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  1. This deserves a mic drop. I’ve been reading through all of these posts but this is the best rebuttal to Grug’s baseless assertion that I’ve seen. I often felt “less than” when I joined the church because I was a working mom. Yes, it was out of necessity, but I also wanted to work. Both my daughter and my son are hard-workers and I think it comes from seeing both parents work hard. Now, after 30 years in the same industry, I’m very proud of my accomplishments, and I’m so thankful I grew up in a time of greater equality for women.
  2. https://www.deseret.com/utah/2023/1/17/23559460/michael-haight-obituary-taken-down-newspaper-website-utah-family-murdered
  3. A snippet from The Salt Lake Tribune. I believe this is the mom’s brother: Brett Earl added that he wants the loss to also encourage anyone who is experiencing distress to seek help. Tausha’s husband and the children’s father, Michael Haight, was not buried with the family or mentioned at the funeral. After the services, though, Earl told reporters that he is sorry for the “profound loss” of Haight’s parents and wished them peace. “This is a story of two families hurt and broken,” he said.
  4. Obit for mom and kids. I need to give my grandkids a hug now 😢 https://www.serenitystg.com/m/obituaries/Tausha-Haight/Memories
  5. I accidentally hit the down button and it won’t go away. Hopefully, it is a refresh issue. I was too young to report him on my own and since I didn’t tell anyone, I was probably in my 20s before I really thought about it. I think by that time sexual abuse was being talked about more and children were being listened to and encouraged to tell an adult this type of thing. It was probably too late by that time, but I also didn’t want to hurt my sister. Thinking back, I should have told her.
  6. I remember being abused by my brother-in-law at his house when I was eight. I remember I didn’t tell my mom ( I was ashamed) but I cried so much she stopped taking me there. I am 59 now. It will never be forgotten, but now I can talk about it dispassionately because I worked through it and I don’t internalize it any more. Make no mistake, it really messed me up when I was younger. I think the statute of limitations should be longer.
  7. Bishops can say some absurd things. I hope you aren’t miserable:)
  8. I can believe with my whole heart that this church is true. I can be temple-worthy and do all within my power to be the best Latter-day Saint I can be. What I can’t do is give someone else my testimony. I can teach it, I can share it, and maybe even lend it out for a time, but they must get their own. If the don’t then I respect that. Perhaps they have a different path to walk.
  9. Same here. I also hear members saying that people leave because they want to sin. I think that way of thinking is so simplistic and judgmental. My son left when he was in his teens. As I said in another post, I am proud of the man he has become. As far as I can tell, he is not living a life of sin nor does he want to. Same with my daughter. She left in her twenties, and it wasn’t an overnight decision because she just wanted to party. She thinks things through before making decisions. I am proud to have raised a daughter who thinks for herself and I support her reasons for leaving.
  10. Reminds me of this quote from “A Christmas Carol.” The Ghost of Christmas Present, Charles ****ens
  11. YW and thank you for the kind words. I hope my journey can help those going through the pain of a loved one leaving the church. It really does get better:)
  12. My son told me he wasn’t sure he believed any more when he was 16. To say I was shocked would be an understatement. However, he kept going to church ( I didn’t really give him a choice and he didn’t fight me on it). He also earned his Eagle Scout, went to BYU for a year and then went on a mission to Colombia. About six months in I knew by his letters that he was having a hard time. He flew to the capital to talk to his mission President about his doubts. Eight months in, he finally sent me a letter saying he couldn’t teach what he didn’t believe. I know my son and his tendency to get depressed so I told him to come home, and the mission President also said he should come home. Everyone from the stake President to the bishop and ward members were so good to him when he came back. He stayed in the ward awhile longer but he stopped going after a few months. He is 32 now and hasn’t changed his mind. He considers himself either an atheist or agnostic. However, I have changed over the years. I no longer grieve the fact that he doesn’t believe, because I am so proud of the man he has become. He is a child of God and I know God loves him as much or more than I do. It’s ok if our children use their agency and make different decisions than we would make. Just love them and leave the rest in their Heavenly Father’s hands.
  13. I think Joseph Smith would tell some of them to lighten up. I think he would get along well with Elder Uchtdorf.
  14. Amen! We took a cruise out of Galveston and we were in the middle of the gulf when Hurricane Harvey hit. We couldn’t go back to Galveston so they rerouted us to New Orleans so we rented a car to get home. Then my husband rented another car to drive to Galveston to pick our car up at the port. He said the devastation was horrific:(
  15. I live in North Texas but I’ve been to Galveston several times. I love it there!
  16. I wanted the option of being part of the Neptune Memorial Reef but it is very expensive. I’ll just let them scatter me in the gulf at Galveston. I like the idea of staying close to Texas, although, who knows where my ashes will end up:)
  17. Yes! I will be cremated, but I figure my spirit will find my resurrected body. I love the idea of a huge db up there. We may find that instead of everyone wearing robes and looking like they lived 2000 years ago., the will wear clothing that is far advanced (if they wear clothing, lol)
  18. What if they were male and a POC dressed in baggy pants and a hoody? I don’t think they would even be given two days of standing in the same restricted area. Maybe opinions are clouded because she was a white “Christian” woman.
  19. I have never defined faithful members as those who hold temple recommends. Seems like an exclusionary and arrogant stance.
  20. I learned thee/thou in the Church of Christ. It just comes naturally to me since that was the way I was taught as a tot. But I believe God just wants to hear from us. I don’t think He stands on ceremony. Ymmv
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