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    Anyone else having trouble accessing local ward info. on the LDS Tools app? It seems to not load my ward information after I sync.
  2. This came up in a "meeting" tonight. Yep...people would notice and think you didn't understand CoJCoLDS doctrines.
  3. Judging intent...great. Next you will ask if you want net or gross blessings. 😕
  4. I understand why people ask. It’s part of the information gathering process. Ask questions, gain insights and information. Ponder on all you learn and then ask God what is right for you.
  5. That happened to me. Always payed on gross but then circumstances changed and I prayed about it and got the same answer you did. But, I also got the answer to pay on gross and received innumerable blessings for it at the time. It is very important to pray and receive your own revelation. And, then feel confident in what the Lord tells you to do.
  6. When you start getting too technical and into the weeds I think the whole spirit of tithing fails. It gets too crazy. We pay a lot more in taxes than what is taken out during payroll so those who pay “net” are not really paying “net” unless they are deducting sales and other property taxes. We bought a new truck this year and I payed more than $4000 in sales and registration fees. Many young people I talk to don’t ever see pay stubs anymore. It’s all online. Keep it simple, keep the spirit of the law. Don’t overwhelm with technicalities.
  7. I think everyone’s situation is very unique. I used to be a “gross” payer but now I pay on the money as I “see” it. Our situation changed so it’s impossible to pay tithing with money we don’t see or control. We would go into to debt to pay. I feel better about paying on social security and retirement funds when they are used and think it will be a more accurate accounting in the long run. There are taxpayers that even if you pay on your gross, your tax return should still be tithed on. There are people who get thousands of dollars back that they did not pay but then, how do you pay “tithing” on food stamps or Medicaid...it gets complicated and I think tithing should be simple. I pay on the cash as I get it.
  8. Thank you for providing the link...I usually don't forget but was in a rush. It is a really great quote and I will share it far and wide. So many of my friends struggle with blaming themselves for their imperfect children.
  9. We started out Come Follow Me really great but are now struggling. We were traveling and spring break and sick and the flu etc... and got off course. We were supposed to pick it up again and do better yesterday and we still failed. I had a terrible day at church and came home exhausted and my husband came to church but left early because his chronic pain condition is flaring up with a vengeance. We were really great at doing scripture study and family prayer for many, many, years but when things fell apart for us, we've never quite gotten back the same zeal. We tried so hard and did so much and still my kids stumbled. So now, we do less. We keep trying to get back to where we were and still keep failing. I still struggle with the basics that used to be so easy and routine. But, I do know God loves me and my kids and we will just keep trying but we are much more tired and weary now. I do like this quote from conference, "It is hard to understand all the reasons why some people take another path. The best we can do in these circumstances is just to love and embrace them, pray for their well-being, and seek for the Lord’s help to know what to do and say. Sincerely rejoice with them in their successes; be their friends and look for the good in them. We should never give up on them but preserve our relationships. Never reject or misjudge them. Just love them! The parable of the prodigal son teaches us that when children come to themselves, they often desire to come home. If that happens with your dear ones, fill your hearts with compassion, run to them, fall on their neck, and kiss them, like the father of the prodigal son did." https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2019/04/11soares?lang=eng He then ended his talk with a story of a single mother who raised who kids perfectly in her trying circumstances and they're all amazing and then I felt inadequate again. I have a hard time with stories of perfect CoJCoLDS families because then I internalize and blame myself for my children's choices. I have learned this is self-destructive. I have learned that my children's choices are not "about me." I have learned to try and exorcise those thoughts from my head. They don't help me as a try to develop my own spiritual self. But, it is a battle I wage all the time. I know many who are in this mid-life mothering/spiritual crisis as our kids struggle and stray. Hang in there!
  10. There are a lot of former students at the rally.
  11. This story is spreading. Picked up by the New York Times. In PR wars it’s not the size of the crowd but the attention/press they get that matters. I study news cycles and how stories spread. A real fascinating one to study is the beginnings of the Trump/Russia narrative. The rise of Barrack Obama too. We are all being manipulated by the media. The Covington kids and the Kavanaugh hearings. Really fascinating. The Joe Biden handsy stories too. Those had been around for years and now suddenly, it’s making headlines in major stories. Who is trying to take Biden out before he announces? Amy Klobuchar was also hit with friendly fire stories about being a mean boss. Sad to say but BYU being portrayed as “mean” will make it to print. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2019/04/12/us/byu-honor-code.amp.html “Ms. Draughon, 24, kept her concerns about the honor code quiet until she had left school, but now her Honor Code Storiesaccount on Instagram has attracted more than 34,000 followers and generated nearly 200 tales of punishment meted out by the office charged with enforcing the code. “Nobody talks about the Honor Code Office on campus because they’re terrified,” Ms. Draughon said. “The code has been weaponized. That’s not the culture you need at a religious university.” Here is the AP story that will get picked by local papers. https://www.apnews.com/fd6bef12f7a046f48b848b8508a793e8
  12. Yes, but I did wonder if current students, due to the honor code, would not want to participate. Hard to know either way but people seem to be more willing to provide anonymous stories. It takes a lot more bravery to publicly attend an event and be an activist.
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