"I was never attracted to girls, until Alyssa came into my life. … The more time I spent with her, the more we fell in love. Then, I started wanting to kiss her, like a lot. I wanted to do more," Johanson said. "I had never had those feelings for a woman before, and she remains the only woman to whom I am sexually attracted."
The two were married in the LDS Oakland Temple and now have a young son.
But they don’t feel supported by activists, even in the church, Johanson said. "The gay-rights movement no more represents me just because I am gay than the feminist movement represents my wife because she is female."
Critics presume that attraction naturally leads to a desire for same-sex relationships, but that is not always the case, he said. "There are many faithful Latter-day Saints who have overcome their desire for same-sex relationships. LDS Family Services estimates there are four or five members in every ward with SSA, and about half have a temple marriage and kids."
It’s not about "changing your attractions," Johanson said in an interview, "it’s about managing them."
After the speech, many attendees shared their stories — people who are married to someone with same-sex attraction, someone whose son has it, and others.
This is the kind of attitude we're looking for/shooting for when someone in the Ward or Stake is suffering from homosexuality.