Dang , I was just telling calm about my aunt who refused to go in public bathrooms in fear of a black women had sat on the toilet seat. I can remember being in at a rest stop in the mountains of Virginia, I was probably 10 or so, and my aunt almost peed her pants because she wouldn't go in the bathroom. They made us kids go get drinks out if the vending machine so they could pull the van around back past the semi trucks so my aunt could squat down an pee on the ground. I'll never forget that day, it's seared into my brain.
I don't know why some people are transgender. I personally feel like some people are possibly born with a chemica imbalance, possibly something happened in the womb. I also feel like some trans people are possibly dealing with certain trauma that happened to them and identifying as a different gender than what they see in the mirror because somehow they think it will relieve pain they can't figure out how get rid of. But that's all speculation on my part.
One thing I do know though is the pain and torment they live with daily because of feeling confused is probably more than I could bear. There's a lot of emotion being discussed on this subject, number one being fear of the unknown. Fear is an important emotion, it's helped keep us humans around for a long time on this floating rock. Fear is used by other people to control what we think in every part of our lives. Our parents use fear to raise us, some religions use fear to control us, politicians use fear to gain votes. Our brains are wired to make sure we stay alive at all cost, that's why change comes slowly for us humans. What we've been discussing for the past day and a half when it comes to the transgender issue has more to do with us heterosexuals understanding someone who is transgender isn't a threat to us or our loved ones, more than it has to do with figuring out why someone is trans.
I've said this before but I'm going to say it again. I knew my daughter was gay before she did, I accepted it before she did. Being a very conservative Mormon guy I realized what was in store for my daughter years before she ever told my wife and I she was gay. So I started preparing her for the day she wanted to tell us she is attracted to women. But one thing I've never told you about is how I had to prepare myself. I knew if I wanted to be there for my daughter for the rest of my life I had to come to grips with the fact that if my daughter was actually gay, I basically had two choices, accept her for who she is or risk losing a very important relationship because of a circumstance I can't control. So I chose to accept her. It's the best decision I have ever made in my life so far. The hardest part though was changing my long held perception of what a gay person really was. Early in my life they were pure sin, agents of the devil. I was taught this early on. I had to come to grips with what was actually real, and what I was actually letting fear tell me what I percieved as "real".
I view the transgender issue the same way. Most of what we hear from both sides of the isle is total bullxxxx when it comes to the transgender issue. The issue is a political pawn and they're using it to scare and manipulate people on both sides. The actual people who suffer the most are the transgender individuals themselves.
Personally, I think it's best to understand that we don't understand.