Finally, I need to address the concerns expressed by mfbukowski regarding the Catholic position, as quoted from St. John of Damascus which affirmed that marriage was honorable but that perpetual celibacy was even more so:
bukowski
The problem with this however as an ethical statement is that if everyone did it, the human race would cease to exist.
3DOP
No worries there mate. We know that it is only for a few. And for the many, we don't even allow artificial birth control!
bukowski
I believe in a morality which applies to everyone everywhere. In my opinion, mores should be universal; your moms were right when they asked you as a child "What if everyone did that?". I think that such any other approach makes no sense.
3DOP
I don't recall mom saying that. But when applied to picking a grape without paying for it in the produce department, it shows great wisdom. But this isn't about choosing between good and evil but between two great goods. Jesus says that it is for the few.
bukowski
Even as a Catholic, I could not defend such an ethic this way. I think it makes more sense to hold, for example, that priests dedicate themselves to celibacy as a special covenant between themselves and God as a voluntary gift perhaps, to help themselves overcome their bodily desires and dedicate themselves more fully to God.
3DOP
What ethic? Nobody is considered a second class citizen because they are married. Priests and religious could never look down on us either. They all have Moms and Dads. They are the product of marriage. We once had a parish priest, in fact he is the one under whom my son decided to discern if he was called to such a life. This good priest is also a good son who calls his Mom everyday, and usually more than once! Good priests are the product of good families and they know that the family and marriage is the institution through which God wills that our priests and religious are nurtured. Thanks be to God for our good priests who love us and care for us foregoing the joys that we are permitted.
It was God's will that Jesus Himself was born into a family unit composed of mother and father. There is no unequal ethic going on. We who experience the good joys of married family life just love our priests. Because we are grateful for their unequalled sacrifice on our behalf, we say that as a state of life, as a vocation, perpetual virginity is more honorable than the married state. Individually, that does not mean that they are holier or will all occupy higher places in heaven.
bukowski
That to me makes sense- it is like the LDS idea of fasting, but extended in one area for a lifetime.
3DOP
Here my friend is alluding to the priestly life of celibacy as "a special covenant...and as a voluntary gift." That is precisely what it is! There is no Catholic ethic or more which violates anyone's freedom in this matter. Further, none of the revelations to which we point in favor of celibacy approach the subject from a view that would diminish marriage, or to "cast a snare", as St. Paul says to those who are called to a married vocation. No one needs ever feel reproach or guilt for following either calling. My own son, as I mentioned above is in a period of discernment. I pray that it is God's will that he be a priest, mainly because we need priests, but even more, I pray God's will may be clearly known to him. And if he should conclude that it is not for him, he will return without anyone's disrespect.
bukowski
But to see virginity as a "higher" calling, if made universal, would extinguish the human race.
3DOP
Correct. The Albigensian heresy proposed the doctrine of devils, "forbidding to marry..." (I Tim. 4:3). They universalized that which was meant for the few. But simply because the Albigensians overemphasized the true doctrine, is no reason to abolish perpetual celibacy as a voluntary act of sacrifice, which is the essence of priestly activity. The Albigensians turned out to be rather zealous. Things got political, which is to say they became violent and one of the Crusades was eventually directed at the suppression of such a pernicious doctrine.
bukowski
The implication is that we are not equal before the Lord. There are those who are called to be more Godly and the others of us to be less so. Yet those called to be "less" indeed are indispensable to those who are called to be "higher" or those who are virgins would not even have been born.
3DOP
We are nothing if not unequal. In every way. Our natural gifts and talents are unique to ourselves as is the environment into which we are born. Only God could know how to correctly judge the degrees of merit or chastisement we deserve. If on top of that, we posit that certain positions in the Body of Christ are more honourable than others it is not remarkable. In I Corinthians 12, St. Paul is explaining why God has given us such an inequality of gifts and callings:
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For the body also is not one member, but many. If the foot should say, because I am not the hand, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body? And if the ear should say, because I am not the eye, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body? If the whole body were the eye, where would be the hearing? If the whole were hearing, where would be the smelling? But now God hath set the members every one of them in the body as it hath pleased him. And if they all were one member, where would be the body? But now there are many members indeed, yet one body. And the eye cannot say to the hand: I need not thy help; nor again the head to the feet: I have no need of you. Yea, much more those that seem to be the more feeble members of the body, are more necessary. And such as we think to be the less honourable members of the body, about these we put more abundant honour; and those that are our uncomely parts, have more abundant comeliness. But our comely parts have no need: but God hath tempered the body together, giving to that which wanted the more abundant honour, That there might be no schism in the body; but the members might be mutually careful one for another.
---I Cor. 12:14-25
According to this understanding, the Body of Christ is indeed composed of unequal parts. Equality in the members works, gifts, and honour would make a true Body, a spiritual organism, as desired by God impossible: "
But now God hath set the members every one of them in the body as it hath pleased him. And if they all were one member, where would be the body?" (v. 18, 19) The Apostle wrote this chapter to admonish his readers to avoid the kind of egalitarian thinking which you seem to be advocating bukowski.
bukowski
I see it ultimately as making the virgin class into a parasitic minority dependent on the others for their very existence.
3DOP
A parasite no. Not ultimately. Not ever. A parasite offers no benefit to its host. But yes, there exists a mutuality of dependence whereby those of us with an excess of material gifts, are more than compensated by those who can favor us by virtue of their spiritual gifts. And as a class if you insist on such an expression, be assured that there is neither conflict, nor any ability for the "class" to perpetuate itself, except for the free good will of the majority.
Nobody prays to have more parasites! But we Catholics pray for more priests! And sometimes, thank God, we get to rejoice when a family member is so privileged to join priestly or religious ranks.
bukowski
I don't mean to be offensive- I am attacking the argument of celibacy being a higher calling, not the covenant of celibacy itself. If someone feels they want to be celibate, that is their decision and I have no problem with it.
3DOP
Fair enough bukowski. You know I am not offended in the least, don't you? I thank you again for your generous acceptance of celibacy as a free and even life-long covenant. I hope I have persuaded you that what you described as acceptable to you, is pretty much what it is. But with regards to your concerns about inequality and class difficulties, I disagree strongly. As Catholics view and practice the vocation to celibacy, your concerns are not necessary.
Catholics take a middle view to the question of married life. We have Mormons and many Protestants on the one hand, who continue to advocate the goodness of family life and the value of marriage much as it was understood before the times of Christ. I remember the pressure to get married before I left Baptist Bible College. I am glad I did, but it reflected an aversion to celibacy and an unbalanced emphasis on married life as an almost exclusive way to live. We have usually had Albigensians, or those like them on the other hand, who advocate the goodness of an aesthetic life of sacrifice on the other. (I think the last Shaker died recently. Yes, bukowski, universality isn't a good idea). We agree with both Albigensian and Mormon. Catholics teach that families must be perpetuated by honorable and Sacramental Marriage while acknowledging the superiority, however slight, of a priestly life of self-sacrifice and perpetual virginity. In this matter we happily enjoy "having our cake and eating it as well". We take and accept the best of what both our opponents in this subject teach.
See y'all later.
3DOP
Edited by 3DOP, 19 August 2012 - 08:52 AM.