I've learned that SO many people feel lonely, even when it appears they have a great social life. Prayers for you! What kind of hobbies are you interested in? Maybe there's a group you can join?
I have quite a few good friends, but I still feel very alone in my struggles. I'm so burned out and I feel like I'm always doing special things for my family, but it's just not returned to me. I've been done bending over backwards and I keep wondering, "Don't they see I don't plan their birthdays for weeks anymore?" Maybe they think I've gotten more practical, but no. I feel unappreciated. I am the initiator of everything. FYI to whoever is reading, when your wife asks, "Do you want to go on a date with me?" "I guess" is a lame answer. Not planning dates ever for your wife is lame and it's soul crushing. It doesn't have to cost money. It just takes a little thoughtfulness and showing a desire to want to spend time with her. Can't afford a babysitter? Put the kids to bed and plan something for her. It's the effort and the thought that counts - not money. When we were dirt poor, I made an anniversary meal using food from the storehouse, including cornbread with heart shapes cut out and I filled it with strawberry jam. When you don't continue courting your wife, it's starts to feel like you're business partners coordinating your schedules for kid activities, carpools, etc.. When one person plans dates, it feels like the other goes out of obligation.