID response, just like we've done for cancer and aids and auto crashes and every other significant source of human death.
  14. I’ve been running the zoom camera for more than 15 months now. We’ve had between 5-85% online attendance, depending on the local conditions. Just about everybody who habitually attends remotely, has come at least once or twice. Especially right after the successful vaccine rollout when everyone was sharing the CDC and president’s big banner tweet about ok for fully vaccinated to remove their mask. One interesting thing-I started online broadcasts with emailing the zoom link to all adults. A month later, I expanded the distribution list to all members -and we picked up 3-6 youth who hadn’t been attending before. Since then, my most regular online attendees have been the frail elderly couple, and someone named something like “rainbow dragon”. I hope I find out who that is at some point. I assume one of our Young Women. Most reliable zoom attendee by far.
  15. Here's how it's coming down in my ward. The latest 1st presidency statement says "To limit exposure to these viruses, we urge the use of face masks in public meetings whenever social distancing is not possible. To provide personal protection from such severe infections, we urge individuals to be vaccinated." My stake emailed everyone, linking to that statement and quoting D&C 21:4-6. They say "Each ward should do their best to accommodate social distancing guidelines but please recognize that will not be possible in most situations. If distancing isn’t possible or not being followed then face masks are urged to be worn. Those administering the sacrament are urged to wear face masks." The bishop is a good man but not computer savvy. He emailed everyone with a vaguely worded summary, and mentioned something about distancing that could be interpreted different ways. He misspelled "bishop". We'll get through it.
  16. I see the thing more symbolically. If I am the guy losing his cool, there is a button being pushed somewhere. Rarely is there a button pusher of malicious intent involved. Most often, someone does or says something that pokes a 'tender spot' in our emotional selves. A core belief is threatened or attacked. Sometimes we don't even recognize what the core belief is, or what the threat or attack is. Example: You're driving in a car, and turn a corner. In your rear-view mirror, you notice a fast car coming seemingly out of nowhere, have to brake so hard the tires screech, to avoid hitting you. You are immediately embarrassed and apologetic. The car swerves around you, and when the driver gets along side you, you see he has rolled down his window so he can stick his middle finger out at you. He yells "Hey d*ps$@t! Pay attention before you [beep]ing kill someone!" Your embarrassment turns either into fear or white hot anger. The core belief that is attacked: You are a good person and a reasonably safe driver. The attack, is the accusation that you are a clueless threat to public safety. The loud angry guy doesn't even really have malicious intent, you just inadvertently pushed his button by pulling out in front of him and almost causing an accident. From my teens to early '30's, the most white hot seething I ever got, was while driving. The solution I eventually discovered, was to build a tiny little buffer in my brain that allowed me to see things as the other driver, before forming my emotional response. Nowadays, I'm able to pretty quickly say things like "Yeesh - if I was that guy, I'd be mad at me too." I make a mental note to be more careful. This is instead of moving to white hot anger. And if it's a good day, I'm still able to feel a little apologetic. We are humans, and whether we're wonderfully built by a creator, or a product of millions of years of evolution, or both, we have a fight-or-flight response. Here - this is what happens: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amygdala_hijack
  17. I guess to make sure we're talking about the same thing: I'm using "steamrollering" as a phrase that describes the parent just ditching common politeness and acting, not quite aggressively, but "loudly bluntly". The person being 'steamrollered' gets a clear message that continuing to press is going to be a very unpleasant experience. I do not claim it is the right or best response. It's certainly not the most patient or longsuffering response. It's just the response that works well for my wife when some clueless idiot pushes her too far about her own kid. And I'm suggesting the OP's friend may wish to consider developing a skin thick enough to employ such a countermeasure if conditions warrant. Which they rarely will. So, to respond to your question: There are a handful of ways to charitably and calmly push back, and most of the time, they'll be of more use. The OP's friend may wish to push back, but I'm not suggesting the OP's friend steamroller the bishop. I'm suggesting that she keep such a response in her toolbag for future encounters. Autistic behavior is often misunderstood by members of the public. People are sometimes left with the notion "I need to do something, but I don't know what." In those cases, they may just decide what needs to happen is to go yell at the mom for being a bad parent and not controlling their kid. In such situations, dealing with an innocent child and an aggressive clueless person pushing something that isn't helpful, my wife's 3 step program never fails: 1- Ignore the person, don't respond. 2- Increase physical distance between yours and them. 3- If pursued, go full Mamma-bear and provide a disproportionate response, ratcheting things up to a level just shy of physical altercation. (If you're a sinner like me, you might recognize the acronym FA&FA, but "do you wanna step outside and settle this" are equivalents to a loud "BACK OFF!"). Does this help?
  18. I see emotions like a centrifuge. And not like one of those dinky little medical centrifuges that we use to separate blood samples into it's component parts. But like one of those 20 ton uranium enrichment centrifuges that are as big as a building, used to separate uranium from tons of rock. Follow the analogy with me: These massive centrifuges require a power source to begin spinning. Emotions require a trigger, and fuel. You can see your emotions rising, and disconnect the power source. But once that thing is spinning, once the emotion is ramped up, you can't stop it from spinning. Your only choices are to feed it power to make it stronger, or disconnect the power source, so it can slowly spin down over time. You can see power sources coming and avoid them. Either way, you need to figure out what to do with yourself while it's spinning. That part is what Brigham Young means by "control". Learning what ramps you up, and why, is critical to keeping yourself from getting overly worked up in the first place. It won't always work, which is when it's time for that reasonableness stuff you mentioned.
  19. After mastering my anger, I was then able to move on to the good questions. 1. Without a dictionary explain anger. One of many emotions which spring from a core belief, in reaction to something that threatens that core belief 2. Do you feel in control when angry or is the opposite or a combination? It's a range. At one end, I'm miffed. Ticked off. Not happy. At the other end, the next morning my wife wants to talk about what I said the night before, and I honestly don't even remember saying that stuff. 3. Have you ever wondered "Why did I get so angry about that"? Yes. It took a little counseling, a lot of reading and introspection, even some group support classes before I finally understood the sources of my wonky emotions. 4. At some point do most persons who believe in God get angry at him? I know many do. I don't know how many. I don't think I ever have. I don't judge folks who do.
  20. Here are the two things that have helped me the most: First, Brigham Young was more than a prophet of the Lord, he was also a bro who gets it. https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/teachings-brigham-young/chapter-28?lang=eng Second, good old fashioned caring too much about what others think about me: I don't wanna be that guy in the green shirt. And the stupid irrational fear that I'll look like him and people will laugh at me, has always been stronger than the stupid irrational anger. That's me - friggin' Chuck Norris ninja with ice in his veins on the outside, emotionally turbulent inside.
  21. What exactly would be the loving and righteous way of steamrolling over the Bishop? The bishop wasn't being rude, annoying, or persistently stupid. Hence, steamrolling isn't warranted. Context!
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