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  1. wave slider thank you SO much for this! It is a wonderful reply and I am just now seeing it, I am so sorry! Thank you so much, you are so right and this makes so much sense to me and gives much peace, thank you!


  2. 2 hours ago, bluebell said:

    I wasn't the person who thought of this (and sadly i can't remember who it was, maybe John Bytheway?  Brad Wilcox?  I don't know) but whenever i think of that verse in 2 nephew 25, i always follow it with Alma 24:11

    "And now behold, my brethren, since it has been all that we could do (as we were the most lost of all mankind) to repent of all our sins and the many murders which we have committed, and to get God to take them away from our hearts, for it was all we could do to repent sufficiently before God that he would take away our stain—"

    And then i think of 3 Ne. 12:26

    "And blessed are all they who do hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they shall be filled with the Holy Ghost."

    So, using those scriptures, all I can do is to have faith in Christ and repent, and hunger and thirst after following Him even though i'm not perfectly doing so, (because someone who is hungering and thirsting after something does not possess it yet, they just want it really bad!).

    When I interpret 2 Ne 25:23 I say in my head "By grace am I saved after.... I have faith in Christ, repent of my sins, and desire to follow Him."  That helps me not take that scripture to the extreme (like satan would like us all to do).  Because, really and truly, that's all I can do to affect my salvation.  Nothing else I do affects it.  If i do those things I stay in my baptismal covenant and am saved.  It's pretty plain and simple.

    And as an aside-I used to believe that God didn't do anything for us that we could do for ourselves.  Because of some experiences I've had (one in particular where God clearly helped me out even though I could have handled it on my own and was completely prepared to) i've come to realize that that is one of those platitudes that get's passed around so much among believers that we forget it's only someone's opinion of how God acts and not necessarily correct. :)

    Love this! Thank you so much!!

  3. 1 hour ago, Tacenda said:

    I read your opening post yesterday, so forgive me if you mentioned this. Have you had your thyroid checked? Like Calm, I too suffer with a thyroid condition, to the point that I cannot drive on the freeway, usually just side roads, or roads with a speed of 65 mph or less because my anxiety leaves me nearly frozen with fear.

    I also worry too much about my children's safety. Or my being the fault of someone getting hurt. I often have to bite my tongue because I am super annoying when I'm a worry wart. I remember once when going on a trip with other couples to the mountains and staying in a cabin, that one of the couple's mother insisted that they not go because she had a strong feeling that something will go wrong. So the rest of us went without them, BTW it was an Elder's Quorum Presidency and their wives, so no real worry of drinking etc. We had a great time nevertheless. But I see myself in this mother all the time. Constantly worried someone in my family is going to get hurt. 

    Any way, just know you're not alone, and this is a great board to get some suggestions or support from.

    Thank you! I have had my thyroid checked, but not recently, I will definitely look into this. My whole family has some type of anxiety so I know that it is genetic as well. Thank you so much!

  4. 1 hour ago, bluebell said:

    This is so true and an important point.

    Welcome Summer, I hope you find some relief.  I know with my kids, i used to really struggle with the 'what if's'.  Like "what if say they can go swimming and then one of them drowns?  How horrible will I feel to know I gave them permission?!?' kind of thing.  I hate the idea of those kinds of regrets, to the point that sometimes i just wouldn't do something just to make sure I wouldn't regret doing it if something went wrong.

    But i've learned that that's no kind of life.  I have to believe that as long as i'm not being negligent that God is in control, and if something happens, that He will give me the strength to get thru it. It's a lot of work trying to be in control of everything all the time.  It's so stressful because it's a mirage and our minds subconsciously know it.  It's like trying to be in control of fog or smoke.  You're fighting a losing battle no matter how hard you fight. :)

    Thank you so much for the welcome and for your kind words. I agree with you that it is no kind of life...I know that Heavenly Father does not want me to live in fear. I want so much to live out of faith...it is just like you said...I am trying to control everything because I have taken the "do all you can do" to an extreme...I don't know what Heavenly Father expects of me and where He will take over so I do ALL that I can do and I know I go overboard...I just don't know where the balance is.

  5. Thank you Garden Girl, you are so right. I am so glad that i posted because you have all opened my eyes and brought up so many great points. I so appreciate everyones kindness and compassion, thank you!

  6. These are great points again, thank you Calm! You are so right, I know that Heavenly Father does not want us to suffer. I know that He is aching for us to learn the lessons that he so desperately wants and needs us to learn so we can stop suffering. Thank you for helping point me in the right direction so I can get myself closer to where He needs me to be!

  7. 16 minutes ago, Calm said:

    And if your body can't heal itself and so often it can't because you don't have the selfishness or desire to put yourself first and the rest of the world a far second and that is a good thing.  So make use of the gifts God has given us through medicine to make healing easier, and if not actual healing, at least enduring.

    Thank you so much!! You make great points!

  8. That is an interesting way to look at it...maybe in some way I should be grateful for my husband's frustration...it does open my eyes wider to the issue. And way to go on getting the better grade, bragging rights are always good :)


    Yes, I am definitely considering speaking to someone for sure, I do think it will be a big help! And that is good to know that it can feel off online at times, thank you for all of your help, you are great!

  9. 9 minutes ago, Calm said:


    Thank you Calm< you have been so helpful! That is a great idea to go an look up articles. I know that I have anxiety, but I always second guess myself thinking that I can get by, that I am doing okay and that the way that is think is "Normal". I have felt pretty depressed lately as well, but again I think that I am fine and it isn't "that bad". Thank you again!

  10. Thank you Duncan, I am so glad you are feeling better!! I do try to share my feelings/worries with my husband, but he often gets frustrated with me telling me how crazy my worrying  is and how it isn't fair to him...so then I get embarrassed and feel guilty and don't want to share with anyone. 






















  11. Thank you PaPa...I have often told myself that by being so cautious with my kids that I could end up hindering them and I do not want to do that...I have recognized this and I making sure to not hold them back in any way.

  12. Thank you Calm, I appreciate your thoughts very much. I do believe that I have terrible anxiety...but do you not think that in this case I also need to choose to have faith to overcome my anxiety? 

    I am so sorry for all of your struggles, you have been through so much and you sound very strong!

    What did you mean by your last sentence in parentheses?

    Thank you for your advice, it is very helpful!

  13. Thank you JLHPROF...It is so hard for me too, so hard! I know that I have anxiety and I always have so I think this is just something that I will struggle with, maybe I should take something for my anxiety or talk to someone and I would feel better.

    I will go and look for your thread, thank you for mentioning it! I don't think I am lacking in love, I truly don't...but you are right on about that Scripture...I feel like I love people with all of my heart...so I always think "perfect FAITH casteth out fear." I do TRUST Heavenly Father with all of my heart...I just want to know how much does He expect me to do? Or I blame myself for so many things because I feel like I can control things to an extent and so when they go wrong I blame myself. In those instances I want to know if it was God's will for that to happen or did it happen because I made a poor choice? And that is where I get stressed, anxious and depressed. If I knew that Heavenly Father was in completely control I would feel so much more peace...but I put so much stress on my own shoulders that I feel overwhelmed and sad almost all of the time...I am wearing myself out.

  14. I don't even know if I am going to be able to explain what I am thinking...but I am going to try because this is so hard for me to comprehend from a spiritual perspective. What is faith? I have horrible anxiety and I worry about everyone all of the time, I am always anxious and want to be able to make sure that everyone is always okay...I wear myself out mentally, emotionally and physically. I know that I live out of fear and not faith and I DO NOT want to live this way, I am miserable living this way. I do trust Heavenly Father completely...however...you know how "they" always say "do what you can and Heavenly Father will do there rest? Well I overwhelm myself by doing absolutely EVERYTHING I can!! I drive my teenagers anywhere that seems even remotely scary for their friends to take them, I watch my younger children like an absolute hawk, I feel like I have to be 50 steps ahead of everyone all of the time. BUT as my children are getting older I realize that I have to let them go...I have to let them grow and learn...so if they are asked to go with one of their friends and they need to drive on the freeway for example...do I drive them (because I CAN take them and I am always willing to) OR do I allow them to go with their friends and have faith that Heavenly Father will protect them?

    For example...in an instance where a mom contracts the zika virus during pregnancy...some baby are born with birth defects and some babies are not born with birth defects. In these instances can we have faith that exactly what was "meant to happen" from a spiritual perspective happened? Can we have faith in Heavenly Father in these cases? Should we have faith and still get pregnant if we know that we can very likely be exposed to the pika virus and that it could potentially harm the baby? Or should we not get pregnant to avoid anything potentially harming the baby? What does it mean to have faith in these cases? What would our Heavenly Father have us do?

    Does any of this make any sense? It is so hard to explain how I feel...are we punished by Heavenly Father by not doing enough? Will He protect us if we are meant to be protected? How do we live with faith and not with fear?

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