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  1. I thought you were, but I was trying to remember if perhaps I had confused you with someone else. If it's not too much IRL info, what, and where, do you practice?
  2. Ouch! Largely, whether most any profession is honorable depends almost entirely on those who practice it. I've never met Smac97 in real life, but from what limited dealings I have had with him, I am certain that he is an honorable man and a credit to his profession. Medicine, as an ideal, is a healing, helping profession, but that does not mean that there are not those who, rather than doing what is best for their patients, are, instead, simply in it for the money.
  3. Mormon Newsroom and Suicide

    You, Sister Gui, and Mr. Farrell might be absolutely right about common core. Compared to me, you're the experts, and I am inclined to defer to you. However, reading the titles and descriptions of some of Mr. Farrell's other offerings makes me want to put on my tinfoil hat to block out the ∆-rays.
  4. Mormon Newsroom and Suicide

    I'm glad you've found peace in your life. While I doubt you mean for your comment to be taken this way, I'm reminded of Cher's repeated line from the movie Moonstruck: "Snap out of it!" You're right that a change in perspective can be beneficial. It's like, say, the difference between seeing, from a fair distance, a piece of paper with a relatively small figure drawn on it. Because you see the paper and the figure from a distance, you're free to focus on other things within your field of vision as you choose. The closer that paper gets, however, the more it obscures other things in an onlooker's field of vision until, when it finally gets close enough, it's the only thing a person can see. Behavioral disorders such as depression are like that. Others can point out all of the myriad marvelous things they can see, but even all of those wonderful things don't matter to the depressed person because of how his field of vision is dominated by (and hence is limited to, and his ability to see other things limited by) that one thing which dominates his field of vision. See also here, for what it's worth: https://greatgourdini.wordpress.com/2014/05/30/absent-or-not-perceived/
  5. Perhaps a big part of the problem could be solved simply by adding an extra question to the Temple Recommend Interview: "Do you sustain Denver C. Snuffer as a prophet, seer, and revelator, and President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and the only man on earth authorized to exercise all priesthood keys?" Yes, I know that temple worthiness, continuing faithfulness, one's standing in the Church, and apostasy are serious matters. In truth, that matter is addressed with the same question as applied to President Thomas S. Monson.
  6. Mormon Newsroom and Suicide

    Pssst! You'll be sorely disappointed! He supports the teachings of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints with respect to chastity and traditional marriage!
  7. Mormon Newsroom and Suicide

    I wrote the following some time ago. Notwithstanding its somewhat "fatalistic" tone in spots, I view it (perhaps oddly ) as life-affirming. Take it for what it's worth (or not):
  8. Mormon Newsroom and Suicide

    Not necessarily. You simply define it differently. That's fine. Vive le difference! But it's best to not claim that the goal posts aren't moving even as your interlocutors are watching them sprout legs and walk off of the field of their own accord.
  9. Mormon Newsroom and Suicide

    Drat! Two-for-two! Meh, we all have our crosses to bear! As the great philosopher, Colonel Sherman T. Potter of M*A*S*H fame, put it so well, "The best we can do is hit what's pitched." And, "If you ain't where you are, you're no place." Even if we cannot choose our circumstances, we can choose our reaction to them. I don't always do very well at that; in fact, often, I don't. I can always hope, however, that others' assessment of my performance in that regard is more generous than my own.
  10. Mormon Newsroom and Suicide

    This probably explains why I'll never be in any sort of a position to call these kinds of shots, but if I were, at the pre-camp orientation meeting several weeks in advance, I might say, "Insofar as possible [since some of us have to use technology constantly for work: I'm tethered to a phone sitting in front of a computer screen at work as I type this ], we're going on a technology fast. You'd better taper off and wean yourselves down to nothing by the time we leave for camp ..."
  11. Mormon Newsroom and Suicide

    Perhaps. But I think being "over-connected" technologically and, correspondingly, being "under-connected" in the real world is huge factor in behavioral health, both for young people and for those who are not so young.
  12. Mormon Newsroom and Suicide

    California Boy: Sometimes (relatively often, I would say) not getting married happens less by design than it happens by default, for both gay people and for straight people. As much as I might like to be married and I might wish I were married, and as much as I might be tempted, mentally, to roll my eyes and to sigh at the next tale of celestially-wedded bliss I hear in a young couple’s testimony at Church or at the next address, lesson, or comment I hear on that subject, I don’t want the Church of Jesus Christ to stop preaching the ideal simply because I haven’t achieved it yet: If that were my standard, we’d have to cut out 90% of the things I hear in church period, let alone just the things I hear about celestial marriage. I’m not given to schadenfreude. My first response upon hearing a tale from Someone Else Who is A Solitary Figure, Seemingly Sentenced to Singleness, is not to exult mentally, “Yessss! Someone else feels my pain!!!” Bwah-hah-hah-hah-hah-hah-hah-hah-hah-hah! Among the crosses I bear is that I happen to be a Confirmed Bachelor in a Church which places a high premium on marriage. I can’t speak for anyone else (and of course, the degree of pain or discomfort any person feels in any given circumstance is likely to vary based on what other crosses that person happens to bear, on his other life experiences, on his attitude and outlook, and so on), but you know what? If someone were to invite me, in the spirit of bearing my burdens that they may be light (see Mosiah 18), “Tell me about the crosses you bear,” and if the first thing I happen to mention is, “Well, I’m single, and the female of the species, collectively and in its entirety, ignores me,” I wouldn’t blame that person for being underwhelmed and saying (even if he’s polite enough to not say this in so many words), “Oh, is that all? Cry me a river!” The truth is that, while being a Confirmed Bachelor in a family church is on my list of “issues,” it’s relatively far down that list. I have a feeling that, if-and-when I am able to take care of some of the other issues on my list (though I cannot say when that might occur, if ever, at least, not in this life) the “marriage issue” will take care of itself. As much as I’m tempted to ask, “Lord, why hast Thou dealt with me thus?” about various issues (among which being single long term is only one), I simply have to remind myself of two things: (1) God is a Sovereign; and (2) He loves me. And His love for me is not contingent on what blessings He sees fit to bestow upon me or upon when He sees fit to bestow them. In fact, I’m not even given to schadenfreude for gay couples. If someone were to ask me what the positions of the Church of Jesus Christ are with respect to chastity, fidelity, and marriage, and if he were to manifest an open mind and an open heart, along with a determination to not dismiss those positions out-of-hand (as unpopular as those positions are becoming in our allegedly-enlightened society), certainly, I would have a ready answer. On the other hand, I cannot and would not force anyone else to accept my paradigm. If he chooses to enter into a gay marriage, I would hope that he and his partner find long-term happiness (as foreign as such a prospect might be to my paradigm). Yes, I could discourse at length on the prospect of that happening in the next life according to my paradigm, but, without a willing, ready, receptive audience, such discourse is unlikely to be effective. (I will not hesitate to impart Living Water to anyone who manifests a need and a desire for it, but trying to do so when such a desire is absent strikes me as the equivalent of attempting to impart Living Water through a fire hose set at full blast.) If a person I know to be gay were to manifest a desire to be faithful to the teachings of the Restored Gospel of Jesus Christ and were to ask me about his prospects for happiness in this life, I would tell him that as important as marriage is, it is not a sin qua non for such happiness. If he were to ask me about his lot in the life to come (and even if he were to tell me, “I won’t have any desire to be straight in the next life, either”) I would remind him that this is only the Second Act, that we don’t remember the First Act because of the veil of forgetfulness, and that the Third Act hasn’t happened yet. Does he have a uniquely-tough row to hoe? Perhaps, but the greater the tribulation faithfully endured, the greater the blessing that will result from such faithful endurance. As I’ve said so many times before, if we’re faithful, the Omnipotent, Omniscient, All-Loving Lord of the Universe isn’t going to have to tell any of us (straight or gay), when we get to the next life, “I know you were expecting something more, or something better, or at least something different, and I know this means that it sucks to be you, but … sorry. This is the best I could do.” Your reasoning here is fallacious: Marriage is important, but it is not a sin qua non for happiness. There are plenty of unhappy married people (both straight and gay) who, both for reasons having to do with marriage and for reasons having nothing to do with marriage, experience a lack of happiness, of fulfillment, of joy, and of love. And there are plenty of unmarried people who experience an abundance of happiness, of fulfillment, of joy, and of love, their unmarried status notwithstanding. And while you’re welcome to preach that message to anyone who will listen, I’m glad there are those, few though they may be, who won’t listen:. I’m glad that Courtney and Michelle won’t listen: http://www.ldsdaily.com/personal-lds-blog/splitting-sky-courtney-rachelle/. I’m glad that Tom Christofferson won’t listen: https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865688689/Gay-brother-of-Mormon-apostle-shares-his-spiritual-journey.html; https://www.amazon.com/That-We-May-One-Perspective-ebook/dp/B075DJ2WF6; and there are others, including some on this Board. I won't deny that it's a huge earthly sacrifice to ask someone who is gay to strive earnestly live, in full, the Restored Gospel of Jesus Christ. If someone's perspective and priorities are such that he considers that to be too big of a sacrifice, and if he seeks (and even if he happens to find) earthly happiness elsewhere, more power to him: I cannot and will not demand that he accept my paradigm. But, as I point out in my previous paragraph, gay marriage isn't a one-size-fits-all solution to the problems gays face. True. I have a sneaking suspicion that you and I would interpret that statement vastly differently, and/or that each of us would assess its implications differently, but, yes, that is a true statement. Mortality’s only the Second Act: I would never tell anyone, “Well, if you’re going to get [happiness/joy/love/fulfillment/et cetera, ad infinitum] you’d better get it here and now, because this will be your only chance.” In my opinion, that’s just as much one of Satan’s lies as, “You’ll never get any of those things” or "You'll never get any of those things if you don't get married" is. Again, that’s true, but that sneaking suspicion is back: Again, I think you and I would interpret that statement vastly differently, and/or that each of us would assess its implications differently, but yes, that is a true statement. Again, mortality’s only the Second Act, and I would never tell anyone, “Well, if you’re going to get [happiness/joy/love/fulfillment/et cetera, ad infinitum], you’d better get it here and now, because this will be your only chance.” Yes, perhaps gays do have a uniquely tough row to hoe, but that’s not the only circumstance which interferes with the attainment of all of those objectives. It’s simply one in a very long list of mortality’s innumerable vicissitudes.
  13. oops Women

    Yes, I know.
  14. Mormon Newsroom and Suicide

    Nope, no tip-toeing through the facts there!
  15. oops Women

    I'll bow out. Thanks.
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